Is my boyfriend in the wrong for this?

Why would it be selfish to think you'd like your boyfriend to do something interesting with you when you have travelled a long way to see him? Personally I think you'd be better off ending it as it sounds awfully hard work and he doesn't seem to be making any effort. What are you getting out of this relationship that makes it worth your time and effort?

Nothing selfish about wanting to spend your limited time together productively.

Dump him. You already know your worth, otherwise you wouldn’t be asking. And you are worth much more than that.

Thanks. It’s just I love him so much- but it’s so hard with long distance. It’s even harder like this. He has suspected autism and adhd so that could be the reason for this and he’s really sweet , loving , caring and so feeling like he’s poo at times makes me feel mean. But I spent £60 for that weekend and didn’t get to do anything at all soo

Is he or am I and my family over reacting?
Hi ,
Basically, we’re long distance as he goes to uni and we’ve dated for almost a year now. We hardly ever see each other due to the distance (2hrs 30 by train max ) and I have work as well.
I haven’t seen him in a few weeks and i went to see him Saturday evening / night and came home tonight…. This was because it was too late to take time off and I also don’t have any days left . I normally go Friday - Monday.
I arrived at 11pm on the Saturday due to working until late that day (9 hours in fact). The Sunday , we just didn’t do much at all and was hoping to do something nice you know- like go see the city or something, maybe I should communicate more but idk anything about the city so I don’t know where to go or what to do. He then decided he’d watch the Man U v Liverpool game (3:30pm - 6:00pm)
He’s been upset with the long distance and he’s always out with uni people all week going to clubs , pubs , watching football , playing games etc but with me he can’t ever decide on what to do.
I had to make the decision myself to go to spoons as idk what else is around and I normally pick where to go where we live at home and so decided just have some food and have drinks (got drunk) .
My mum and sister are saying he could’ve recorded the football ( different if we always see each other of course ) and that it’s a lot of money for a train ticket just to go and watch football that I don’t even enjoy?
I should communicate more with him but didn’t know if it was selfish to have these thoughts ? But if my family r saying it without me saying then I guess it isn’t just me?
What do u think?

Why would it be selfish to think you'd like your boyfriend to do something interesting with you when you have travelled a long way to see him? Personally I think you'd be better off ending it as it sounds awfully hard work and he doesn't seem to be making any effort. What are you getting out of this relationship that makes it worth your time and effort?

Maybe try to communicate across your feelings to him, even though I understand at times it may be difficult to get them across but, instead of having these worries to yourself, it's better to talk them out with him. Communication is the key to a successful relationship, even more so with a long distance one.

i thinky ou need to sit back and sing
oh i ain got cash i ain got cash
but i got you babyyyy
baby i ain got no dollar bills to have fun tonight

everytime i see you jakson you keep telling people why bother with their relationship. i think you're lonely jacky. tinders a great option! (joke btw)

Why would it be selfish to think you'd like your boyfriend to do something interesting with you when you have travelled a long way to see him? Personally I think you'd be better off ending it as it sounds awfully hard work and he doesn't seem to be making any effort. What are you getting out of this relationship that makes it worth your time and effort?

Thanks. It’s just I love him so much- but it’s so hard with long distance. It’s even harder like this. He has suspected autism and adhd so that could be the reason for this and he’s really sweet , loving , caring and so feeling like he’s poo at times makes me feel mean. But I spent £60 for that weekend and didn’t get to do anything at all soo

You can love him a hundred times more than you feel you currently do - that doesn't mean he is right for you or the situation works. Its quite clear that this is not a medium or long term thing given the factors involved - find someone else to have fun with who values you, is open and in tune with you , and much nearer.

Tbh If you've been dating a year long distance and hardly see each other, how much are either of you really invested in this and what are your expectations? likewise your own families?
Long distance is HARD, it needs a lot of indirect communication and reassurance, but you're talking of both of you being ADHD-ish, sensitive, potential autism etc - to be blunt it sounds like you've got a very uphill struggle to make this work.

Is he or am I and my family over reacting?
Hi ,
Basically, we’re long distance as he goes to uni and we’ve dated for almost a year now. We hardly ever see each other due to the distance (2hrs 30 by train max ) and I have work as well.
I haven’t seen him in a few weeks and i went to see him Saturday evening / night and came home tonight…. This was because it was too late to take time off and I also don’t have any days left . I normally go Friday - Monday.
I arrived at 11pm on the Saturday due to working until late that day (9 hours in fact). The Sunday , we just didn’t do much at all and was hoping to do something nice you know- like go see the city or something, maybe I should communicate more but idk anything about the city so I don’t know where to go or what to do. He then decided he’d watch the Man U v Liverpool game (3:30pm - 6:00pm)
He’s been upset with the long distance and he’s always out with uni people all week going to clubs , pubs , watching football , playing games etc but with me he can’t ever decide on what to do.
I had to make the decision myself to go to spoons as idk what else is around and I normally pick where to go where we live at home and so decided just have some food and have drinks (got drunk) .
My mum and sister are saying he could’ve recorded the football ( different if we always see each other of course ) and that it’s a lot of money for a train ticket just to go and watch football that I don’t even enjoy?
I should communicate more with him but didn’t know if it was selfish to have these thoughts ? But if my family r saying it without me saying then I guess it isn’t just me?
What do u think?