I'm sorry to read that so many of you have been on dates with controllig women with such expectations and clearly there is some emotional abuse going on if these are the relatiobships you are in. My personal experiences and those around me have been completely different.
We have talked this with my friends and we always offer to pay for our share. And quite often the guy expects us to pay our own drinks. In some cases the guy pays fro movie tickets and the woman for the popcorn. I've been on a date where the guy insisted on paying even with me offering. Yes, I will accept it since it's rude to keep the argument going.
As for the proposal. I'm a maid of honour in my friends wedding so I've been on wedding sites that talk about proposals. In this day and age most of the time the proposal is a mutual discussion and then going out to buy a ring together. I noticed a trend in couples that the man insists on suprise proposal because they feel like it is their contribution towards the wedding (sometimes they want to plan for years to keep the suprise). My problem with this is that then the guy has the power to decide on our mutual future and with that logic then men wouldn't have to participate to wedding planning. Don't know how common it is but from the wedding forum it didn't seem too rare.
Treat with meals and gifts? In every relationship I've ever withnesses I've noticed that it's "I'll pay this one, you pay next". And for the coat...does that happen outside the movies? That being said. Yes, females offers their hat and gloves to their frozen partners.
Sex centered around man pleasing a woman? Ehm...what? Yes it is talked about now more since it is still not the norm. Thankfully it's becoming more equal and sex is about pleasing each other.
Who wants a man to be dominant and not show emotions? I've never heared such a thing. On the contrary I hear about how women wish guys wold show more emotions. As for dominance. Studies show that women make most of the decisions in marriage.
To play devils advocate for the household chores I'm going to doa generalization. Women are expected to contribute equally financially and do majority of housework, how is that fair? Men are no longer the breadwinners of families and therefore the tasks should be shared. (Again generalization) I've noticed that quite often when men do somehting arounf the house they are "helping" instead of doing their share and when men spend time with their children they are "babysitting" instead of parenting.
That being said. Yes there are women like in OP describes and there are men who expect things to go like OP descibed. Relationships are about shared power, respect and mutual decision how things are done. Thankfuly in dating you don't have to meet the person again if you don't share the values.
I also feel like the word feminism is so misunderstood and used wrongly.