I agree with you on the whole, except for the end part.
I agree the 'blame' part and excuses need to stop. If you have grown up in a deprived area, live with it, nobody is going to come and do miracles for you - you have to work hard.
However, I will concede people from different backgrounds have to put in a different amounts of work to get to certain places in life. I definately think someone from a working class background will have to put in a lot more effort to get an offer from Cambridge/Oxford, than say somebody who has been privately educated from a young age.
As I said in my earlier post, this isn't because Oxbridge
discriminate or treat people unfairly. It is because you are at a different starting position. It requires more work, the correct help and advice isn't there for you on a plate. You have to go out and get it.
Half the people I've grown up with don't even know anything AT ALL about University, the different courses, careers etc. They are illiterate beyond belief and unfortunately -
they are the majority (or so it seems on most days
). So I think people from your background deserve the extra praise, conversely though, people who didn't get in shouldn't blame the Universities for their own inadequacies.
Another thing people need to keep in mind is that its not even the inadequacies of the application sometimes. Competition is very high for a place at Oxford or Cambridge. There are people who have 3-4 As at A2, a very strong overall application, who come from a rich background and still they get rejected.
Its not the end of the world.