How can people think homosexuality is a choice?

Well I'm not gay and I understand it. Do you have to make an effort to be straight? Do you have to try to be attracted to the opposite sex? If no, then surely it's obvious that gay people don't consciously choose to go for the same sex as well?

The "choice" part of being gay is whether or not the person in question has the courage to come out and let themselves be happy and live their lives unashamedly. But it's a much harder thing to do than it may seem.

It is estimated that about 2-5% of the population is be gay, a varying average because it's hard to tell with such a high number of "closeted" homosexuals, meaning between 1 in 20 or 1 in 50 people are gay, so you probably know a fair amount of closeted gay people.

It is generally accepted that gay people cannot help being gay, nor can they just try not to be and succeed in "turning". Whether or not they should be allowed to act upon those urges is another matter. But it's not as if they're going to follow you home and do it on your carpet so why should it be any concern of yours whether or not someone is gay? When people think of homosexuality they think of the things they do in the bedroom however I know a guy at uni who is gay but says he would never consider doing anal sex, which is what most people associate gay men with immediately. We don't pry into the sexual antics of straight couples, although I know certain girls from high school who reportedly did like anal sex, so I don't think we should bother ourselves with what gay people do in their bedrooms. It's not our business and it doesn't harm anyone.

Bearing this in mind, I urge you all to educate yourselves to such a level that you feel you may understand homosexuality and the issues surrounding it but also the impact it has on individuals who are gay because of how society treats them. Most people probably unknowingly have gay friends, family, colleagues or acquaintances. I'm sure you will know someone who you like who is a closeted homosexual if not out already. Support them by choosing to be educated in these matters and to understand what your talking about before making judgements on these things.

However, I respect anyone who has taken the time to read some of the posts in this thread, as that shows that you have understanding and respect and decency so I hope if you ever know anyone who "comes out" in real life you can show them similar understanding, respect, decency and support.

Well I read on this thread and other places somewhere that strict gays such as lesbians can still like guys? and gay guys can still like girls? -_-

... confused. Why have those love views if your going to like the same sex anyway?


sorry this is going off topic slightly.

Well I read on this thread and other places somewhere that strict gays such as lesbians can still like guys? and gay guys can still like girls? -_-

... confused. Why have those love views if your going to like the same sex anyway?


sorry this is going off topic slightly.

dykwia has been at it again on my profile, apparently whenever he makes a post it is ignored because no one can argue with his supreme intelligence and all his theories are correct, and also apparently no one has supplied him any evidence proving him wrong on anything im also a pawn of the gay lobby and no one can speak their minds in britain apparently

If any of you believe it's a choice.. help me out and tell me why please.

Edit: I'm just so angry right now.. sorry.. someone restore my faith in humanity

he is just very deluded unfortunately he sounds crazy half most of the time

dykwia has been at it again on my profile, apparently whenever he makes a post it is ignored because no one can argue with his supreme intelligence and all his theories are correct, and also apparently no one has supplied him any evidence proving him wrong on anything im also a pawn of the gay lobby and no one can speak their minds in britain apparently

"Oxford University Defends Decision To Host Christian Concern Conference Who Claim To 'Cure Homosexuality'


Oh dear...

http://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/2012/02/22/oxford-university-defends_n_1293082.html

It is a choice. If you were gay but where to have memory loss and would lose all your memory does that instantly mean you will be gay again?

This doesn't me i'm against it, everyone is entitled to their opinions. Freedom of speech FTW.

So Oxford wasn't a good choice then.

perhaps not being attracted to the same sex, animals, children etc, but acting on the attraction (i.e. physical) is a choice and it is this choice which the religous types object to.

Ok. Well you obviously choose to be straight. Why don't you try and have a romantic fantasy with someone of the same sex as you, and then see if its possible to choose to be gay. You'll obviously find that there's no attraction no matter how hard you try to produce one.

hes currently writing me an essay on how and why gay marriage will infringe on my "rights" and how it will harm me personally, he also doesnt seem to grasp this is a british forum, i dont give a damn about american values and i wish he would shut up banging on about them

Well it is confusing for a straight person to understand.