My gf doesnt want me at her freshers week.

Right, my gf is about to go uni in Sept, and she doesnt want me to come to her freshers week because she wants to make friends etc and ill be just in the way.

Im trying to make a point and i will show this thread to her. I think its unfair, what do you think?

But telling us which uni you're going and when was really unecessary!

Some points are so obvious they don't need explaining.

IIRC, I suggested you not to be so rude and explained your point, to help him see his errors. Young couples are frequently misunderstanding relationships qualities and it's far more constructive to help them see what's right and wrong. Whilst it doesn't apply to your OP, as I'm sure you're not an abusive partner, but this is the root cause for the increase of young and abusive relationships.

Pointing out how where someone has gone wrong is far more productive and valuable, as opposed just throwing one liners out there for the sake of likes.

IIRC, I suggested you not to be so rude and explained your point, to help him see his errors. Young couples are frequently misunderstanding relationships qualities and it's far more constructive to help them see what's right and wrong. Whilst it doesn't apply to you OP, as I'm sure you're not an abusive partner, but this is the root cause for the increase of young and abusive relationships - misunderstanding and incorrect expectations.

Pointing out how where someone has gone wrong is far more productive and valuable, as opposed just throwing one liners out there for the sake of likes.

You're right, I'm not an abusive partner, but thank you for pointing out that one characteristic trait I have is a sign that I might become abusive in the future. It's always nice to know that.

I'm blunt. I've always been blunt because that seems to be the way that people get the message in my personal experience. I also prefer it if people were to be blunt to me. I'm a very literal person. I literally could not give a **** about the 'likes'.

OP - what are your reasons for wanting to go with her?

I don't want to sound rude, truly I don't, but your post makes you appear to be clingy and needy. Are there trust issues in your relationship? Have you been together long? You need to be able to enjoy the time you have apart in equal measure to the time you have together to have a healthy relationship and one that will be a "forever" relationship should that be what you're striving to have.

Speaking as a woman who has been married for 8 years I love when my husband is away for a couple of weeks just as much as I love having him home and we trust each other entirely because neither of us have given reason to the other not to. Respect her to attend freshers week freely and she'll appreciate you all the more for it.

Right, my gf is about to go uni in Sept, and she doesnt want me to come to her freshers week because she wants to make friends etc and ill be just in the way.

Im trying to make a point and i will show this thread to her. I think its unfair, what do you think?

...doesn't sound like a desirable relationship to me!

The "your" was a typo, I was actually directing that part towards the OP. I corrected my typo .

I appreciate the "straight to the point" approach, but personally I think it's always more practical to approach sensitive topics, in a sensitive category of the forum, with a sensitive and considerate attitude. As relationships help you learn about yourself, not just other people.

I don't even know why I did it but there we go. You learnt something new about me today. And just so you know, it might not even be Cardiff. That's just in my little ideal world in my head.

Right, my gf is about to go uni in Sept, and she doesnt want me to come to her freshers week because she wants to make friends etc and ill be just in the way.

Im trying to make a point and i will show this thread to her. I think its unfair, what do you think?

Well sorry I replied like that then.

My approach is my approach. It's what I prefer so I use it with other people too. If someone wants my point elaborated then I would do so, but I'm not going to change my initial comment. If I were to be really blunt I'd say OP is a stupid, possessive idiot who will not give his girlfriend space at a time when she really needs it. He posted another thread saying he was going to see her at least twice a week while she's at university and personally I think that shows that he's insecure. Of course it's also because he'll be going from seeing her loads to not at all and he's scared the relationship might change/fizzle out as a result and I get that, but from my personal experience I actually rather like (but also hate at the same time) not seeing my boyfriend much during uni, and I think he does too. He does a demanding course, I quit one demanding course to start another one and we're both going to need time to study when we're both at university once again. His girlfriend will need time to study too.

University is one big balancing act. The OP said he has been through it all before. Would he have REALLY wanted his girlfriend at his fresher's week? I assume not.

To YOU being the main word here. We don't actively try to find ways to be apart but when they happen, life is still very much enjoyable for US.


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