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A question for Muslims...is it okay to have gay friends?

Anonymous

My best mate is gay. We are so close and I just found out a few days ago that he is gay.
Is it ok to remain friends with him? I love him dearly much, but I need to know...I watched this program called 'Skins' and there's two best friends, Anwar (who is Muslim) and Maxxie (who is gay), and Anwar tells Maxxie that he can't be his friend anymore because he's a Muslim and he doesn't choose his friends. Poor Maxxie was really really sad and offended... :frown:

So what do you Muslims think? Is there anywhere written in Islam where you can't be friends with gay people?

did you even watch the whole episode? anwar's dad speaks sense, listen to the man. also, anwar was more reluctant about staying friends because he thought his parents wouldn't approve, because of islam, but he was wrong so everyone was happy in the end. except tony, but who cares about him really.

Reply 21

La Môme

Anonymous

YES IT IS! Anything that harms your HEALTH is haram in Islam!
Go consult an expert before you make these silly assumptions!

I meant that in the sense that smoking isn't condemned in the Quran by name as strongly as something as murder, drinking, adultery, etc. I'm aware there are provisions against khamr and what harms your health, but my point was that "smoking" isn't something that's prohibited by name.

For example, there is the story that when the revelations prohibiting drinking came into full force, people threw their alcohol out into the streets so that it seemed like there was a river of wine. I don't remember anything in the Quran or Sunnah about smoking being prohibited and everyone throwing out their cigarettes so it was like a tower of tobacco or something...

Maybe read a little deeper before you call my assumptions silly? It seems like you're the one assuming here, I merely made a statement that was perhaps a bit too ambiguous.

Reply 22

Anonymous #3

La Môme

I meant that in the sense that smoking isn't condemned in the Quran by name as strongly as something as murder, drinking, adultery, etc. I'm aware there are provisions against khamr and what harms your health, but my point was that "smoking" isn't something that's prohibited by name.

For example, there is the story that when the revelations prohibiting drinking came into full force, people threw their alcohol out into the streets so that it seemed like there was a river of wine. I don't remember anything in the Quran or Sunnah about smoking being prohibited and everyone throwing out their cigarettes so it was like a tower of tobacco or something...

Maybe read a little deeper before you call my assumptions silly? It seems like you're the one assuming here, I merely made a statement that was perhaps a bit too ambiguous.

Smoking is Haram so is eating pork etc, Its just that there were no cigerettes at that time so obviously its not specifically mentioned. Even drinking alcohol is not specifically mentioned, the Quran says intoxication is not allowed so its ijma that as Alcohol causes intoxication therefore its not allowed.
Now, anything that harms your health including smoking drugs etc is Haram and as smoking harms your health therefore its haram aswell.

Answering the OP's question I dont think theres anything wrong with it as longs as you dont turn gay although I am no scholar so I would advise asking someone learned if you wanna be completely sure.

Reply 23

LetoKynes

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Anonymous

Smoking is Haram so is eating pork etc, Its just that there were no cigerettes at that time so obviously its not specifically mentioned. Even drinking alcohol is not specifically mentioned, the Quran says intoxication is not allowed so its ijma that as Alcohol causes intoxication therefore its not allowed.
Now, anything that harms your health including smoking drugs etc is Haram and as smoking harms your health therefore its haram aswell.

Answering the OP's question I dont think theres anything wrong with it as longs as you dont turn gay although I am no scholar so I would advise asking someone learned if you wanna be completely sure.

Fatty foods harm your health, why aren't they haram?

Reply 24

MoonwalkBaby

1

Don't see why not. Love your neighbour.

Reply 25

Ben F

10

You should let your religion guide your life; not take over it. In other words, don't destroy a good friendship over something as silly as sexuality, it doesn't change your friend in any way.

Reply 26

Anonymous #4

I think you can be friends with him, just don't take him to any Muslim countries cus he'll be killed by your savage religious brothers. But hey, he gets to choose his death - stoning, cut in half or hung?

Reply 27

morecambebay

16

BrightGirl

Know your own ******* religion so you can justify believing in it.

this

Reply 28

Anonymous #3

LetoKynes

Fatty foods harm your health, why aren't they haram?

They dont harm your health as much as smoking, drugs do. If fatty food were made haram then many other thing would be aswell, go to be practical aswell!

Reply 29

Anonymous #1

OP

Nfixlol

did you even watch the whole episode? anwar's dad speaks sense, listen to the man. also, anwar was more reluctant about staying friends because he thought his parents wouldn't approve, because of islam, but he was wrong so everyone was happy in the end. except tony, but who cares about him really.

I know of course I did watch the whole episode.
Oh and why was Tony unhappy? :p:

Reply 30

olive*

12

'be not cast by your own hands to ruin' (2:195)

Whether or not smoking is haram is open to personal interpretation, but that's what the Qur'an has to say about it :rolleyes:

OP, I think it's fine to have a gay friend - you are not responsible for your friend's sexuality, nor should you base your friendship on it :smile:

but you shouldn't encourage him to engage in haram activity, because then you'd be leading him to sin. Makes sense?

Reply 31

Nick_000

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Anonymous

Smoking is Haram so is eating pork etc, Its just that there were no cigerettes at that time so obviously its not specifically mentioned. Even drinking alcohol is not specifically mentioned, the Quran says intoxication is not allowed so its ijma that as Alcohol causes intoxication therefore its not allowed.
Now, anything that harms your health including smoking drugs etc is Haram and as smoking harms your health therefore its haram

Answering the OP's question I dont think theres anything wrong with it as longs as you dont turn gay although I am no scholar so I would advise asking someone learned if you wanna be completely sure.

Turn gay? Can you catch it?

Reply 32

BrightGirl

15

Pheylan

yes indeed

hello.

Reply 33

Anonymous #3

Nick_000

Turn gay? Can you catch it?

LOL no :P:
I was just saying btw!

Reply 34

Nfixlol

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Anonymous

I know of course I did watch the whole episode.
Oh and why was Tony unhappy? :p:

he got hit by a bus lol :rofl:

Reply 35

Cinmatographic

I'm Muslim and one of my best friends is gay and it's never been an issue.
I don't think it's wrong. That is how he was born, but even if I did it still wouldn't justify my cutting ties, lots of people have friends who they don't always agree with but as long as it doesn't directly affect the relationship what's the problem?

matrix15

If you base your life on skins you'll end up being hit by a bus.

Brilliant. :top:

Reply 36

Undiscovery

sundance_kid

Really OP, don't let it ruin a good friendship.

Oh pur-lease. We haven't even seen these two kiss properly yet, let alone any guy on guy action. I am still hoping for some skin...

no it is not okay.

Anonymous

My best mate is gay. We are so close and I just found out a few days ago that he is gay.
Is it ok to remain friends with him? I love him dearly much, but I need to know...I watched this program called 'Skins' and there's two best friends, Anwar (who is Muslim) and Maxxie (who is gay), and Anwar tells Maxxie that he can't be his friend anymore because he's a Muslim and he doesn't choose his friends. Poor Maxxie was really really sad and offended... :frown:

So what do you Muslims think? Is there anywhere written in Islam where you can't be friends with gay people?

the research the writers of skins did on islam most probably came of wikipedia in a 'that'll do' sort of mentality - so i wouldn't ditch good friendship based on this show - dunno about your actual question