22 and have never been kissed. Are girls not into black men?I

I wonder if this is a troll just because you've just said you haven't made any effort with girls romantically, and yet you're expecting them to approach you? Why would they when you've not suggested you're interested. Another reason I think this is a troll is "are girls not into black men?" When you generalise like that, of course there are women into black men. Obviously. Whether they're into you is a different matter.

im nearly 30 and have never kissed a girl

I highly doubt your race is the cause; I know plenty of girls who are into black guys and while I'm generally not, you'll find even girls who are generally more attracted to other races still have exceptions sometimes just as the reverse is true. I will say though I'd advise being a bit more proactive about the whole thing if it bothers you that much. I'm 18 and in the same situation but I don't really give a **** so... take that as you will.

Interesting thread.

Boys have to approach the girl, regardless of race. You can't expect them to ever approach you, unfortunately that's how things work for straight guys.

I've always felt that my skin-colour was incongruent with who I wanted to be or rather who I saw myself as?

I would do the approaching if I the signals were there. I'm not going to walk in blindly into a group of girls and ask one randomly out.

Why haven't the girls from primary/secondary/6thform and even now at uni made their feelings known to me? Why have I always been overlooked? Is it my skin-colour?

I've always felt that my skin-colour was incongruent with who I wanted to be or rather who I saw myself as?


What can I do to make girls like me?

I am not a troll no.


It's nice to be asked and know that you're in demand even if you are not interested at the time. It just hit me today that I have never been intimate with a girl. Not even holding hands. I feel like a total failure. I live in a very white neighbourhood and I attended primary and secondary private schools where I was the maybe one of 3 black people. So my childhood consisted of interacting with white people all the time.


I'm not saying that my colour hindered me but could it have? I'm just examining the reasons that led to me being a virgin basically.

So you see yourself as... what?

Being privately educated doesn't make you more intelligent

I am not a troll no.


It's nice to be asked and know that you're in demand even if you are not interested at the time. It just hit me today that I have never been intimate with a girl. Not even holding hands. I feel like a total failure. I live in a very white neighbourhood and I attended primary and secondary private schools where I was the maybe one of 3 black people. So my childhood consisted of interacting with white people all the time.


I'm not saying that my colour hindered me but could it have? I'm just examining the reasons that led to me being a virgin basically.

Woah, are you serious? I'm just going to assume you're not a troll here and give a serious answer.

Firstly, nobody just randomly asks somebody out - it's about body language, flirting and things like that. You talk to somebody a lot, touch their arm or whatever. Maybe you're not noticing any signals. No girl is just going to flat out say, "I fancy you" for fear of rejection.

Yes, I do have to say it is harder for black men compared to white men, but black men still manage to get girlfriends. I hope you're not just focusing on white girls here too, you are allowed to date black girls too. Though I understand there will be fewer black girls from your social background compared to white girls, so because of that it will be more difficult to connect with other black girls.

Just be a nice person, confident too and put yourself out there. You will get knocked back sometimes, it's inevitable but you'll find somebody eventually. Life aint fair, some people have to try harder than others.