Over the past few months I’ve noticed my girlfriend being very short with me, I’m a jokey guy and like to have a laugh but recently she’s come to say I’m annoying her etc or she complains about stuff I do. Two most recent examples being when I have a bad day at work I tend to try and leave it behind when I get home but one day I had a particularly stressful day I was talking about it to her and her reply was “I really don’t care enough or have the energy to listen to this.”
And then another example was her friend invited us to a baby shower, we were going to go and my parents said they’d give us a lift so we can have a drink. But at the last minute my girlfriend changed her mind about wanting to go, as my parents would have insisted we go to have a rare night out I thought it would be better to tell a little white lie and say my girlfriend had been called into work and that’s why we can’t go anymore (this was the same excuse my girlfriend told get friend we can’t go) but when I repeated this to my parents my girlfriend flew off the handle at me and started calling me a liar and asking why am I so comfortable lying.
With both of these incidents I decided to just keep quiet as 1. I can’t be bothered saying something back and getting into a petty argument and 2. If she finds me so annoying when I talk I’d better just keep quiet. But after both of these incidents she wondered why I was quiet, after the work incident I went outside and did some jobs in the garden for about 3 hours so I didn’t speak to her for that length of time.
After the baby shower incident I’d say I was quiet with her for just shy of 2 hours I just went and sat in the living room and read my book etc. I think that time she knew she’d upset me as the rest of the day she was being over nice to me.
Any advice or anything if or when this type of thing happens again.