I'm not talking about single people in general, but over a certain age. Do you think that when you get to a certain age group, that to an extent, the "best ones are taken"?
I was discussing this with a friend who had an interesting point of view. Where I'm from (and in general in bigger cities) there is quite a bit of women, and a few men, whom are single in their 30s. A lot of the women are attractive enough, and have good jobs. I don't know what their reasons for being single are, but I assume they haven't met anyone they see fit for marrying yet. My friend then said she was tired of that nonsense and that if those women never found anyone "worthy of them", it's because they have an unrealistic picture of what they deserve. They simply aren't good enough for a man who ticks all their boxes (men there are painfully few of, I might add). She also said that 90% of the time when you find a man in late thirties/40 who tick all the boxes, he will be divorced. If he is single and have been for such a long time, he is not the kind to settle down and is basically pushing it ahead of himself as long as he can. There are exceptions, but most of the time, a great guy with options who wants a family will find someone during his studies or while working.
And I agree with this to an extent. After all, there is a natural selection out there, where some people get snapped up. My mum told me "you cannot say such a thing out loud", but isn't that the truth? Keep in mind: I AM not talking about women who don't want to get married or have children, I am talking about those who happen to be 37 and ideally would want to settle down, but now find time running out. I know plenty who are "just having fun", but would prefer to enter something more serious with their hookups (getting emotionally involved). If a woman is dating many men and nobody wants anything serious with her, isn't that a sign? I know it sounds mean and all that and I'm not looking to offend anyone (singel myself
), but I know several women in this situation, and most of the time it seems they actually have either an unrealistic picture of what they deserve or they simply aren't "marriage material" for most men. Do you agree?