I get seriously obsessed with people - Why am I like this and how can I get better?

THIS!!

My mom is a GP... this is what makes it so embarrassing. I shouldn't have such mental problems, it's quite ironic...

And No! I would NEVER speak to her about ANY of this. We are not very close at all.

Go and see someone else...you don't have to speak to your mum just because shes a doctor.

And what can they do for me? Other than slap a label on me for the rest of my life that will ruin my employment chances.

Apart from seeking help, could you try channeling your cravings for love into something else? Do you have hobbies and past-times to keep you active and distracted, or are you often alone and left contemplating over things? I think that making sure that your life is as fulfilling as possible will help you to keep your mind calm, but also make you feel like you are worth something in your own right, and not need to cling to others to validate yourself. Be aware that there are always other people, a vast, huge, ocean of people in the world, and that you can take your life as it comes without worrying about how long it will last.

Well at the moment, I'm generally a bit bored in life. It's not like at school, where I was always the A Grade student and focused on my work a lot.

I thought about trying to keep my mind more active by keeping up my reading and planning for the future. But I can't think of a future without this person.

Well, mainly, try to conciously calm down. What you're feeling is only an exaggerrated version of the normal emotions people in relationships go through, and I would imagine that this is caused by higher levels of the chemicals in your body and brain which make you experience these emotions.

Love is only a biochemical reaction, and the way you feel (the strong urge to pair for what you see as life) includes this. If you're aware of that, it should be easier to control.

How can you empathise with me?

I too am in this club. I have control over it though, i.e I really really want to find out more about some people through stalking but I never go through with it. Doesn't stop me obsessing over it and I too get the same thing where I don't focus on studying because I can't stop thinking about the person.

A poster on here spoke about losing a parent and obsessiveness...what's the link? i don't get it?

I used to be crazily obsessive over guys i liked...sometimes i thought it was love..i'd daydream about what we'd be like as a couple...or imagine that the guy actually likes me too. (luckily facebook wasn't around back then...that wouldn't have helped lol)

this phase stopped completely when i was 17/18, when i had absolutely no time for boys whatsoever and i didn't 'like' any guy fo years...i thought they were a pain...but then recently i think i actually like this guyat uni...it takes up my brain time..which is annoying when i'm trying to study, & i'm starting to feel slightly stalkerish what with facebook and the fact that we go to the same uni..arrrgghh i don't like wasting my time daydreaming about crazy things like i used to but it seems to be coming back. It's hard to snap out of too & i'm in my 20s so it feels quite childish :\.

Hmm...i agree with that other person who said find a hobby, restrict yourself from thinking about the person..everytime you do force yourself to think of something else...(although not sure if that will actually get the people out of your mind..cos it's hard to snap out of..i know!!)