Considering giving my boyfriend a "Hall Pass"

Sort of demote our relationship back to friends and give each other a week or a month or two to get out there and mess around, be youthful and go crazy before we get tied down. Of course I worry that he may find someone else and stuff, but I would like to get some 'outside opinions' on what you guys may have to say: helpful or not...

So essentially you want to sleep around and then use him as your back up plan once you're fed up of it all? Charming!

Neither of us wants to prevent the other from having a good time in their prime. I want to be able to know what it's like being with someone else and I want him to have the same. I don't want to feel like I stopped him from potentially only having me.

If you truly loved each other you wouldn't need to try anything with anyone else

If you truly loved each other you wouldn't need to try anything with anyone else

Exactly this. Why would it matter in the slightest if you were each others "only one"?

If you two are both compeltely in love then you would feel as if you didn't want anyone else at all. You wouldn't feel as if either of you needed space, or as you put it, a 'hall pass'. A loving relationship should be where you love each other so much that you only want each other, no one else.

Without faffing about too much I'll give you the basic information:
My boyfriend and I have been going out for over 2 years now, started our relationship when we were 15/16. Both of us are somewhat 'concerned' about the fact that we might actually spend a REALLY FREAKING LONG time together. We're currently planning on staying together through university, and after that it's the sort of time in your life where you want to settle down and give yourself a good grounding and if we're still together then we might end up getting married/living together/having kids etc.
We were both each others firsts, but he'd had a few girlfriends before me whereas I hadn't had any boyfriends. As much as we love each other and want to be together, the thought of him being my only ever scares me a bit. I'm only 18! My youth is trickling away here... So I'm wondering whether he and I should give ourselves a break.
Sort of demote our relationship back to friends and give each other a week or a month or two to get out there and mess around, be youthful and go crazy before we get tied down. Of course I worry that he may find someone else and stuff, but I would like to get some 'outside opinions' on what you guys may have to say: helpful or not...

Because although this is completely and utterly true, I feel like I'm not giving him the chance. I somewhat feel like I'm taking away the possibility for him to meet someone better.

Who says either of you will be able to get sex / mess around even if you do go on a break?

Most people yearn for this true-loviness, and sex at this age is probably not better than 'mature sex' when people actually pick up experience.

By this I mean, you should enjoy your relationship - don't mess it up by going on breaks. You will probably feel jealous, bad stuff might happen, and well... each to their own I guess.

Because although this is completely and utterly true, I feel like I'm not giving him the chance. I somewhat feel like I'm taking away the possibility for him to meet someone better.

It's almost as though you WANT him to meet someone better, why would you want that if you're both really happy in the relationship? Surely you don't want him to leave you because 'meeting someone better' could mean the end of your relationship.

Me and my then boyfriend did this when we started uni...it could not have ended any worse. Seriously would not recommend it, if you love that person it will be horrible for you.

What will you do if you get emotionally attached to another bloke by accident?

To me, I'll constantly feel like he's only with me because I was his only choice at the time. We're not even each others types, so I feel like I'm not the best for him

I think you should end it. It sounds like you're not THAT into him or else you'd want to keep the relationship entirely to yourselves instead of creating some kind of open relationship, or acting as though you're both completely single whilst at uni. It's probably for the best, you may end up finding a guy who is your type at uni and who you'd end up loving more than your current boyfriend. Plus you did say you wanted to be more 'youthful and crazy' and being in a relationship doesn't really help that if by that you mean exploring more with guys and stuff.

Sorry for not answering, I completely missed this question. And it's a tricky one to answer.

I have no idea. I would weigh up my options and tell this guy my situation. I'd tell him that my long-term boyfriend and I were on a break to do what we wanted for a bit. I'd have to tell him everything and ask him what it meant to him. If it scared him away then that's that. If he was understanding and 'okay' with it then I'd talk to my boyfriend and explain what'd happened. I'd have some alone time and think it through. I would have to remember that the new-ness of a relationship often clouds your judgement of that relationship.
I'd have to consider whether he would mean more to me than my boyfriend does/would. So it'd all depend on the guy and circumstances. Hope that answers your question somewhat...

Okay then.
However, the last part kinda contradicts what you said in the OP.
Also, if you're planning on getting back to your bf after your "holiday" make sure you make it clear to the guy(s) that you want nothing serious. It would make things complicated if a guy got emotionally attached to you.
In my opinion, I don't agree with what you're doing but whatever happens.... happens.