In interracial relationship, haven't told some of friends who are slightly racist

Please keep anonymous as I know people on here. Basically, for the last 4 months I've been dating a girl who happens to be black, and I'm white; I really, really like her (our interests are all similar etc.) I've told a couple of friends in my friendship group and they're not bothered at all. Only thing is some of my friends who I haven't told are slightly racist, not blatantly but just in subtle ways. As friends though I feel it would be right to tell them. Any advice would be appreciated.

Reply 1

tehforum

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Original post by Anonymous

Please keep anonymous as I know people on here. Basically, for the last 4 months I've been dating a girl who happens to be black, and I'm white; I really, really like her (our interests are all similar etc.) I've told a couple of friends in my friendship group and they're not bothered at all. Only thing is some of my friends who I haven't told are slightly racist, not blatantly but just in subtle ways. As friends though I feel it would be right to tell them. Any advice would be appreciated.

i don't know why you're friends with racist people

Reply 2

Tai Ga

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why are you friends with those types of people?

Reply 3

moonriver96

13

just tell them,OP and ask them not to be pricks about it.

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

OP

Original post by Tai Ga

why are you friends with those types of people?

I don't think its that they're racist, rather sheltered - our friendship group and a lot of the people we would socialise at school would be predominantly white, etc.

Reply 5

rochie28

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I totally agree with what everyone said... why are you friends with people that have views like that, and number 2 if their your true friends they will be happy that your happy ! :biggrin:

I hate racism :frown:

Reply 6

tehforum

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Original post by Anonymous

I don't think its that they're racist, rather sheltered - our friendship group and a lot of the people we would socialise at school would be predominantly white, etc.

being sheltered is not an excuse for racism

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

OP

Original post by roschelle.a

I totally agree with what everyone said... why are you friends with people that have views like that, and number 2 if their your true friends they will be happy that your happy ! :biggrin:

I hate racism :frown:

I've been best mates with them for 7 years. As I said before I think its just the people they've socialised with. Two of them stayed in this particular area whilst most of us, me included, went to university. Admittedly, I would never have thought I would be an interracial relationship before going to university.

Reply 8

Made in Tyrone

Original post by Anonymous

Please keep anonymous as I know people on here. Basically, for the last 4 months I've been dating a girl who happens to be black, and I'm white; I really, really like her (our interests are all similar etc.) I've told a couple of friends in my friendship group and they're not bothered at all. Only thing is some of my friends who I haven't told are slightly racist, not blatantly but just in subtle ways. As friends though I feel it would be right to tell them. Any advice would be appreciated.

Ditch the racist friends.

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

OP

Original post by tehforum

being sheltered is not an excuse for racism

I fully agree, but what I'm trying to say is the area me and my friends are in is almost completely white, so it may be their naivety/ lack of contact with people from other races

Reply 10

bittr n swt

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Don't ditch them but educate them.

I love seeing interracial relationships and I encourage it.

Reply 11

Whitney997

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I think that's really beautiful may I just say :smile:

you don't see many white guys interested in black girls nowadays. It's completely your decision though, it's your relationship and if your friends don't respect her or you because of her skin colour then they aren't really your friends :smile:

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Reply 12

MidnightDream

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Tell them and if they come out with any racist comments or whatever educate them and if that fails evaluate your friendship, there's no excuse to be a racist

Reply 13

rochie28

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Original post by Anonymous

I've been best mates with them for 7 years. As I said before I think its just the people they've socialised with. Two of them stayed in this particular area whilst most of us, me included, went to university. Admittedly, I would never have thought I would be an interracial relationship before going to university.

Fair enough, ive been in this situation before im a black girl and I never thought id be in a relationship with a white guy but I did, and my friend was kinda like yours, but after I told her she made some jokes but soon accepted that I was sooo happy !
They gotta understand that your changing and experiencing something new, so they gotta try and embrace that :biggrin:

Reply 14

rochie28

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Original post by bittr n swt

Don't ditch them but educate them.

I love seeing interracial relationships and I encourage it.

awww thats so lovely !!!

Reply 15

h3isenberg

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Tell them what Larry David said in Curb Your Enthusiasm:

"The penis doesn't care about race, creed or colour. The penis wants to get to its homeland"

Amen

Reply 16

Blutooth

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Original post by Whitney997

I think that's really beautiful may I just say :smile:

you don't see many white guys interested in black girls nowadays. It's completely your decision though, it's your relationship and if your friends don't respect her or you because of her skin colour then they aren't really your friends :smile:

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Yes there are. There are loads of them. You need to get out more, honey.

Tina Turner
Halle Berry (kid with white guy)
Zoe Saldana (dating white guy)
Kerry Washington (dated white men)
Serena Williams (or was it Venus?) (dating white guy)
My mother (kid with white guy)
Paula Patton (dated Robin Thicke) (kid with white guy)
One of the twins from Sister Sister (kid with white guy)
The actress who played Hilary Banks (kid with white guy)
Thandie Newton (kid with white guy)

To name a few have all dated white people. I've also seen loads of regular black women dating white guys, especially older black women.

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Reply 17

Blutooth

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To the OP , don't ditch your racist friends. Talk to them and tell them how much the girl means to you.

Reply 18

Whitney997

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Original post by Blutooth

Yes there are. There are loads of them. You need to get out more, honey.

Tina Turner
Halle Berry (kid with white guy)
Zoe Saldana (dating white guy)
Kerry Washington (dated white men)
Serena Williams (or was it Venus?) (dating white guy)
My mother (kid with white guy)
Paula Patton (dated Robin Thicke) (kid with white guy)
One of the twins from Sister Sister (kid with white guy)
The actress who played Hilary Banks (kid with white guy)
Thandie Newton (kid with white guy)

To name a few have all dated white people. I've also seen loads of regular black women dating white guys, especially older black women.

Lol I wasn't talking about celebrities nor was I addressing you - was talking to the guy that started the thread. I did say "you don't see many" not none at all. Perhaps your area is different from mine then seeing as I do go out. Try giving advice to him rather than commenting on my statement which you misinterpreted.

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Reply 19

Mick.w

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Original post by Whitney997

Lol I wasn't talking about celebrities nor was I addressing you - was talking to the guy that started the thread. I did say "you don't see many" not none at all. Perhaps your area is different from mine then seeing as I do go out. Try giving advice to him rather than commenting on my statement which you misinterpreted.

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