How come women are discouraged from staying active/adventurous?

Im not sure if its true as a whole but ive come across it in several instances. When i told my boyfriend that i used to climb buildings and practice skateboarding skills on a skatepark etc when i was about 13- 15 he said 'sounds like me at 14, thats the age you should have been experimenting with lads not climbing'. He often points out how I dress childish as im always wearing trainers but he's in his 30's and wears trainers and cartoon t shirts. My cousins boyfriend told her she was getting too old to keep going to judo 3 times a week, but many older men do.

I do athletics and often notice that when girls get to about 19 to early twenties they give up, yet there are plenty of men of all ages still train. Its annoying as i feel the odd one out and dont have anything in common with girls my age many have kids. I dont want to settle down nor have the time pressure of having kids and all that.

Im not sure if its true as a whole but ive come across it in several instances. When i told my boyfriend that i used to climb buildings and practice skateboarding skills on a skatepark etc when i was about 13- 15 he said 'sounds like me at 14, thats the age you should have been experimenting with lads not climbing'. He often points out how I dress childish as im always wearing trainers but he's in his 30's and wears trainers and cartoon t shirts. My cousins boyfriend told her she was getting too old to keep going to judo 3 times a week, but many older men do.

I do athletics and often notice that when girls get to about 19 to early twenties they give up, yet there are plenty of men of all ages still train. Its annoying as i feel the odd one out and dont have anything in common with girls my age many have kids. I dont want to settle down nor have the time pressure of having kids and all that.

No offence but it sounds like he has double standards when it comes to gender 'roles' , I wish I could climb buildings tbh

It's sexism. The sexist attitudes that so many on this site claim don't exist. But there we are. Maybe you should try explaining this double standard to him.


And most importantly, what the hell is a man in his 30s doing wearing cartoon t-shirts.

30s ?!!!

Im not sure if its true as a whole but ive come across it in several instances. When i told my boyfriend that i used to climb buildings and practice skateboarding skills on a skatepark etc when i was about 13- 15 he said 'sounds like me at 14, thats the age you should have been experimenting with lads not climbing'. He often points out how I dress childish as im always wearing trainers but he's in his 30's and wears trainers and cartoon t shirts. My cousins boyfriend told her she was getting too old to keep going to judo 3 times a week, but many older men do.

I do athletics and often notice that when girls get to about 19 to early twenties they give up, yet there are plenty of men of all ages still train. Its annoying as i feel the odd one out and dont have anything in common with girls my age many have kids. I dont want to settle down nor have the time pressure of having kids and all that.

I don't think you should listen a 30 something guy that wears cartoon T-shirts and trainers. I dropped these at 18.

You never wear trainers? They are so comfy.

I don't want to look like a chav.

What about a sk8er boi?

I wore something like that at 15.