I've been dating a girl for around 2 months. We were never officially together but it felt exclusive and I assumed we would end up in a relationship eventually.
It was going well until she just told me she started dating another guy and it's going well with him and she thinks we should end but she's not decided yet. I was shocked and angry but given we were never officially together I remained calm and polite.
When I asked why she said she's getting bored of me because all we do is go round each others house at night, have sex then wake up in the morning and leave then meet again at night and repeat.. she said we don't do anything real and she's starting to lose feelings and just see me as a booty call "boy" so she downloaded tinder and started exploring her other options and met another guy who is more of a "real man" taking her out on roadtrips during the day, planning day events and spending time with her during the day doing real world things and she said even though they've only been seeing eachother for a couple of weeks that it feels more like a real relationship with him than with me.
She said she's not ending things with me just yet because she wants to keep her options option to find the best partner for her, and to also give me time before her decision to give me a chance to "step up" my effort with her and then she will decide. She told me examples of things he's done with her and what they have planned for their next date this weekend and i cant help myself but be impressed with this guys game, he's planned some romantic weekend event with her. Like who tf is this guy having so much game. He's older than me so i guess has much more experience.
Even though inside i was mad and upset, I tried to be understanding and a nice guy to her, so i said i'm fine with her seeing this other guy and will respect her space and for her to continue dating this other guy and then tell me her decision after who she wants to pick.
but i realise me saying that is just me being the pushover nice guy letting her date other guys and me being the back up option. I eel i should have stood my ground a bit and be more of a man.
Now i want to fight for her and step up my game to win her over but the truth is i don't know if i even should / how i feel anymore because:
1) i don't want to be anyones second option
2) i feel the fact she is exploring options and it isn't clear she wants me shows we shouldnt be together, e.g. i feel if she truly liked me it she shouldnt even need to decide, it should be clear no comparison to choose me
3) I don't want to be a pushover letting her date other guys and walk all over me
However at the same time i can't help be be understanding because:
1) i really didnt put any effort i was just having sex with her thinking that was enough so i don't blame her for starting to date someone else.
2) the fact she hasn't ended things yet i feel shows she still has a little feeling for me to give me a chance to step up my game
not really sure what to do now, any advice?