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    (I think it should be a choice for either partner not a necessity. )

    Dicuss.

    Edit: removed "heterosexual" from title and rejigged it, caused discussion away from question.
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    It is a choice?

    Plus I'm not sure why sexuality should come in to it?
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    Nah, doesn't matter either way. We're going with what sounds best.
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    (Original post by Brit_Miller)
    Nah, doesn't matter either way. We're going with what sounds best.
    Yep. Exactly that.
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    A choice :yep:
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    It's her choice. However if the guy does not want to marry her because she wont then that is also his choice.
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    (Original post by -=|Jay|=-)
    It is a choice?

    Plus I'm not sure why sexuality should come in to it?
    Because gay marriage hasn't always been legal.
    In the heterosexual marriages i think i read 90% of women change their last names.
    The question is to provoke discussion. And see where people stand.
    Plus I had to put heterosexual women, not all women who get married, marry a man. That would be assuming. And i wanted to ask specifically about male female relationships.
    Which, I can do.
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    (Original post by anonymouspie227)
    Because gay marriage hasn't always been legal.
    In the heterosexual marriages i think i read 90% of women change their last names.
    The question is to provoke discussion. And see where people stand.
    Plus I had to put heterosexual women, not all women who get married, marry a man. That would be assuming. And i wanted to ask specifically about male female relationships.
    Which, I can do.
    Not all women who marry a man are heterosexual. Just saying.

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    Not necessarily unless they wish it. But the children should have a combined surname made of names of the parents.

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    Point remains I'm talking about male female marriages. The heterosexual bit was just to highlight that not only heteros marry. K.
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    Not all women who marry a man are heterosexual. Just saying.

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    Women again trying to make it seem like they are being oppressed by men. Nothing new to see here.
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    100% choice of the couple in question

    Personally, I'm definitely going to take on my husband's name if I marry.
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    It should be a choice.

    My mum actually kept her maiden name and I was given my dad's surname.
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    So does the children having mixed surnames depend on if the women takes the surname or on the marriage itself?

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    Not necessarily unless they wish it. But the children should have a combined surname made of names of the parents.

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    (Original post by thatswhy)
    Women again trying to make it seem like they are being oppressed by men. Nothing new to see here.
    So ironic.
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    (Original post by anonymouspie227)
    (I think it should be a choice for either partner not a necessity. )
    I basically agree with this. I think it's sad that so many women readily give up their identities (to adopt someone else's) though. In an ideal world I would keep my name or hybridise/remix it with my partner's. I don't like the idea of all of my future offspring having only my husband's name, either. Anything that sits in my womb for 9 months is coming out with my [hybridised] name on it!
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    Nop, this isn't allowed in Islam.

    EDIT: women are not belongings of the man.
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    100% choice of the couple in question

    Personally, I'm definitely going to take on my husband's name if I marry.
    What if he has a name that really wouldn't go well you know, really stupid


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    I'm not.

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    I agree!
    (Original post by tnetennba)
    I basically agree with this. I think it's sad that so many women readily give up their identities (to adopt someone else's) though. In an ideal world I would keep my name or hybridise/remix it with my partner's. I don't like the idea of all of my future offspring having only my husband's name, either. Anything that sits in my womb for 9 months is coming out with my [hybridised] name on it!
 
 
 
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