Advice on how to break up with my bf before uni

I want to break up with my bf as I'm off to uni and he's going into work, but I am worried how he will react, we are each others first, how do I go about ending things?

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Reply 1

Anonymous #2

Original post by PennyOnTheDollar

You are about to break up with him and then go to uni , why do you care how he will react ?

Ask to meet him , tell him it’s over for whatever ever reason you see fit . Then go to uni . Outta sight outta mind .

Damn bro t-thats brutal...

Reply 2

Zarek

Avoid a horrible build up period, face to face, his place, be as honest as possible, avoid clichés, listen to what he has to say. That’s about as good as it gets

Reply 3

Anonymous #3

I feel really sorry for your boyfriend but tbf long-distance relationships in uni hardly ever work out so maybe you're doing him a favour by ending it now and not in a year's time

Reply 4

xxColinxx

Breakups are rough...it's just part of the deal. So just go about it in a respectful way, which IMO would be talking to him in person. Just be honest with him and explain it's a tough decision but that you feel like it's what is best for both of you at this point.

How long have y'all been together?

Reply 5

Surnia

Original post by Anonymous

I want to break up with my bf as I'm off to uni and he's going into work

You're breaking up with someone because they've got a job. Won't you be working after uni? Does that mean you'll stay single whilst you follow your career?

Come on, what's the real reason?

Reply 6

StriderHort

Just explain that you have realised you are awful and he genuinely deserves better, that covers things accurately.

Reply 7

user55123

well you owe him honesty, so just be honest about your reasons. you can't control the outcome though

Reply 8

Sorcerer's Storm

Surnia, the real reason is that OP wants to be single for uni so she can have a lot of sex and hookups without it being classed as cheating.

Reply 9

DarylO

I know long distance relationships are difficult but they are still very doable. Why break-up without even trying? :frown:

. I would understand if you tried and it wasn't working. But you haven't even started trying!

Has he done anything wrong? What happened? He's going to ask these questions and I think he deserves at least an explanation.

Reply 10

Zarek

Original post by Sorcerer of Old

Surnia, the real reason is that OP wants to be single for uni so she can have a lot of sex and hookups without it being classed as cheating.

This anyway isn’t wrong. It’s generally accepted that if a relationship becomes something you don’t want then you’re allowed to end it

Reply 11

Surnia

Original post by Sorcerer of Old

Surnia, the real reason is that OP wants to be single for uni so she can have a lot of sex and hookups without it being classed as cheating.

Noooo. Really? I'm shocked. I must have led a very sheltered life to have not thought of this. I mean, it never crossed my mind..
:colondollar:

Reply 12

Sorcerer's Storm

Original post by Zarek

This anyway isn’t wrong. It’s generally accepted that if a relationship becomes something you don’t want then you’re allowed to end it

Of course. Most pre-uni relationships fail anyway.

Reply 13

Madg1

Original post by Sorcerer of Old

Surnia, the real reason is that OP wants to be single for uni so she can have a lot of sex and hookups without it being classed as cheating.

I think you're right

Reply 14

Madg1

Original post by Anonymous

I want to break up with my bf as I'm off to uni and he's going into work, but I am worried how he will react, we are each others first, how do I go about ending things?

Why you want to break up?
Is it because you going to Uni or more?

Reply 15

Zarek

Original post by DarylO

I know long distance relationships are difficult but they are still very doable. Why break-up without even trying? :frown:

From what I’ve seen this always ends in carnage, sooner or later, usually sooner. And if she’s having reservations already..

Reply 16

SamMDGB

Original post by Anonymous

I want to break up with my bf as I'm off to uni and he's going into work, but I am worried how he will react, we are each others first, how do I go about ending things?

If u really like him take him out to dinner, if you don't so much at least tell him in person

Reply 17

Wired_1800

Original post by Anonymous

I want to break up with my bf as I'm off to uni and he's going into work, but I am worried how he will react, we are each others first, how do I go about ending things?