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I made a big mistake sending NUDES even tho I am a minor.

Hello, the other day My parent's weren't home and I was on a mobile game where I met a sketchy guy. He claimed to be 19 and I said I was 16 or 17 ( I am 15) and we left the game to go talk on Snapchat instead. I can't remember who asked first, but I ended up sending him nudes and so did he in return (I wasn't even interested in him). I quickly realised that was really messed up, so I blocked him without saying anything. The next day, I was talking to my school councillor and I accidentally hinted to the 'incident'. She realised it was very important and told me that I was a victim of something very illegal. She then had to tell her Safeguarding team (includes my science teacher) and the principle and the vice principle (also my drama teacher). Now she had called the police and told my parents about it. They are very, very upset. And I feel really really bad. How bad of a situation did I put myself in?!
Original post by Anonymous
Hello, the other day My parent's weren't home and I was on a mobile game where I met a sketchy guy. He claimed to be 19 and I said I was 16 or 17 ( I am 15) and we left the game to go talk on Snapchat instead. I can't remember who asked first, but I ended up sending him nudes and so did he in return (I wasn't even interested in him). I quickly realised that was really messed up, so I blocked him without saying anything. The next day, I was talking to my school councillor and I accidentally hinted to the 'incident'. She realised it was very important and told me that I was a victim of something very illegal. She then had to tell her Safeguarding team (includes my science teacher) and the principle and the vice principle (also my drama teacher). Now she had called the police and told my parents about it. They are very, very upset. And I feel really really bad. How bad of a situation did I put myself in?!


Hi there,

Sorry to hear you are going through this.

I wanted to give you some information you may find useful.

If you’ve ever sent something that you didn’t mean to or now regret here’s how to deal with it:
- Stay calm and act quickly. If you’re worried about something that’s gotten out, the faster you act, the easier it is to manage the situation.
- It’s really important to talk to someone and ask for help. Family, friends or professionals want to make sure you’re safe, but in order to do that they’ll have to know all the facts. Be completely honest let them know what happened and how it’s making you feel.
- If your image or video is posted on a social network, you can request for them to remove it. Be as specific as you can. For this to work, you’ll need to show that it breaks the site’s terms and conditions.
- Don’t let the fear of getting in trouble stop you from reporting it. Any sexting-related law is there first and foremost to protect young people. The National Police Chiefs’ Council have stated that young people will be treated as victims. They believe that sexting should be dealt with on a case by case basis.
-If you’re worried that you’ve been groomed or coerced into sending the content, you can make a report to CEOP (Child Exploitation and Online Protection)
-Check out this guide So You Got Naked Online‘ from the UK Safer Internet Centre for more advice on sexting and what to do if it gets out of hand.
-You can always use Childline and the Internet Watch Foundation’s Report Remove tool. This helps you to report an image or video shared online and see if it’s possible to get it removed. Once the report has been made, it keeps you updated on any progress and provides support and feedback where necessary.

Hope you find this useful and please come into ATCS if you have any further questions.

Look after yourself.

Thanks,
Wilykit
Original post by Anonymous
Hello, the other day My parent's weren't home and I was on a mobile game where I met a sketchy guy. He claimed to be 19 and I said I was 16 or 17 ( I am 15) and we left the game to go talk on Snapchat instead. I can't remember who asked first, but I ended up sending him nudes and so did he in return (I wasn't even interested in him). I quickly realised that was really messed up, so I blocked him without saying anything. The next day, I was talking to my school councillor and I accidentally hinted to the 'incident'. She realised it was very important and told me that I was a victim of something very illegal. She then had to tell her Safeguarding team (includes my science teacher) and the principle and the vice principle (also my drama teacher). Now she had called the police and told my parents about it. They are very, very upset. And I feel really really bad. How bad of a situation did I put myself in?!


hey sweet, I had a similar situation when I was your age in school, im 19 now, I told one of my friends what had happened, and they told our head of year, safeguarding got involved and so did my parents, eventually it blew over and it was forgotten about. At the end of the day it was a mistake and something that you shouldn't be doing again with someone of that age, and its also a really big issue to lie about your age, its dangerous for you and for the other person, they could go to prison. Regardless of all the facts, it will be ok, and it will blow over and be forgotten about. It's obviously not a good situation to be in and from experience I would not reccomend getting yourself into this situation again x how are you feeling about it? I know its awful to have people now about stuff like this x
Original post by Hannahleyla
hey sweet, I had a similar situation when I was your age in school, im 19 now, I told one of my friends what had happened, and they told our head of year, safeguarding got involved and so did my parents, eventually it blew over and it was forgotten about. At the end of the day it was a mistake and something that you shouldn't be doing again with someone of that age, and its also a really big issue to lie about your age, its dangerous for you and for the other person, they could go to prison. Regardless of all the facts, it will be ok, and it will blow over and be forgotten about. It's obviously not a good situation to be in and from experience I would not reccomend getting yourself into this situation again x how are you feeling about it? I know its awful to have people now about stuff like this x

I'm glad to hear that it will eventually blow over, and that I am not the only one to have made such a big mistake. I am often feeling really bad about myself, especially because of how hurt my parents are. I haven't told any of my friends, I am scared they won't look at me in the same way (I am probably being a bit dramatic). Thanks for the support x it means a lot x
totally understand how you feel, don't tell anyone else if you dont want to x it will all be fine soon just try not to think about it x you got this girl don't you worry x
Original post by Anonymous
I'm glad to hear that it will eventually blow over, and that I am not the only one to have made such a big mistake. I am often feeling really bad about myself, especially because of how hurt my parents are. I haven't told any of my friends, I am scared they won't look at me in the same way (I am probably being a bit dramatic). Thanks for the support x it means a lot x
Original post by Anonymous
Hello, the other day My parent's weren't home and I was on a mobile game where I met a sketchy guy. He claimed to be 19 and I said I was 16 or 17 ( I am 15) and we left the game to go talk on Snapchat instead. I can't remember who asked first, but I ended up sending him nudes and so did he in return (I wasn't even interested in him). I quickly realised that was really messed up, so I blocked him without saying anything. The next day, I was talking to my school councillor and I accidentally hinted to the 'incident'. She realised it was very important and told me that I was a victim of something very illegal. She then had to tell her Safeguarding team (includes my science teacher) and the principle and the vice principle (also my drama teacher). Now she had called the police and told my parents about it. They are very, very upset. And I feel really really bad. How bad of a situation did I put myself in?!

Pretty bad, that sketchy guy now has child porn and you decided on that...

But please, stop lying about ages. It could send people in jail.

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