My boyfriend and I have been doing long distance for two years, and every other weekend or so, we’ll travel a few hours by train to see each other.
He’s in his first graduate job and is living in his parent’s home to save money, I’m still studying at university (where we met).
I’ve always struggled with my mental health even before we started dating. I’ve put on quite a bit of weight in the past year, and my depression isn’t great right now, so my self confidence is at it’s lowest. Whenever I get dressed, I reach for the comfiest item - usually the same big baggy black tshirt, some black leggings, and a baggy jumper on top. I always make sure they’re clean.
The reason I wear this a lot is because if I wear more fitted clothes,I feel super self conscious about my weight and don’t want others to see.
My boyfriend said that his mum made a comment asking why I always wear the same tshirt and the same jumper every time she sees me, and suggested to him to buy me new clothes as a valentines gift.
I know she means well, and i agree with her that I should try to dress a bit nicer. I just feel mortified and sad that other people have noticed this pattern and I wish I had the self confidence to try on new clothes that show off my figure. I’m not particularly overweight (my BMI is 24) but the recent weight gain is really getting me down. Every time I’ve gone shopping and tried on new clothes, I feel really upset because they don’t fit as nicely as I’d like them to, and I go home without buying anything.
I really want to get in shape and I have a gym membership. I make excuses all the time though and don’t use it as much as I would like. I’m doing long hours in med school, and whenever I get home, I feel so drained that all I want to do is sleep.
Does anyone have any words of encouragement / advice? Even typing this out is upsetting me and making me cry. I just need a morale boost so I can feel better about myself.