Girlfriend doesn&#x27;t go down on me

Original post by Anonymous

I give because she claims its the only way she can orgasm and I want to please her. Am I not allowed to be frustrated that she doesnt do the same?

Of course you can be frustrated and you should talk to her about it more, but breaking up with her over it is weird and extreme if you claim to really like her

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ODES_PDES

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Original post by Alba2013

Dump!

This !!

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99_Problems

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Original post by Anonymous

Of course I am the jerk right? :rolleyes:

No it just means we are not sexually compatible. I bet if there was a thread the other way around (guy wouldn't go down on girl) then you would side with the girl.

It's not that you're a bad guy but your relationship must be pretty thin if your willing to break up over this. There are LOADS of sexual things you can do together, maybe see if there is something else you enjoy that she is cool with.

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username1896979

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Original post by Anonymous

Hello. My girlfriend of four months doesn't give blowjobs yet loves me going down on her (which I do). Every time I bring it up she says she doesnt like doing it but will one day. :rolleyes:

Its getting to the point where I am considering breaking up with her over this. Receiving oral sex is something I really like and am used to as my exes did it. I don't know how to approach this as I really like her but don't want to be in a relationship where I don't receive blowjobs.

Help?

Being a girl myself and from experience I always wanted to give my boyfriend oral sex but I was so embarrassed and shy to do so even when he initiated be to do so( I think this was largely down to this being my first relationship and he having been in many). Eventually he confronted me about it because it did become a bit of an issue. I wasn't embarrassed that he brought it up as an issue as it just gave me the confidence and reassurance that I shouldn't be embarrassed about it . Therefore your girlfriend probably doesn't realise how much it matters to you and surely if she really wants to be with you and wants to make you happy she'd compromise for you as this is what you do in relationships

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ComputerMaths97

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The only people saying you're being pathetic are those who have never experienced this, giving and not getting in a sexual sense, so just ignore them.

It's very tough but I promise you she'll eventually come around. With my ex (who actually ended up cheating on me, which is ironic since we didn't do anything sexual for months because I knew she didn't want to, as soon as we do something she suddenly wants it every day...) the day she finally reciprocated was a day I randomly decided to treat her. We had a day out, amazing restaurant etc, then when we got back to my place she just basically decided she wanted to "reward me" (her words not mine). Just be patient my friend, it feels like she'll never do it, even the day before she does.

If however you are only dating her for sexual favour, do yourself a favour and don't date, just get a fwb

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Original post by Anonymous

Hello. My girlfriend of four months doesn't give blowjobs yet loves me going down on her (which I do). Every time I bring it up she says she doesnt like doing it but will one day. :rolleyes:

Its getting to the point where I am considering breaking up with her over this. Receiving oral sex is something I really like and am used to as my exes did it. I don't know how to approach this as I really like her but don't want to be in a relationship where I don't receive blowjobs.

Help?

I'm surprised some ppl can only think of insults such as "immature" and "weird" to justify their points of view!

Personally I don't see the big deal. If she doesn't want it but you do then it's completely understandable that you wouldn't want to put up with that. Maybe if she could offer something else she would prefer instead (and you accept) that would be the fairest way and both of you would be happy.

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Original post by ComputerMaths97

The only people saying you're being pathetic are those who have never experienced this, giving and not getting in a sexual sense, so just ignore them.

You have no idea what other people's experiences have been. I have been in this situation and it hasn't bothered me. If you give only to receive you are infantile. The 'getting' in return is knowing you're satisfying and pleasing your partner, who you like or love, and knowing that you aren't making them do something they are uncomfortable with in return. If all you care about is what you can get out of a girl then don't get into a relationship :rolleyes:

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Original post by x-bhakti-patel

I think maybe u should just give her time, as some girls may not be comfortable with things like this, and is getting a blowjob really more important than ur love for her? :s-smilie:

Comparing love to a blowjob is a ridiculous and meaningless comparison.

Original post by infairverona

If you give only to receive you are infantile. The 'getting' in return is knowing you're satisfying and pleasing your partner, who you like or love, and knowing that you aren't making them do something they are uncomfortable with in return. If all you care about is what you can get out of a girl then don't get into a relationship :rolleyes:

You're very opinionated, got any logic or reasons to justify your point of view?

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Original post by xylas

Comparing love to a blowjob is a ridiculous and meaningless comparison.

You're very opinionated, got any logic or reasons to justify your point of view?

I've already given my reasons - not my issue if you can't understand it. As I said, I can understand being frustrated. But if you love someone and you're willing to break up with them because they won't do what you want them to do sexually, there's something wrong.

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Alba2013

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Original post by infairverona

You have no idea what other people's experiences have been. I have been in this situation and it hasn't bothered me. If you give only to receive you are infantile. The 'getting' in return is knowing you're satisfying and pleasing your partner, who you like or love, and knowing that you aren't making them do something they are uncomfortable with in return. If all you care about is what you can get out of a girl then don't get into a relationship :rolleyes:

I respectfully disagree. If I am with a partner I want him to love every last bit of me, and make pleasing me a priority, the same way I love all his bits and pieces and make pleasing him a priority. Honestly I have no time for people who get all squeamish in the bedroom and if OP had been a girl I would recommend exactly the same; dump and never look back.

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Original post by infairverona

I've already given my reasons - not my issue if you can't understand it. As I said, I can understand being frustrated. But if you love someone and you're willing to break up with them because they won't do what you want them to do sexually, there's something wrong.

Those aren't reasons those are more opinions. Writing a set of absolute statements does not make you right.

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Original post by xylas

Those aren't reasons those are more opinions. Writing a set of absolute statements does not make you right.

I am quite obviously expressing my opinion as is anyone on this forum :rolleyes:

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Original post by infairverona

I am quite obviously expressing my opinion as is anyone on this forum :rolleyes:

"my opinion" = many opinions without further justification. :rolleyes:

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Original post by xylas

"my opinion" = many opinions without further justification. :rolleyes:

I've given justification - I think it's childish to prioritise sex when you are in a relationship with someone you claim to like. If it was just a friend with benefits or something sure, but I would have thought feelings towards someone are more important in a relationship than whether or not they will do every sexual act that you demand of them. With stuff like this there is never a right or wrong answer - what's right for me is obviously not what's right for OP - I am just giving my opinion as I see it differently. If you haven't read what I've posted and can't seem to grasp why I've said what I've said - despite the fact that I've now repeated it a third time for you - then that's your problem

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x-bhakti-patel

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Original post by xylas

Comparing love to a blowjob is a ridiculous and meaningless comparison.

How if u dont mind me asking? I really do not get what u are trying to say? :s-smilie:

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Original post by x-bhakti-patel

How if u dont mind me asking? I really do not get what u are trying to say? :s-smilie:

No problem it's quite simple. When you wrote "is getting a blowjob really more important than ur love for her?" that is a ridiculous comparison to make.

By what criteria are you judging one to be more important than the other? They are completely different things so any answers to this question are completely meaningless.

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