Im a Sikh Girl with a Boyfriend

lndian women living in foreign countries , who come from good families have this rule for dating :
No BMW..
B stands for black men , M stands for muslims & W stands for white men.

Sikh parents like most of Indians would never accept a black person because of our cultural incompability ...We may accept a white person because they are also caucasians and have fair skin like us , but never a black man,In the Indian caste system, whom you marry has negative effects on your entire extended family of 200 people

Per the Indian caste system, a typical white, beef eater, xtian, non-virgin, would cause disgrace for his 2nd cousins, who would therefore be at a disadvantage in getting married using the traditional marriage route

However, also per the Indian caste system, lighter skin is a marker of higher caste, so a fair skin grand kid would raise status and many Indian families would reluctantly accept a white

In the same manner, marrying a black would lead to darker grandkids and a sign of mixing with low castes and this could lead to an honor killing - look up Sparkle Rai.If she is Hindu or Sikh, they have caste and black is low caste
She will be assaulted and deported. Look up Sparkle Rai .As an Indian raised in the west I can tell you that if my sister was dating a black man ,my family would kill them .So please use your brain , your family will never accept a black man , they might hurt you for having sex with a negroid .Indian culture always tell you to respect and honour your parents a black man is not worth losing your family and risking your life.

Isn't it just a tad worrying he is so dismissive of your culture/heritage/wishes?

I'd certainly want someone to respect views or wishes a bit more than that.

In sikhism , we dont discriminate based on caste or colour. Our Harminder Sahib has 4 entrances so anyone can enter including people from different religions. I dont see why I cant marry someone from another race or religion in a Gudwara.

Lmao. The caste system is a racist system. Most religious Hindus/Sikhs knowingly practice racism by dismissing their child's potential partners because of their skin colour. That's racism. Perhaps you should spend less time criticising Islam and more time reassessing your own messed up culture.

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Hi

After starting university, I started dating a black guy and we are now in a serious relationship. I have lost my virginity to him and I am now on the pill as my boyfriend doesnt like condoms.

I think I want to marry my boyfriend but worried my Sikh Punjabi family wont like it. They are conservative sikhs although they dont practice fully i.e dont wear turbans. I want to get married in the Gudwara but worried my community may oppose it - my boyfriend is an aethiest and thinks wearing the turban even just for our marriage is a waste of time.

Is there any Sikh girls out there that can advise me who have been in the same position?

This thread is full of hypcrites

Abdul who is talking about racism when he is one himself
GGMU who talks about Indian culture but the whole site knows he is a junky (drug addict)
Chocolate sauce , the malayalee hindu girl who date loads of boys behind her parents back

ONLY ON TSR....

What kind of girl who cares this much about her religion still like a guy who practically insults her religion?

Either troll, or very stupid girl.

Hi

After starting university, I started dating a black guy and we are now in a serious relationship. I have lost my virginity to him and I am now on the pill as my boyfriend doesnt like condoms.

I think I want to marry my boyfriend but worried my Sikh Punjabi family wont like it. They are conservative sikhs although they dont practice fully i.e dont wear turbans. I want to get married in the Gudwara but worried my community may oppose it - my boyfriend is an aethiest and thinks wearing the turban even just for our marriage is a waste of time.

Is there any Sikh girls out there that can advise me who have been in the same position?

I am a practising sikh and I am aware of all the rulings. An anand karaj the sikh wedding ceremony can be between two Sikhs only regardless of what goes on at certain Gurudwaras; thus regardless of the colour of your boyfriend you can't marry him in a Gurudwara, you can have a court marriage and then come to the Gurudwara for blessings but an anand karaj shouldn't be allowed. Therefore the religious ruling is you can't marry him and even if you managed to have an anand karaj it would be invalid.

Moving onto the punjabi culture now, sadly in the punjabi culture black people are viewed as the lowest of the low therefore your family probably will not accept him because if they do they will be the joke of the entire community and looked down upon. You will bring a lot of shame onto your family and maybe disowned. If you do end up leaving your boyfriend as bad as this is going to sound I suggest you don't tell any punjabi boys that you went with a black guy because it will hinder your chances of finding another partner, that would be if you were after a sikh punjabi guy. To conclude your relationship is not religiously or culturally acceptable.

I am a practising sikh and I am aware of all the rulings. An anand karaj the sikh wedding ceremony can be between two Sikhs only regardless of what goes on at certain Gurudwaras; thus regardless of the colour of your boyfriend you can't marry him in a Gurudwara, you can have a court marriage and then come to the Gurudwara for blessings but an anand karaj shouldn't be allowed. Therefore the religious ruling is you can't marry him and even if you managed to have an anand karaj it would be invalid.

Moving onto the punjabi culture now, sadly in the punjabi culture black people are viewed as the lowest of the low therefore your family probably will not accept him because if they do they will be the joke of the entire community and looked down upon. You will bring a lot of shame onto your family and maybe disowned. If you do end up leaving your boyfriend as bad as this is going to sound I suggest you don't tell any punjabi boys that you went with a black guy because it will hinder your chances of finding another partner, that would be if you were after a sikh punjabi guy. To conclude your relationship is not religiously or culturally acceptable.

Why, certainly not.

That paragraph is just sad. People need to move on.

Atleast my people didn't enslave black people for centuries and treat them like ****. Then colonised them and robbed them, raped their women.

Atleast my people didn't enslave black people for centuries and treat them like ****. Then colonised them and robbed them, raped their women.

Lol owned by @TheonlyMrsHolmes

Why has a thread that's almost a year old been revived?

I wonder what happened to OP and her boyfriend in the end...