I am 23 and don't know what to do with my life, I need serious advice please?

I'm really frustrated at the moment because I really don't know what I want to do with my life, and I'm 23 years old. I'm not happy because I'm confused, I don't want to be working in a food store for the rest of my life, so please help. I was thinking of University, but in the end I don't know if I want to do that any more, and in all honesty I don't know what I truly want to have as a career. I'm so confused! It's really stressing me out, and I just don't want to think about it to be honest. I just don't have a concrete plan on what I want to do. I'm getting older and older, but really don't have a clue what I want to do with my life. I feel like giving up, but I'm not going to because I'm a fighter. What career should I have? I don't want to do a trade job or anything like that. I just want to be happy in the career I choose, and not have to worry about waking up in the morning for "another day" at work.

Reply 1

Zacho

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Original post by Young1

I'm really frustrated at the moment because I really don't know what I want to do with my life, and I'm 23 years old. I'm not happy because I'm confused, I don't want to be working in a food store for the rest of my life, so please help. I was thinking of University, but in the end I don't know if I want to do that any more, and in all honesty I don't know what I truly want to have as a career. I'm so confused! It's really stressing me out, and I just don't want to think about it to be honest. I just don't have a concrete plan on what I want to do. I'm getting older and older, but really don't have a clue what I want to do with my life. I feel like giving up, but I'm not going to because I'm a fighter. What career should I have? I don't want to do a trade job or anything like that. I just want to be happy in the career I choose, and not have to worry about waking up in the morning for "another day" at work.

you have to think about what interests you? Does academia interest you? If so, university might be a good idea. There is nothing wrong with working in a food store by the way but if you want to do something else then go for it. 23 isn't too old by any means. It really isn't.

If you are really not happy then make changes.

Reply 2

Balloon Baboon

19

Like Zacho said, you need to first find what you are really interested in and then go from there. Without realising what you like first you'll struggle.

Reply 3

BlueCat22

Hey, dont worry i feel your pain lol I felt the same at 23..im now 26 and i cant say i really know alot more of the direction i want to go in.

Ive been to uni & iv a good degree in psychology..iv worked in a few jobs since graduating that have been related to psychology and some not such as support worker, admin assistant and i know i need to specialise but i dont know what in!

I too feel like yeh im getting older and i need to pick a path and stick to it..the peps that said first you need to start with what interests you are spot on.

Like you mite have to sit back abit and actually consciously realise..hey i really enjoy music, dancing, maths, interacting with the public all day, skateboarding lol i dunno it will be specific to your own life..what do you enjoy doing most?

Mine has always been music and dance..but how do ya realistically make that pay da bills? so i decided to go conventional..uni and then i thot id be sorted..not so..a degree these days is only the begining you need a masters and experience to get anywhere now.

THink practically, do you want to focus another 3/4 yrs on study? maybe yes, ul meet new peps, new experiences, learn alot about something lol or pick an area and get experience in it and then look for vocational courses to help you move up.

Im thinking human resources now for myself..but really what i wanna do is go and work in New York, experience travel, the Carribean and maybe LA. THen back to reality..gotta pick a job! lol dont worry most peps dont really know n kinda fall into a direction n their career & just go with it, think of it like this your lucky, your really young(cuz 23 is really young even tho u mite nt think so rite now) you get to sit back and really chose a direction you mite really enjoy, goodluck...dunno if ive helped at all! mayb someone could give me advice on here! lol :wink:

Reply 4

smileybop

10

Not all careers need you to go to uni ... how about applying for something iike cabin crew? Police officer? Firefighter?

And, working at a food store could easily one day leading to you being manager, then area manager ..then regional manager .. then, well im not sure what comes after that but you get what I mean.

Skys the limit. 23 isnt old.

Reply 5

mermania

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I don't know either :sad:

Reply 6

Balloon Baboon

19

Have a talk with Next Step. They can give you advice and help you figure out what you want todo.

https://nextstep.direct.gov.uk/Pages/Home.aspx

Reply 7

Balloon Baboon

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Original post by smileybop

Police officer? Firefighter?

Most are not recruiting due to goverment cut backs.

Reply 8

Theconomist

You should get a grip on your life and aim for a goal and go for it.You can be anything you want in this world(considering you were born white and male) so just pick a goal and the star is the limit.

Reply 9

Sahfire

if you've got the money you should try travelling :smile:

you'll have the opportunity to see the world, meet loads of people and just through hearing other peoples stories you might start to get an idea of what you might want to do yourself.
also its going to be the best time you have to travel, before you do actually have commitments or a career.
plus you'll meet loads of people who are in the same position as you and aren't sure either what to do with their lives.
DO IT YOU'LL HAVE THE TIME OF YOUR LIFE!!! :biggrin:

Reply 10

Neostigmine

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Original post by Sahfire

if you've got the money you should try travelling :smile:

you'll have the opportunity to see the world, meet loads of people and just through hearing other peoples stories you might start to get an idea of what you might want to do yourself.
also its going to be the best time you have to travel, before you do actually have commitments or a career.
plus you'll meet loads of people who are in the same position as you and aren't sure either what to do with their lives.
DO IT YOU'LL HAVE THE TIME OF YOUR LIFE!!! :biggrin:

Thank's a nice idea. Or volunteering I found really helped me to find something I could be passionate about.

Reply 11

simstar

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Original post by Young1

and not have to worry about waking up in the morning for "another day" at work.

I've been to uni and got a decent job but we all still wake up feeling like this, so maybe you should stop feeling sorry for yourself .

Original post by Theconomist

ou can be anything you want in this world(considering you were born white and male).

What lol?

Reply 12

mermania

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Original post by Lee R

Have a talk with Next Step. They can give you advice and help you figure out what you want todo.

https://nextstep.direct.gov.uk/Pages/Home.aspx

I did the questionnaire thing on that site and its suggestions were bizarre :sad:

Reply 13

magnum.opus

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Original post by Sahfire

if you've got the money you should try travelling :smile:

you'll have the opportunity to see the world, meet loads of people and just through hearing other peoples stories you might start to get an idea of what you might want to do yourself.
also its going to be the best time you have to travel, before you do actually have commitments or a career.
plus you'll meet loads of people who are in the same position as you and aren't sure either what to do with their lives.
DO IT YOU'LL HAVE THE TIME OF YOUR LIFE!!! :biggrin:

Nice avatar :wink:

But I think mine would beat yours in a fight :biggrin:

Reply 14

Stressworthy

14

Out of interest, what have you been doing for the last few years since leaving school? Nothing in particular you want to build on? You can always start afresh by looking round local colleges and whatnot for courses. I can feel your pain to an extent - it's difficult... particularly if you feel pressured but just don't know where to start, it's overwhelming. Have you considered going to an occupational therapist or something like that, or a careers adviser at your job centre? Just a few wise words could do a world of good in your case as well.

Reply 15

Balloon Baboon

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Original post by mermania

I did the questionnaire thing on that site and its suggestions were bizarre :sad:

It's best to give them a call and/or set up and one to one with an advisor. They will help you. :-)

Reply 16

jemadore

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University isn't the only choice. But again why not? Some degrees take 3 years and can open doors to many careers. but nobody can choose for you WHAT career.Some colleges offer 2 year courses, you can even find a job with better career opportunities.
Just sleep on it tonight, I get the best ideas usually that time!
Good luck!

(edited 13 years ago)

Reply 17

Reformed2010

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Original post by Theconomist

You should get a grip on your life and aim for a goal and go for it.You can be anything you want in this world(considering you were born white and male) so just pick a goal and the star is the limit.

Reply 18

Theconomist

Original post by Reformed2010

You know its true tho...

Reply 19

Staker

9

He was making the point (crudely) that he has been in the northern hemisphere and literally can do anything if he puts his mind to it. Whereas the same cannot be said in most of the southern hemisphere.

I am 23 and don't know what to do with my life, I need serious advice please?

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