Before we had sex/were seeing eachother, he commented on how he thought sex was 'a really important part' of a relationship. But since we actually started having sex, I'm not always convinced he feels this way.
First of all, he would always initiate foreplay, but never actual sex (aside from the very first time we had it) - this happened repeatedly and when I told him how unwanted this was making me feel, he initiated the next time we were together. Apparently the reason he hadn't initiated before was because he didn't want to do anything I didn't feel comfortable with...but to an extent I felt the damage on my self esteem was done.
Then one night after ridiculous miscommuncation about me giving him a blowjob, we got into a fight and I finally ended up saying to him:
'What does sex mean to you in this relationship? - to which he replied -
'If sex didn't exist, I'd be happy just lying with you.'
I was horrified! Not what I wanted to hear. When he realised how upset I was by his answer he tried to say he thought it was sweet! I then went on to say that for me its a really important part of intimacy with him, to which he replied that 'yeah', sex was a part of intimacy but that there were lots of other thing that are a part of intimacy...' - then when I accused him of having a low sex drive and not being bothered about sex with me, this really annoyed him. He said that while he'd say I had a higher sex drive, he certainly didn't have a low sex drive. And he also said that he was annoyed that I thought he didn't value sex.
We were also talking about oral sex, and he said he was surprised to be getting it from me regularly (he was a virgin before me). He said 'well it can't be the most pleasant thing to do...' - and again this annoyed me. Why couldn't he just let me give him a blowjob without questioning it! But he went on to say he absolutely loves getting them, and I could tell he meant it.
But I'm still worried about his 'if sex didn't exist...' comment. What do you think? Should I be worried?