I have no friends, no relationship, nothing, I'm rejected for my Nationality

I'm 23. Finished one of the top unis, secured a job and left because it was killing me to work over 100 hours a week in a financial sector... But I'm confident I will find another soon.

I'm fit... Can bench 100kg for 8 reps.
I'm very good looking.

Since I finished year 1 of uni, I hardly spoke to ppl. Magnet because of covet and ridiculous workload that I was doing on top of two part-time jobs. I prefer to spend my evenings playing video games or going to the gym because I need some time on myself.

I finished university with academic awards.... And best ever connections.

But they r not friends...
I tried dating girls, but I was always rejected on 3rd date max. Mainly cose I used to be overweight back then and then I gave up drinking alcohol and doing partying / raving. They were saying I'm boring .

Additionally I'm Russian... So once one geopolitical event happened last year... I lost half of my friends even thou I haven't said anything about that geopolitical event or supported anyone. I was told that because you are Russian you should burn your passport and live in misery and poverty ... Even thou I am a type of a Russian who never been to Russia...

All I have is genetics and accent .

Well I do have kind of 'friends'. I need help with them occasionally but it's literally less than five people.

I'm a very interesting person. I have several hobbies... Running, gym, calisthenics, I read dozens of history books just to be more interesting...

I also played Warcraft 3 to a professional level.... But I guess it's a bit nerdy. Good game thou .

When I was at graduate job ... I didn't have time for social life or sports... So I gained 5 kg of fat lol... But colleagues except for a girl from Poland and a dude from Ukraine ... Were very friendly and we went for meals on the weekends. Basically that girl from Poland was saying that you should spend your free time wrapping yourself in a Ukrainian flag and screaming ****... She was nice to all except me and ABSOLUTELY all Russian colleagues. The Ukrainian dude was speaking in Ukrainian with me... Not English ... Not Russian... Ukrainian! Wtf??


So my question is:
Will I keep getting rejected by society?
How can I start dating?

Where and how should I start dating at this stage... Will I get rejected for being Russian?
What future holds for Russians in Europe?

even thou I haven't said anything about that geopolitical event or supported anyone

From what you've written, some of this is self-inflicted:

"work over 100 hours a week"
"I hardly spoke to ppl"
"ridiculous workload"
"prefer to spend my evenings playing video games"
" I need some time on myself"
"I didn't have time for social life"

With regards to the Russian thing, it's difficult for me to comment as being "rejected for being Russian" just seems odd to me. You say you have the "genetics and accent" but have "never been to Russia". That being the case, I simply don't understand the attitude of people towards you. I speak to a Russian guy regularly (including today); I've had a beer with him and eaten a meal with him (amongst a larger group) and it's simply never occurred to me to treat him differently because of what's Putin's done in Ukraine.

From what you've written, some of this is self-inflicted:

"work over 100 hours a week"
"I hardly spoke to ppl"
"ridiculous workload"
"prefer to spend my evenings playing video games"
" I need some time on myself"
"I didn't have time for social life"

With regards to the Russian thing, it's difficult for me to comment as being "rejected for being Russian" just seems odd to me. You say you have the "genetics and accent" but have "never been to Russia". That being the case, I simply don't understand the attitude of people towards you. I speak to a Russian guy regularly (including today); I've had a beer with him and eaten a meal with him (amongst a larger group) and it's simply never occurred to me to treat him differently because of what's Putin's done in Ukraine.

I'm 23. Finished one of the top unis, secured a job and left because it was killing me to work over 100 hours a week in a financial sector... But I'm confident I will find another soon.

I'm fit... Can bench 100kg for 8 reps.
I'm very good looking.

Since I finished year 1 of uni, I hardly spoke to ppl. Magnet because of covet and ridiculous workload that I was doing on top of two part-time jobs. I prefer to spend my evenings playing video games or going to the gym because I need some time on myself.

I finished university with academic awards.... And best ever connections.

But they r not friends...
I tried dating girls, but I was always rejected on 3rd date max. Mainly cose I used to be overweight back then and then I gave up drinking alcohol and doing partying / raving. They were saying I'm boring .

Additionally I'm Russian... So once one geopolitical event happened last year... I lost half of my friends even thou I haven't said anything about that geopolitical event or supported anyone. I was told that because you are Russian you should burn your passport and live in misery and poverty ... Even thou I am a type of a Russian who never been to Russia...

All I have is genetics and accent .

Well I do have kind of 'friends'. I need help with them occasionally but it's literally less than five people.

I'm a very interesting person. I have several hobbies... Running, gym, calisthenics, I read dozens of history books just to be more interesting...

I also played Warcraft 3 to a professional level.... But I guess it's a bit nerdy. Good game thou .

When I was at graduate job ... I didn't have time for social life or sports... So I gained 5 kg of fat lol... But colleagues except for a girl from Poland and a dude from Ukraine ... Were very friendly and we went for meals on the weekends. Basically that girl from Poland was saying that you should spend your free time wrapping yourself in a Ukrainian flag and screaming ****... She was nice to all except me and ABSOLUTELY all Russian colleagues. The Ukrainian dude was speaking in Ukrainian with me... Not English ... Not Russian... Ukrainian! Wtf??


So my question is:
Will I keep getting rejected by society?
How can I start dating?

Where and how should I start dating at this stage... Will I get rejected for being Russian?
What future holds for Russians in Europe?

This was sad to read and I am with you at this time.

first, well done on benching 100kg for 8 reps. Did you include the bar weight or just raw weights (e.g. 50kg on each side)? I bet your deadlift record would be insane.

Next, you should go out more and socialise with others. It is a good idea for you to keep your mouth shut about Russia or the military operation. It is not your problem. When the Americans invaded Iraq and Afghanistan, few people (if any at all) bullied normal Americans.

Next, try to not identify yourself as Russian. If asked, tell people that you are East European and maybe lie that you are Polish or Estonian but you have never been there.

Finally, keep your head up and try to be good to people. Hopefully, soon you find your own group of friends. Good luck

The problem when Americans invaded np one blocked American passports, banned English language by law. If you do research... You may get a prison sentence just for speaking Russian there on the streets. There was a video circulating ( you will easily find it on non western media ) ... Where Ukrainian soldiers shot a child because his Ukrainian mother spoke Russian to them.

You see the difference between USA and Russia. I'm sure if China invades Taiwan it will be way worse for them...

My bank card got frozen just because of my Nationality and it took me months to resolve the issue. Hone office broke laws against my family regarding our immigration status ... Which was done years ago.

My close friend in Moldova was attacked by the mob in Moldova and she ended up in a hospital just for listening Russian songs on the street ( regular pop songs) ... She posted that on social midea and instead of support she revised death threats.

If you go to Ukrainian media on YouTube... And see the recent story about shark killing a teenager in the ocean... 70% of the comments say that it's good news because another Russian died in agony.

Imagine living like that?

I'm 23. Finished one of the top unis, secured a job and left because it was killing me to work over 100 hours a week in a financial sector... But I'm confident I will find another soon.

I'm fit... Can bench 100kg for 8 reps.
I'm very good looking.

Since I finished year 1 of uni, I hardly spoke to ppl. Magnet because of covet and ridiculous workload that I was doing on top of two part-time jobs. I prefer to spend my evenings playing video games or going to the gym because I need some time on myself.

I finished university with academic awards.... And best ever connections.

But they r not friends...
I tried dating girls, but I was always rejected on 3rd date max. Mainly cose I used to be overweight back then and then I gave up drinking alcohol and doing partying / raving. They were saying I'm boring .

Additionally I'm Russian... So once one geopolitical event happened last year... I lost half of my friends even thou I haven't said anything about that geopolitical event or supported anyone. I was told that because you are Russian you should burn your passport and live in misery and poverty ... Even thou I am a type of a Russian who never been to Russia...

All I have is genetics and accent .

Well I do have kind of 'friends'. I need help with them occasionally but it's literally less than five people.

I'm a very interesting person. I have several hobbies... Running, gym, calisthenics, I read dozens of history books just to be more interesting...

I also played Warcraft 3 to a professional level.... But I guess it's a bit nerdy. Good game thou .

When I was at graduate job ... I didn't have time for social life or sports... So I gained 5 kg of fat lol... But colleagues except for a girl from Poland and a dude from Ukraine ... Were very friendly and we went for meals on the weekends. Basically that girl from Poland was saying that you should spend your free time wrapping yourself in a Ukrainian flag and screaming ****... She was nice to all except me and ABSOLUTELY all Russian colleagues. The Ukrainian dude was speaking in Ukrainian with me... Not English ... Not Russian... Ukrainian! Wtf??


So my question is:
Will I keep getting rejected by society?
How can I start dating?

Where and how should I start dating at this stage... Will I get rejected for being Russian?
What future holds for Russians in Europe?

What, people hate you even if you say you're against the war?

Haven't you seen what they've done to Russian sportsmen? Banned Russians and Belarussians from Wimbledon and other competitions. Players refusing to shake Russian or Belarussians' hands even if they are against the war? It's shameful.

Yeah I remember that. I'm just confused why people would ostracise OP after they've conveyed that they're against the war, unless they haven't - in which case, that may be the problem.

OP hasn't said they are against the war, they have said they haven't expressed an opinion...

And therefore should not be punished for what no one else knows. Might as well hate you because maybe you support Russia or whatever country I don't like

Well if people are accusing them of supporting the war and they are saying nothing in response, what conclusion do you expect people to draw from that?

Well if people are accusing them of supporting the war and they are saying nothing in response, what conclusion do you expect people to draw from that?