If the sexes were reversed in this story, this thread would be bursting with men telling to op to acknowledge the fact that 'men are visual' and for them to wake up to the reality of the importance of this within the relationship. To 'put the fork down bitch'.
Instead it's peppered with butt-hurts.
Just lose the weight op. Why on earth would you want to stay fat? I don't understand how people can see that their waist line is expanding and think the situation is ok.