i get annoyed when my mom forces me to wear shalwar kameez and i need help help

so what it is is that everytime i go to peoples house my mom forces me to wear a salwar kameez which is annoying because i like wearing them in eid or either in special occasion. i feel more comfortable in western clothes which are modest. however every time i go to other peoples house everyone wearing western clothes and sometimes i just feel left out and i feel like crying and i am fed up of this. and then i tell my mom why is this girl wearing western clothes and then she will say oh because she looks slim. but that breaks my heart a lot. i try to explain to her that there is nothing wrong with wearing western clothes but its at least modest. i need your help because i am fed up of this plus its so embarrassing. i tried explaining to my mom that salwar kameez isnt a muslim clothes its a traditional attire but she doesnt listen she thinks western clothes are bad.also i think i'm fat.also could you give me some guidance on how i should feel confident in myself. and show me some modest western clothes which would make me feel comfortable.

It sounds like you mother has made up her mind and is not open to anything else.
While you live with her and are financially dependent upon her, she will tell you what to wear and probably get very angry whenever she hears you say "no".
How old are you?

i am 16 years old

Why don't you try adding your own style to it, like a kurta with jeans or leggings or something

When you are 18 you will be an adult in the eyes of the law and able to decide what clothes you wear- whether your mother agrees or not.
Just focus on your studies and getting the best grades that you can.
If you achieve high gcse's and a level results, you will have a choice of uni's willing to offer you a place and can choose to live on campus.

Do you have a particular career in mind?
I bet your mother would be very happy to hear that you need to do a lot of studying so you can achieve the exam results necessary to become a doctor, lawyer or investment banker.

I was in the same place as you a few years back. With me, I got upset pretty often but she'd still make me wear it whenever I had to go out. Eventually I just started wearing what I wanted to wear and at first she was against it but slowly began to accept the fact that what I was wearing wasn't anything "besharam" - although, I was known as the black sheep of the family for a bit. That subsided pretty quick cos my siblings followed suit and its almost forgotten now.

My advice, listen to your mum but if it gets too much like in my case, put your foot down and wear what you want. Explain to your mum why it makes you feel uncomfortable. And like the previous user mention, a kurta with jeans is a good idea. That was what I first started wearing when I was "transitioning" into western clothing. All the best.

Hey, I just wanted to add to this...I'm a Believer of Christ and my parents brought me up wearing skirts and dresses as opposed to jeans (the national uniform!) I totally understand your situation, so I sympathize. I know what it's like...I would be wearing a skirt that was not very long and then I get told to put on a longer one...because it's more modest.I'll let you in on a couple of things here...Respect: As children (I'm 18 years old now but still living with my parents) we are to respect their wishes and do our best to listen to them and show respect. I know it's not always easy, but it's great if you can actually work with your mum or dad in a way that all of you will be happy I worked this out with my Mum...that I could wear leggings under a shorter skirt. That way it's still modest. When we begin to not show respect towards parents and act rebelliously, we don't feel great. I went through a stage when I was 13 and I was crying a lot because I felt that I was SOOO different to others. It's hard to be different, but that brings me to my next point...Uniqueness: We are all unique and too often we try and

so what it is is that everytime i go to peoples house my mom forces me to wear a salwar kameez which is annoying because i like wearing them in eid or either in special occasion. i feel more comfortable in western clothes which are modest. however every time i go to other peoples house everyone wearing western clothes and sometimes i just feel left out and i feel like crying and i am fed up of this. and then i tell my mom why is this girl wearing western clothes and then she will say oh because she looks slim. but that breaks my heart a lot. i try to explain to her that there is nothing wrong with wearing western clothes but its at least modest. i need your help because i am fed up of this plus its so embarrassing. i tried explaining to my mom that salwar kameez isnt a muslim clothes its a traditional attire but she doesnt listen she thinks western clothes are bad.also i think i'm fat.also could you give me some guidance on how i should feel confident in myself. and show me some modest western clothes which would make me feel comfortable.