Cheating on a spouse should be a crime
Law exists so that there are consequences for those who cause harm. The harm of adultery is extreme, it can lead to feelings of abandonment, jealousy, depression, even suicide, it can destroy people, their relationships, it can linger over their lives for years. This is just the effect of the person cheated on. There is also guilt, issues relating to children aid divorce, divorced kids who grow up without parents. It ruins so many lives, why isn't it a serious crime?
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nah i dont wanna be arrested every week thanks very much
Original post by Reue
So to help someone get over their partner cheating you’d lock the partner up? Doesn’t really seem to help the situation at all.
Think the idea is for it to act more as a deterrent than anything. Some people cheat because they don't really care that much if their current relationship comes to an end, whereas they might think twice if they know they could face jail time.
Though, there would have to be clear legal boundaries as to what constitutes cheating, and gaining substantial proof could be tricky. It could also cause people to deny it until they're blue in the face if there's no real proof, where they'd otherwise admit it through guilt.
Cheating is horrendous and it's only when you've seen the worst of it you realise just how much pain and trauma it can cause. People who cheat to the extent where it ruins lives do not deserve any inch of happiness.
It's strange. People demand increased sexual freedom, free from moral judgment and restraint, while at the same time expecting fidelity.
Both desires are fundamentally incompatible, so it's no surprise that relations between the sexes are more fraught than ever.
Both desires are fundamentally incompatible, so it's no surprise that relations between the sexes are more fraught than ever.
Original post by tashkent46
Law exists so that there are consequences for those who cause harm. The harm of adultery is extreme, it can lead to feelings of abandonment, jealousy, depression, even suicide, it can destroy people, their relationships, it can linger over their lives for years. This is just the effect of the person cheated on. There is also guilt, issues relating to children aid divorce, divorced kids who grow up without parents. It ruins so many lives, why isn't it a serious crime?
Far too arbitrary. No boundaries can be stated. What is considered cheating? People will take advantage of such a system and evidence or verification is also difficult to come-by. It most definitely is morally incorrect, but legally there is nothing that can be done. Especially with our current legal system there will be loopholes and misconceptions within the law.
Addionally, you can count how much as been stolen from a bank, you can analysis the injuries caused, but you cannot measure or determine the emotional pain imbedded in the victim. Therefore making it an unreasonable, undesirable approach.
Original post by UWS
Define cheating though. Sex? A kiss? Visiting a strip club? Watching porn? Liking someone's picture on Instagram? Everyone has their own boundaries when it comes to a relationship.
Winking at me the wrong way
laws shouldn't be made to control personal relationships.
Original post by UWS
Define cheating though. Sex? A kiss? Visiting a strip club? Watching porn? Liking someone's picture on Instagram? Everyone has their own boundaries when it comes to a relationship.
Honestly, I do not see a problem to legislate a law to criminalize sexual intercourse with a third party without your spouse's consent as cheating when you are married.
Test my statement if you think I am wrong.
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Cheating is undoubtedly up there with the most awful things a human being can do to another. My partner was cheated on years ago and he struggles to show love to this day because last time he gave a girl everything she ripped it apart right in front of him and then walked out on him and their newborn baby.
But it can't be made a crime.
It's just too hard to define, as others have said above. You would never be able to make criteria that would result in any kind of predictable outcomes in court.
I have never, ever understood why people cheat. If you need sex/emotional support that you're not getting from your partner, you're with the wrong partner. If there are kids involved it's so much crueller, and setting a bad example, to stay with someone you're not happy with.
If you're not happy, leave. Yes, this will hurt them, but it is nowhere near as soul destroying as knowing that you've spent the last few months excitedly waiting for your partner to come home every night, all the while they have been meeting up with someone else and planning to leave you. Absolutely not cool, at all.
But it can't be made a crime.
It's just too hard to define, as others have said above. You would never be able to make criteria that would result in any kind of predictable outcomes in court.
I have never, ever understood why people cheat. If you need sex/emotional support that you're not getting from your partner, you're with the wrong partner. If there are kids involved it's so much crueller, and setting a bad example, to stay with someone you're not happy with.
If you're not happy, leave. Yes, this will hurt them, but it is nowhere near as soul destroying as knowing that you've spent the last few months excitedly waiting for your partner to come home every night, all the while they have been meeting up with someone else and planning to leave you. Absolutely not cool, at all.
My uncle used this break up conversation verbatim practically every single month with ex girlfriend after ex-girlfriend.
By the time I was 6, I had it memorized off by heart.
He was a player, dated bunnies at the playboy club and never married.
By the time I was 6, I had it memorized off by heart.
He was a player, dated bunnies at the playboy club and never married.
Original post by RivalPlayer
It's strange. People demand increased sexual freedom, free from moral judgment and restraint, while at the same time expecting fidelity.
Both desires are fundamentally incompatible, so it's no surprise that relations between the sexes are more fraught than ever.
Both desires are fundamentally incompatible, so it's no surprise that relations between the sexes are more fraught than ever.
Original post by tashkent46
Law exists so that there are consequences for those who cause harm. The harm of adultery is extreme, it can lead to feelings of abandonment, jealousy, depression, even suicide, it can destroy people, their relationships, it can linger over their lives for years. This is just the effect of the person cheated on. There is also guilt, issues relating to children aid divorce, divorced kids who grow up without parents. It ruins so many lives, why isn't it a serious crime?
There's no denying the potential negative effects, but where do you draw the line? Hurting someone's feelings can never be a crime, IMO.
Original post by KeirCKF
Honestly, I do not see a problem to legislate a law to criminalize sexual intercourse with a third party without your spouse's consent as cheating when you are married.
Test my statement if you think I am wrong.
Test my statement if you think I am wrong.
By why draw the line there. Some devout religious people may be as upset by kissing as a normal person would be by sex? You can't universalise pain.
Hence prenups, where every couple can define their own boundaries.
Original post by TastyChicken
Addionally, you can count how much as been stolen from a bank, you can analysis the injuries caused, but you cannot measure or determine the emotional pain imbedded in the victim. Therefore making it an unreasonable, undesirable approach.
Judges already take into account the damage that crimes like rape can cause in terms of mental health, why is it significantly different? The fact is there is no judicial precedent on earth which is not based on some degree of subjective emotivism. Why don't we just let people murder each other?
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