Original post by SchemilixOh so someone might get a bit lairy if a man wears pink. Therefore it's totally okay to blame women for showing a bit of boob, therefore removing all blame from the man, because 'she didn't try hard enough'. So as well as being raped, thus humiliated and traumatised and likely alienated as being 'spoiled', instead of being given help she will be told that because she wore that shirt and put on some make-up to like how she looked in the mirror, she was clearly asking for it. Because all women who dress up to look good are doing so expressly to get attention from men, and even if they are, boo hoo if it's forced on them when they're clearly not interested!
Everyone is expected to dress a certain way, it's society. Nobody is complaining that people have to dress in a certain manner to get by - a woman can wear trousers, but a man is likely to be catcalled and beaten if he has the audacity to wear a skirt. And everyone will blame him either, for breaking societal rules. Does that mean that, because he wore a skirt, he deserves to be beaten, because he didn't take the necessary precautions? He put on a little piece of fabric one day, and suddenly he deserves to be beaten and maybe even raped himself (as a lot of rapes against men are as 'punishment' and for 'dominance').
If you think that, because he could avoid it by suppressing himself, that he deserves to be beaten... then you and I will never agree. If you think a woman deserves rape, deserves molestation, deserves lewd comments that make her uncomfortable in her body (to which she is not allowed to protest even in a civil manner), if you think that showing some cleavage and her thighs means that you have a ticket to violate her, then, well, maybe I am screaming and crying. And I will continue throwing this tantrum until people listen.
No matter the crime, the blame is on the perpetrator. There are very, very few exceptions to this in my eyes and these are much more extreme and complicated than, 'she was dressing provocatively, I couldn't control myself because clearly I have no free will and she is a devil-slut'.
You have made two major mistakes in my eyes.
a) Stated that the only people who decry rape culture are female and,
b) Used the words 'screaming and crying' to imply hysteria just because someone doesn't agree with you.
Yes, precautions can be taken. So because a woman doesn't, she deserves what she gets?
EDIT: tl;dr, saying a woman could have prevented it is victim blaming. Saying it isn't doesn't mean it isn't. It is. And even if it weren't, it's insensitive and completely useless. What's she going to do, go back in time and wear a better top? Many rapes aren't sexually motivated, by the way.