When I got with him I was a virgin, I was also very naive about sex, im from a catholkc family sex is never spoken about nor mentioned I went to a all girls school run by nuns so our sex ed was pretty basic 'if you have sex you will get pregnant and die' nothing about STI'S. Obviously im not some pre victorian wierdo who had no idea about sex I knew about sti's , I just didnt know the details, I thought you only got sti's If you slept around and that if you had an sti it was pretty obvious.
My boyfriend is 4 years older than me (parents dont know about him due to sex thing) im 19 I was a bit wary of sex I didnt want tloosse it to just anybody and I wanted it to be special, but he was so blase about itI felt immature for not doing it. I also kinda wanted to see what all the fuss was about so i slept with him about 4 months into our relationship, he used condoms, but this is where i went wrong i thought stupidly dont think im an idiot, you could only get an STI if tehy came insdie you i thought thats where the bad bacteria was stupidly.
He told me he had been with 10 women and only slept with 2 unprotected who were long term girlsfriends, I just assumed also stupidly that having that number of partners he would have had an STI test, i had friends wh had casual sex and ONS and they got checked regulary, i thought at 23 he would have had the initive to, he is also much more sexually aware . I should of insited he had a test before anything happend but i naively didnt think he had anything it didnt even cross my mind. I was wastching embarssing bodies where i realised how idiotic and stupid had been and booked myself into the clinci the next day, it came back i had chylmidia, i told him and told him he had to get a test. He was also positive it then came out he had slept with me and then a girl before me a month before he got with me. He also told me she was a giant slag, that their relationship was 'open' so she was sleeping around and so was he, he told me she had been sleeping with his best friend and all of them were sleeping unprotected! because 'shje was on the pill' I know its my fault for not asking him to get a test, but im very upset that the actions of him this girl and his stupid friends who are all in their mid 20s could result in me being left infertile as i dont know how long ive had it.
This was about a month ago ive pretended its ok but recently ive got the symptons again and im really worried i have it again from him. Can i be angry at him or is it all my fault?