Boyfriend has to see ex wife, should I be worried?

Oh stop being so judgmental....I'm 17 not 12....we've both thought this through and the gap doesn't matter. I've always liked older men, age 30+, I don't like guys my age at all, n I think most girls are the same in that they prefer older men. So what if he's in his 40s...you can't help who you fall for. And no he didn't 'abuse his position of trust'....it was a mutual attraction and we got to know each other over a period of a few months. So you can just keep your opinions to yourself. Are you saying you've never fallen for an older man? Plus a lot of older men are gonna be divorced/have kids, its the way life goes dear.

He does have kids, he's got a 19 yr old daughter and a son who's a few years older than her....not met them yet but they know about me and my bf says they were shocked at first but are now ok with it so guess I'll meet them in time....scary tho!

At the end of the day, once you're 16 or over you can date who you want and I go for older men.

Oh stop being so judgmental....I'm 17 not 12....we've both thought this through and the gap doesn't matter. I've always liked older men, age 30+, I don't like guys my age at all, n I think most girls are the same in that they prefer older men. So what if he's in his 40s...you can't help who you fall for. And no he didn't 'abuse his position of trust'....it was a mutual attraction and we got to know each other over a period of a few months. So you can just keep your opinions to yourself. Are you saying you've never fallen for an older man? Plus a lot of older men are gonna be divorced/have kids, its the way life goes dear.

He does have kids, he's got a 19 yr old daughter and a son who's a few years older than her....not met them yet but they know about me and my bf says they were shocked at first but are now ok with it so guess I'll meet them in time....scary tho!

At the end of the day, once you're 16 or over you can date who you want and I go for older men.

I'm 17, bf is in his 40s. I fink his ex wife is about 39 or something, why?

N I DO trust him, just feels weird that he's gonna be with another woman while I'm not there I guess. Been together about 6 weeks now, but known him for over 6 months as he was/is my driving instructor.

Don't be so judgmental over the age gap. We got to fancy each other because we bonded during the driving lessons and our personalities just clicked.

... And no he didn't 'abuse his position of trust'....it was a mutual attraction and we got to know each other over a period of a few months. ...

He does have kids, he's got a 19 yr old daughter and a son who's a few years older than her....not met them yet but they know about me and my bf says they were shocked at first but are now ok with it so guess I'll meet them in time....scary tho!

At the end of the day, once you're 16 or over you can date who you want and I go for older men.

well, my point was, it is 100% legal for them to date/have sex

so to answer your original q , "yes it is legal"

but I am also interested in if her parents know (I doubt, I would laugh iif her parents were same age as him lol)

So his kids are ok with their dad dating someone younger than them? I'm 22 and would hit either of my parents with a brick for screwing a 6th former.

He does have kids, he's got a 19 yr old daughter and a son who's a few years older than her....not met them yet but they know about me and my bf says they were shocked at first but are now ok with it so guess I'll meet them in time....scary tho!

If my parents split up and then my dad started doing someone your age I think I would be sick!

My mum knows, she was angry with me at first but has finally sort of accepted it cos I'm over 17n nearly 18 and she can see I'm happy, my dad doesn't know cos he doesn't meddle in my business so he only knows I've got a bf but knows nothing of the age and to be honest it's gonna be a while before they meet him anyway so it really doesn't matter. Yeh erm my bf is actually a couple of years older than my dad but as I said the age doesn't mean a thing.

Wow I've just realised something. If you two have a child then it's dad will be older than it's grandad and it's half brother and sister will be older than it's mum. Sorry but that is messed up!

I know it's not the same but that comment made me think of this:

Okay I'm not the OP and this thread is majorly p*issing me off. I'm 18. My boyfriend is 43. We are genuinely in love, things are good. Some people are too immature aat 17/18; some people aren't.

And he's more insecure about me and other guys than I am about him and other women, despite the fact that he's basically just out of a relationship that lasted longer than I've been alive.

Sometimes people fall in love because of personalities and having a good time together, rather than because it fits with social convention.

And yes, my parents know, and have done from the beginning. It's fine.

An ex wife or husband is not the same as an ex, there's a lot more history there in a lot of cases (not all) and definitely a lot more crap to sort out afterwards. You have to understand that he will have to see her after the divorce at times.