Does this mean he has finished with me or what?

Really it's quite hard to say what he's doing until you speak with him properly again. He could have just been in a bad mood, but he might be plannin' on chucking you, who knows?

EDIT: BUT DON'T FEEL PRESSURED INTO SEX GOSH DARNIT

Well it had been 2 months before we tried it (looking at it from his side) but when he comes on to me and I don't want sex I sort of move away a little/act dumb so he probably sees me as frigid but I'm fine with hugging etc. It just upset me when I went to hug him (after he had walked me to my car) and he didn't hug back.

Not hugging back certainly implies that something's up... hmmm... I really wish I had some sort of relevant advice here...

Sod it, I don't have any, sorry. You're gonna need to speak to that boi.

I'll be honest about exactly how I would be feeling if I were in his position... I'd feel rejected and unloved. Physical intimacy is important in a relationship and if he feels like you're withholding that then from his point of view it probably means you don't care about him. So naturally that's going to make him upset and start to pull away.

I'm not saying that it's necessarily the case that you don't care about him... But certainly that's the way it's made me feel when I've been in the same position as him

We hug, kiss and cuddle all the time so there is physical intimacy its just intercourse that has lacked. I dont know if most men/people feel uncared for without intercourse but for sone reason it has never done much for me. Ive always seen sex as seperate from affection/love but maybe im in an extreme minority with that, maybe for most men its the same thing, from what you have said.
Eitherway im probably back to being single again :/

Like it or not, sexual intimacy is an important part of the relationship. Whilst i 100% agree you should never be presssured into sex, it is considered to be a done thing in an adult relationship.

Out of curiosity, does he know about your very low sex drive? Cos as another poster said, yove tried sex once, couldnt do it and it now he doesnt know what to do with himself. He could very well be feeling dejected and rejected by you.

don't do anything you're not comfortable with, but at the end of the day what you don't do for your man another girl will.

My bf has gone cold again.

See I tried intercourse and am willing to do this for him but he said that the thing that turns him on the most is giving and receiving oral that's the main thing I'm not keen on. Does the latter tend to be a deal breaker for men or is it something that most people would accept.

I'm not sure exactly what kind of advice you are looking for. Truth is if he does not like you anymore he will soon let you know. Also if you are not giving him the affection he requires don't be surprised if he has not already found a woman on the side, if you don't feel you can cope in a relationship perhaps you should end it.

In relationships its not just the woman's emotions/feelings which matter and the fella should not have to feel bad cause he wants sex. Just let him go yourself if you think its all about you. A lot of people are using this word pressure here as if your boyfriend is trying to force you into bed, from what I read on your OP it sounds pretty normal and he also has the right to his feelings.