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My gf doesnt want me at her freshers week.

Right, my gf is about to go uni in Sept, and she doesnt want me to come to her freshers week because she wants to make friends etc and ill be just in the way.

Im trying to make a point and i will show this thread to her. I think its unfair, what do you think?

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Wouldn't say its unfair tbh. She will only have one freshers week remember. Is there any particular reason why you want to go?
Well, why do you think it's unfair?
Possessive much? Just leave her alone.
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She's entirely right. I believe if you were to linger around like a bad smell, she would find it somewhat challenging to make friends.
She want's to become a slag. That's hard when you have a boyfriend hanging about, I'd imagine.
This completely makes sense. She wants to have the full uni experience, for her. Stop being so clingy.
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She's right, it just wouldn't work. If your relationship is to stand a chance of surviving this transition you will need to learn to back off and believe that 'absence makes the heart grow fonder'. If you can do this and stay confident there is a glimmer of hope for a future together..
Why do you want to go? She doesn't need you to hold her hand whilst she makes friends.
You may well hinder her attempts at striking up new friendships if the boyfriend is hanging around and especially if you expect her to spend time alone with you/take you everywhere. Her not wanting you around doesn't mean she wants to sleep around, chill out and don't be all possessive/clingy.
Original post by Holby_fanatic
Possessive much? Just leave her alone.


I agree with the leave her alone part. Dump her like you'd dump rubbish in to a rubbish dump.
She's right and it's not unfair.
Well, i'm gonna assume you trust her. If you dont, or if she is the type to do something wrong, then you shouldn't be with her in the first place and have bigger issues than Freshers Week.

So, assuming there is no concern there, you need to let her enjoy herself without having to worry about you or make sure you're ok, etc. Why do you want to crowd her particularly? Let her be independent, to learn, to grow.
Not much you can say really to this, your looking at the bad and you shouldn't.
She has earned it as she got in to uni, i would be more proud of her for that than worrying about freshers week.
Original post by ChelseaFCCC
Right, my gf is about to go uni in Sept, and she doesnt want me to come to her freshers week because she wants to make friends etc and ill be just in the way.

Im trying to make a point and i will show this thread to her. I think its unfair, what do you think?


I agree with her. And it's her freshers week, not yours...
I really don't get what's unfair. In freshers, you go out, socialise and make friends. Not saying she can't do that when you're there, but when people know someone they're out with (especially in freshers - seen it happen) they tend to cling to them, and I don't think that's good when you're trying to make friends. It's about being independent.
If you trust her, there shouldn't be a problem.
Leave her to go to her Freshers week alone. She is right, is a time to socialize and make new friends. Is a bit odd her boyfriend tagging along to Freshers week when he doesn't even go to the university. Visit her after she has settled in :^_^:
And thus begins the route to the inevitable break up.
I'm assuming you've been or are still at uni, and have experienced freshers' week for yourself.

How would you have responded to someone who had their other half tagging along all the time? It's difficult trying to talk to someone when their non-uni partners are around, a) because you don't know if the partner would be suspicious of your motives, and b) the person clearly values their partner over socialising and making friends.

I had an extremely awkward moment last year, where I became fairly good friends with a girl from the flat next door, but when her boyfriend found out we were mates, he began facebook-stalking me, leaving me weird, vaguely threatening messages, which didn't even stop when I told him I was actually gay, so he had no worries as far as her friendship with me was concerned.

The occasional visit is fine, but being there the whole of freshers week is going to be awkward, and is unreasonable of you to demand, imho.
:zorro: What uni is she going to?
Original post by ChelseaFCCC
Right, my gf is about to go uni in Sept, and she doesnt want me to come to her freshers week because she wants to make friends etc and ill be just in the way.

Im trying to make a point and i will show this thread to her. I think its unfair, what do you think?


Hi do dont go she needs to do this on her own... and let her have her time and space... and do you realy want to see the guys who may be there to.. it will do your head in .

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