Miscellaneous Thread Part II

How's it different in China? Always wanted to go but haven't had the opportunity yet.

It's good to hear that cultural barriers weren't an issue when it came to choosing your wife, something that for some reason is still an issue in this day and age. Hope everything unfolds for the better for you mate, it will do eventually

Here is a paradox tbh that most people do not realise regarding the white lad and the oriental lady. People say in the media that the oriental lady is an object of fetish and that may be true. But it works the other way too, these oriental ladies see the white guy as an object of fetish so it really works both ways. A trophy and status symbol. .

could not agree with this part more so true. yet your right, it rarely ever gets mentioned.

my personal experiance though - is that in the circles of chinese female friends that me and my wife have, the attitude has always been that dating/seeing a wesetern boy is cool... but then you go back to china to marry a chinese boy. Not sure how that relates to the country as a whole, as I only have experiance of small social circles of people.. but within that, this is the vibe that I got. especially from those studying for a year or two in england.. my wife got some really bad reactions actually when she said that she was actually going to marry/settle down with this english lad, instead of leaving him after her studies finished, to go back and find a chinese boy.

This is nothing new, just a standard case of females having an extended 'stag night' type of thing abroad. You see it a lot in holiday areas with westerners too in Europe. But I find that type of mentality unconscionable so I like what your wife did.

Edit: guess what i want to get across is that people are not accessories. They're not just a fad like an Iphone.

I get what you mean.

Me and my wife have spent a long time talking about raising our future children, and getting the right balance of cultures. we both want our child to have a life made up of each of our cultures.. but its not going to be easy to do.. language, is a problem we can solve, but family and culture is more diffiicult.. we have spoken about spending extended periods in each country, making sure they get to tavel and visit their relitives enough etc. and the problems of each culture when it comes to raising kids (massive generalisations here.. but for instance, british teenage life can be pretty crazy, which my wife does not really like.. whereas I am not so fond of the over-working of children that I have seen in china.. where primary aged kids are working 10+ hours a day and doing tons of homeowrk, instead of playing)

Its certianly an extra consideration that growing up I never thought about, when I daydreamed about my future family.. but teaching our children to be proud of both of their cultures is something that will be really important for us.

- have any advice for a couple who will be trying to raise a child with two cultures?

Ah shame man. Gonna be hiring 2 in the next few months.

Ah well, if customer service, building inspection, or receptionist interests you....

On a lighter note(pardon the future pun) I'd like to do some song writing/composing in the future. Starting now and I'm liking it so far.

If you raise your kids well, they won't have the big meltdown identity crisis that many mixed heritage kids have when they come of age.

Most important point is obvious, emphasise that they should love who they are, that is that they came from two backgrounds and that being different like that is something to see as a symbol of victory against prejudice and respect between human beings, not as a negative thing.

Attach them to a large variety of friends from different backgrounds.

On Sundays, take them to Chinese school, many of those friends you make there will be your friends for life.

If family members do not fully accept them, you both must emphasise that it is not their fault.

Take them to see the Arsenal, it is best to start them young. Sport teaches us all the right values such as respect, perseverance, camaraderie with your teammates.

I spit bars uno

Myspace or GTFO

Anyone seen Divergent? Is it worth watching?

Trailer's a bit meh, but it's got a solid 4 stars

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Take them to see the Arsenal, it is best to start them young. Sport teaches us all the right values such as respect, perseverance, camaraderie with your teammates.

PWC assessment centre, and an interview where they'll focus on my maths (mainly calculus) abilities. I'm not in the position to take either jobs but general advice, on how I can make the most of it?

Where are you based?

following on from the top gear stuff on this thread a few days ago..

I dont dislike her, but, I just really really really do not want to watch the hypothetical show with her in it..

http://www.divamag.co.uk/category/arts-entertainment/could-sue-perkins-replace-jeremy-clarkson-on-top-gear.aspx