do i even bother with my boyfriend?

yeah, i can see how you can think that, cos its hard to take the risk, but how else will you find out for sure. when's he back? or is he not.

same sort of thing for me, he's moving away to uni, thats why we're 'casual', but i'd love it to be more. i don't feel close to him at all right now, and i doubt his feelings.

text him and say "hey, what was that text all about? are you wanting to split up?" or something equally direct and straightforward. men are stupid (sorry guys, you might be einstein but you're still stupid), you need to be very clear about what you're asking him. remember this is the sex that interprets "hi, how are you" as "I want to sleep with you right now"

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text him and say "hey, what was that text all about? are you wanting to split up?" or something equally direct and straightforward. men are stupid (sorry guys, you might be einstein but you're still stupid), you need to be very clear about what you're asking him. remember this is the sex that interprets "hi, how are you" as "I want to sleep with you right now"

What a load of sexist rubbish.

Texts are so easy to misinterpret. Personally, if I had sent that text, it would me I wasn't having a good time, "sluts" are generally women I want to avoid. He's abroad so wait till he get's home before you give him the 3rd degree.

thats what he said before (hates sluts) but he's easily influenced by his mates who like to mess about.
he might be abroad for the rest of summer. what do i do if i dont hear from him the whole of summer? would that be fair on me?

No! Wait for him to text you!!!

I bet he was drunk when he said that..

Well he should get in touch with you, if he doesn't then carry on as if you are single.

and exactly how much time do i give him?

As much, or as little, as you want, you are the boss. When I go away with work or whatever, I phone my girlfriend every day, or at least text her a few times - I'd think that was pretty normal for a serious relationship.

He might just have been stating a fact. Maybe there are lots of sluts there. Doesn't mean he is doing anything with them. You cant do anything more about it till you have more evidence.

I agree, he probably was just telling you or just messing around as a joke.

I'd council against getting too upset
I have a history of breaking up with guys when I realise they are getting too close to other girls and I see it as only a matter of time before they dump me
If he doesn't want to be with you then he'll TELL you
So just try to forget him
When he gets back yell all you want - but don't do anything rash now

i know but think he might stay there til sept... why cant he jus end it instead of keeping it like this?
if he really cared he wud at least tell me something more than theres lots of sluts here!

you said it