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Original post by Smud
So why you and not your sister? Was it always this way?
Unmarried, applying for university again at masters level.
Not London.
Unmarried, applying for university again at masters level.
Not London.
Itsme because of what I did. She hasn't done anything like this therefore my mother trusts her more.
Have you got a boyfriend and what degree have you got?
Original post by aspire.1a
Itsme because of what I did. She hasn't done anything like this therefore my mother trusts her more.
Have you got a boyfriend and what degree have you got?
Have you got a boyfriend and what degree have you got?
So she trusted you before the email/diary thing and you still couldn't talk to them?
Yep, illustration.
Yeah she did. but it's not about the diary thing. It was the fact that I spoke to a male! That was what sparked the tension between me and a few of my family members! Now that quite a few people found that that I liked this guy was completely embarrassing so now I have vowed to never tell a soul again if I have a new crush.
Original post by Smud
So why you and not your sister? Was it always this way?
Unmarried, applying for university again at masters level.
Not London.
Unmarried, applying for university again at masters level.
Not London.
Are you a teacher may I ask?
Original post by aspire.1a
Yeah she did. but it's not about the diary thing. It was the fact that I spoke to a male! That was what sparked the tension between me and a few of my family members! Now that quite a few people found that that I liked this guy was completely embarrassing so now I have vowed to never tell a soul again if I have a new crush.
So you were embarrassed. It's a rubbish feeling, but perhaps you don't have to completely shut people out. Just maybe learn from your experience and find someone who is less likely to spread your secret.
Perhaps you could find a way to regain her trust. If anything to help make things a bit easier for you.
Original post by aspire.1a
What degree do you have may I ask??
I already answered this. Look at a previous response.
Original post by aspire.1a
You do illustration as a degree???
Yes.
What made you think I was a teacher?
While I understand that it feels very restricting and sucky right now, you need to find a way to move forwards. You have your midwifery to focus on, and I would find out at what point you could talk to men on your own free will. Is it an age limit? What is going to happen when you get to university? By the sounds of it you go to a mixed school, so why weren't you put into an all girls school to really restrict your chances of talking to males?
While I understand that it feels very restricting and sucky right now, you need to find a way to move forwards. You have your midwifery to focus on, and I would find out at what point you could talk to men on your own free will. Is it an age limit? What is going to happen when you get to university? By the sounds of it you go to a mixed school, so why weren't you put into an all girls school to really restrict your chances of talking to males?
Hey, Aspire!
I feel like maybe the situation was a bit over exaggerated. I don't know what religion you are, but maybe it's more of a cultural thing. In my opinion simply saying hi to a guy doesn't get you thrown in hell. I was just wondering if you don't mind, what it is that was said.
I feel like maybe the situation was a bit over exaggerated. I don't know what religion you are, but maybe it's more of a cultural thing. In my opinion simply saying hi to a guy doesn't get you thrown in hell. I was just wondering if you don't mind, what it is that was said.
Original post by aspire.1a
Umm Smud? I go to a girls school. I have been going since year 7!!!
I dont go to a mixed school.
Its not to do with age its more to do with religion!!
I can only talk to males in a professional manner and in a professional setting.
I dont go to a mixed school.
Its not to do with age its more to do with religion!!
I can only talk to males in a professional manner and in a professional setting.
So what if a male stranger asks you for directions in the street (eg where is this shop), can you still not respond? Again, at university you will be mixed with men in non-professional settings. How will this work for you?
I'm wondering if there is some cultural/environmental reasons behind it, but simply because I can't recall of a specific religious rule which applies to this kind of situation.
The point I'm trying to get at is, at what point in life will this ban be lifted? Will it ever be? There has to be some kind of cut off point. And at what point, do you decide what path you are going to follow - because you have human rights like the rest of us to this. If you're happy with the way things are, I'm not going to tell you to do something else because it's not my place to tell you what to do.
