Is it bad that I don't respond to messages?
I have been moaned at numerous times by people for not keeping in touch. I am a very introverted person living in an isolated area and I have become used to being cut off from the world. I dropped out of college twice because I was a complete loner and couldn't stand being forced into socialising with others all day, I have no friends locally and so I spend all my time with myself or my family.
I must be a rarity amongst young people in that I find it really difficult to keep up with the world. I have 2 social media accounts, Facebook and Whatsapp, but I only check them about twice a week, same with emails. Every time I go on and find that family and friends have been sending me messages but I feel rude because I didn't respond. It's not that I don't care about them, I just don't want to always be worrying about looking at my phone and talking to people. I am very confident and enjoy socialising when I choose to but I live in my own bubble and I like it this way.
What can I say or do to stop people thinking I am just rude? Is something wrong with me that I am like this?
I must be a rarity amongst young people in that I find it really difficult to keep up with the world. I have 2 social media accounts, Facebook and Whatsapp, but I only check them about twice a week, same with emails. Every time I go on and find that family and friends have been sending me messages but I feel rude because I didn't respond. It's not that I don't care about them, I just don't want to always be worrying about looking at my phone and talking to people. I am very confident and enjoy socialising when I choose to but I live in my own bubble and I like it this way.
What can I say or do to stop people thinking I am just rude? Is something wrong with me that I am like this?
If you enjoy socialising occasionally and don't experience any anxiety in social situations then that's completely fine imo, it's good that you're confident too. I don't think it's rude to not respond to people, but it may give the wrong impression because some people get offended and feel like they're being ignored. Maybe just give short responses so they feel acknowledged? I'm socially inept so sometimes I struggle to think of a response, so maybe try to explain that to them if you experience that also (easier said than done though).
