My boyfriend is affecting my mental health
Hey guys, I need some advice.. This si a long story so I'll keep it short.
For a long time now my relationship has been gradually doing some damage to my mental health. At this point I don't want to eat (though of food makes me feel sick), I sleep all the time, and when I'm awake I feel anxious and depressed.
It all started when my boyfriend admitted to me that he didn't find me sexually attractive anymore and was swapping me out with porn (regular porn and 3D porn). He keeps playing videogames 24-7, usually playing skimpy female characters.
We're trying to work on our problems, but he keeps doing things that contradict what he says.. He says he finds me sexually attractive now, but he never does any sexual advances. He says he want's to have a sex-life with me, but he always says no when I ask. Now he's even started to say no to cuddling.
Does anyone have any advice to give?
For a long time now my relationship has been gradually doing some damage to my mental health. At this point I don't want to eat (though of food makes me feel sick), I sleep all the time, and when I'm awake I feel anxious and depressed.
It all started when my boyfriend admitted to me that he didn't find me sexually attractive anymore and was swapping me out with porn (regular porn and 3D porn). He keeps playing videogames 24-7, usually playing skimpy female characters.
We're trying to work on our problems, but he keeps doing things that contradict what he says.. He says he finds me sexually attractive now, but he never does any sexual advances. He says he want's to have a sex-life with me, but he always says no when I ask. Now he's even started to say no to cuddling.
Does anyone have any advice to give?
Original post by Anonymous
Hey guys, I need some advice.. This si a long story so I'll keep it short.
For a long time now my relationship has been gradually doing some damage to my mental health. At this point I don't want to eat (though of food makes me feel sick), I sleep all the time, and when I'm awake I feel anxious and depressed.
It all started when my boyfriend admitted to me that he didn't find me sexually attractive anymore and was swapping me out with porn (regular porn and 3D porn). He keeps playing videogames 24-7, usually playing skimpy female characters.
We're trying to work on our problems, but he keeps doing things that contradict what he says.. He says he finds me sexually attractive now, but he never does any sexual advances. He says he want's to have a sex-life with me, but he always says no when I ask. Now he's even started to say no to cuddling.
Does anyone have any advice to give?
For a long time now my relationship has been gradually doing some damage to my mental health. At this point I don't want to eat (though of food makes me feel sick), I sleep all the time, and when I'm awake I feel anxious and depressed.
It all started when my boyfriend admitted to me that he didn't find me sexually attractive anymore and was swapping me out with porn (regular porn and 3D porn). He keeps playing videogames 24-7, usually playing skimpy female characters.
We're trying to work on our problems, but he keeps doing things that contradict what he says.. He says he finds me sexually attractive now, but he never does any sexual advances. He says he want's to have a sex-life with me, but he always says no when I ask. Now he's even started to say no to cuddling.
Does anyone have any advice to give?
I'm in a similar situation, not in terms of sex life, but in terms that my girlfriend is affecting my mental health. Honestly, the best thing to do is to break up with him. I know it seems like a horrible thought but you need to focus on your own well-being.
I hope this helps
Hey,
My boyfriend did something really similar. I went through a really hard time with him wanting other girls, or getting attention from other girls he would only text them, and no pictures were exchanged or anything but when I found out we fell out. He promised not to do it again but I didn't want to sleep with him for nearly a month, I just didn't feel close to him. When we did start having sex he wasn't finishing and i was feeling really disgusted with myself. He reassured me it wasn't me but I just thought he was being nice. It turns out he had been using porn up to 3 times a day everyday. It took a lot of tears and a lot of feelings for us to get it all out in the open but it is now and we are really good. He doesn't even go near porn (because he showed me what he watched and my hatred for him grew to a point where he was repulsed by himself and he is honestly so much better). Honestly talk to him- try avoid words like mental health (because it blames it on health and not him). Make it clear how much you have been hurting, make it obvious how much you care and if he cannot respond with that same love, I promise you, you can do better. I'm always here if you need.
My boyfriend did something really similar. I went through a really hard time with him wanting other girls, or getting attention from other girls he would only text them, and no pictures were exchanged or anything but when I found out we fell out. He promised not to do it again but I didn't want to sleep with him for nearly a month, I just didn't feel close to him. When we did start having sex he wasn't finishing and i was feeling really disgusted with myself. He reassured me it wasn't me but I just thought he was being nice. It turns out he had been using porn up to 3 times a day everyday. It took a lot of tears and a lot of feelings for us to get it all out in the open but it is now and we are really good. He doesn't even go near porn (because he showed me what he watched and my hatred for him grew to a point where he was repulsed by himself and he is honestly so much better). Honestly talk to him- try avoid words like mental health (because it blames it on health and not him). Make it clear how much you have been hurting, make it obvious how much you care and if he cannot respond with that same love, I promise you, you can do better. I'm always here if you need.
You should try and talk to him and let him know this is a deal breaker in your relationship. If he can't find a solution after that your only option is to break up... you can't stay with someone who makes you feel bad.
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^ i meant to reply to doodle_333
It sounds like your relationship isn't working anymore, it's difficult but things have run their course. He's not showing you the amount of attention that you deserve, I know I personally couldn't be in a relationship with someone like that. Similarly, I couldn't be in a relationship with someone I didn't find sexually attractive.
