Miscellaneous Thread Part II

Which city?

Because you are a white man my friend. Ask Joe Black what his opinion is on the place and come back to me. Hell, I am a half and I find the people morally decadent.

my wife said the same..

When we went out together she would just keep saying 'they never do that to me!' or 'they never treat me like that' - when I got really nice service in a resteraunt/shop etc.

Honestly, never had anything like it in any of the other countries I have been to in the past. It was wierd, and whilst nice, sometimes it went to far - like in one resteraunt, my wife just could not get any service.. one hand up from me, and multiple staff were running over, which just made things really uncomfortalbe, as my wife was pissed off, and I was now annoyed at them for making my wife upset.. etc.

Where's your wife from? Sorry if you've said already, haven't read back through the thread.

shes from china

shes from china

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Yeah I imagined she was, I just asked to be sure because it's rather odd. The Chinese people treat her differently to you because you're white yet she's Chinese herself?

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Interesting post and background, but just to be clear, I was only pulling your leg with that post. Hope you get everything sorted mate.

It is wierd.. never seen a country where there is such a difference between the way they treat each other, and the way they treat certain groups of tourists...



you know - I really dont like telling people that my wife is chinese, because it comes with 1 of two connotations:

1 - older lonely english man, who resents english women for rejecting him, and idiolises chinese/eastern women as some sort of old fashioned ideal.. and wants to go over and meet an asian bride, etc.
2 - younger english guy who is obsessed with asian culture, and actively likes women because they are east asian, and not because of who they are.. usually coupled with obsessive watching of anime, etc.

genuinly dont really like telling people, because I just presume they think the worst.

In reality though, her being chinese is never something I wanted - just something that happened.. your at uni, you go out for the night, meet a girl.. the last thing that is on your mind is where she is from. - until years later your married, and fighting visa battles, and having to deal with the real possibilties of living in china.

I wrote a whole post about this ages ago on TSR, in response to a guy who thought that having an international girlfriend was so so cool... tried to brign him back to reality - by explaining how yes, it can be wonderful, and having two cultures in a relationship brings so many special moments.. showing my wife, who had never known anything about it, an english christmas was amazing.. getting to experiance a proper family chinese new year.. having a wedding where half your guests travelled round the world, and watching as two groups of people who could barely speek to each other, danced together and laughed.. was brilliant..
But then you can have visa issues, cultrual differerences, which wont become apparent until your in a serrious relationship.. different values, the fact that one of you will likely be appart from your family for most of your life.. language problems at first. etc. and in reality, it is a very mixed bag, it adds a lot of good, but there is also nothing easy about having a relationship with someone who is not from the uk, or even the EU.

I have a friend who is the 2nd catagory.. activly chases chinese women - swear every single girl he has ever liked has been either chiense or japanese.. and I just want to slap him sometimes.. and say that forget about where they are from, and how they look.. are they actually a person you like.. or are you just chasing the idea that you like of having an asian wife.. - it really pisses me off.

/rant.

If your friend is so desperate for a waifu, tell him to buy a dakimakura.

had to google that - honestly, would not be suprised if he has one in secret..

Not trying to judge people, as you know, what ever makes you happy - but I think if I woke up in the morning, rolled over to see myself next to a pillow with a women on it.. rather then, well, an actual women.. I think I would have to really question the path my life has gone down.

I know a few weeaboos myself and trust me, they don't mind letting people know about it.

And yeah, but it would be sadder if even the pillow had gotten bored of you and left while you were sleeping.

It is wierd.. never seen a country where there is such a difference between the way they treat each other, and the way they treat certain groups of tourists...

you know - I really dont like telling people that my wife is chinese, because it comes with 1 of two connotations:

1 - older lonely english man, who resents english women for rejecting him, and idiolises chinese/eastern women as some sort of old fashioned ideal.. and wants to go over and meet an asian bride, etc.
2 - younger english guy who is obsessed with asian culture, and actively likes women because they are east asian, and not because of who they are.. usually coupled with obsessive watching of anime, etc.

genuinly dont really like telling people, because I just presume they think the worst.

In reality though, her being chinese is never something I wanted - just something that happened.. your at uni, you go out for the night, meet a girl.. the last thing that is on your mind is where she is from. - until years later your married, and fighting visa battles, and having to deal with the real possibilties of living in china.

I wrote a whole post about this ages ago on TSR, in response to a guy who thought that having an international girlfriend was so so cool... tried to brign him back to reality - by explaining how yes, it can be wonderful, and having two cultures in a relationship brings so many special moments.. showing my wife, who had never known anything about it, an english christmas was amazing.. getting to experiance a proper family chinese new year.. having a wedding where half your guests travelled round the world, and watching as two groups of people who could barely speek to each other, danced together and laughed.. was brilliant..
But then you can have visa issues, cultrual differerences, which wont become apparent until your in a serrious relationship.. different values, the fact that one of you will likely be appart from your family for most of your life.. language problems at first. etc. and in reality, it is a very mixed bag, it adds a lot of good, but there is also nothing easy about having a relationship with someone who is not from the uk, or even the EU.

I have a friend who is the 2nd catagory.. activly chases chinese women - swear every single girl he has ever liked has been either chiense or japanese.. and I just want to slap him sometimes.. and say that forget about where they are from, and how they look.. are they actually a person you like.. or are you just chasing the idea that you like of having an asian wife.. - it really pisses me off.

/rant.

I'd feel a little bit emasculated if I was in the situatuon where my Mother was Chinese, Father was white, and they thought the white culture was superior and never taught me about my other side. There are couples like that. It'd represent everything I hate about IR relationships, where one/both races in the pair is an object of fetish. I.e. The coupling came about in immoral circumstances. A lot of American couples are like that, messed up to begin with and they produce messed up kids. A lot of other stuff about this stuff that I cba to go into. Very important to teach mixed race kids to love both sides of themselves.

I look up to my Father tbh, in real life, see him as a guy that succeeded despite prejudices in his day, found a beautiful lady who was totally foreign, but he made it work. I know it sounds a bit un-pc, but it makes me proud somewhat to be the product of a victory against racial adversity and negative media stereotypes.