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Me and my friends have been together for 5 years yet I still feel uncomfortable around them like it doesn't feel genuine to me. I did make a mistake once but they never fail to bring this topic and tell everyone about my mistake. I frequently reflect on my mistake and not to fo it again, but them constantly talking about it makes me sad although I appreciate that this will make me reflect more and for me to be more aware, but at the same time mentioning it Infront of new people affects my relation with them and also my image in their eyes. I'm just very confused at the moment, like are they my real friends or not
Reply 1
Original post by Anonymous
Me and my friends have been together for 5 years yet I still feel uncomfortable around them like it doesn't feel genuine to me. I did make a mistake once but they never fail to bring this topic and tell everyone about my mistake. I frequently reflect on my mistake and not to fo it again, but them constantly talking about it makes me sad although I appreciate that this will make me reflect more and for me to be more aware, but at the same time mentioning it Infront of new people affects my relation with them and also my image in their eyes. I'm just very confused at the moment, like are they my real friends or not

Hello.
I hope you are well.
If they do that in my opinnion they are not, because if they really were, they should tell you how to improve it rather tan repeating it.
Kind regards.
Original post by mati84
Hello.
I hope you are well.
If they do that in my opinnion they are not, because if they really were, they should tell you how to improve it rather tan repeating it.
Kind regards.

I agree
Get yourself some new friends ( online, IRL up to you rlly)
and slowly distance yourself from them
or maybe ur heart and brain might prefer a cold turkey friendship breakup

LMK if u have any other questions ( I am new so I can't PM just yet, though it u RLLY wanna PM, I suggest u try tmr)

I am ALWAYS looking for new friends and I ALSO hate fake friends and I have had two friendship breakups
Reply 3
Original post by Fifipencil11
I agree
Get yourself some new friends ( online, IRL up to you rlly)
and slowly distance yourself from them
or maybe ur heart and brain might prefer a cold turkey friendship breakup

LMK if u have any other questions ( I am new so I can't PM just yet, though it u RLLY wanna PM, I suggest u try tmr)

I am ALWAYS looking for new friends and I ALSO hate fake friends and I have had two friendship breakups


Thanks for your advice, but may I ask, was it difficult to get over friendship breakup for u? Personally I feel like I would not feel bad even though me and my 'friends' have spent a lot of time together, but honestly for me time doesn't matter, it's more about the connection or the right vibe. But I do feel like its important to have to meet such toxic people in life so that we can learn to form boundaries, and same goes for me, I'm now slowly distancing myself from them, and that whatever they say is not my business. But I would like to know, like did u do the same?
Original post by Anonymous
Thanks for your advice, but may I ask, was it difficult to get over friendship breakup for u? Personally I feel like I would not feel bad even though me and my 'friends' have spent a lot of time together, but honestly for me time doesn't matter, it's more about the connection or the right vibe. But I do feel like its important to have to meet such toxic people in life so that we can learn to form boundaries, and same goes for me, I'm now slowly distancing myself from them, and that whatever they say is not my business. But I would like to know, like did u do the same?

The silver lining of such people ARE INDEED the lessons we learn from them about boundaries and who we WANT as our friends
The friendship breakup was DIFFICULT to get over ( but I assume if I break up now both due to mental state and experience AND LESS ( big time) attaching to people that I do ( compared to once upon a time), I would find it WAAY easier)

Also the other friend was clingy ( NOT like not reciprocating)

A lack of reciprocation is HONESTLY me BIGGEST pet peeve in friendships
Original post by Anonymous
Thanks for your advice, but may I ask, was it difficult to get over friendship breakup for u? Personally I feel like I would not feel bad even though me and my 'friends' have spent a lot of time together, but honestly for me time doesn't matter, it's more about the connection or the right vibe. But I do feel like its important to have to meet such toxic people in life so that we can learn to form boundaries, and same goes for me, I'm now slowly distancing myself from them, and that whatever they say is not my business. But I would like to know, like did u do the same?

Happy to help at anytime
lmk if u have any OTHER questions abt other stuff
Original post by Anonymous
Me and my friends have been together for 5 years yet I still feel uncomfortable around them like it doesn't feel genuine to me. I did make a mistake once but they never fail to bring this topic and tell everyone about my mistake. I frequently reflect on my mistake and not to fo it again, but them constantly talking about it makes me sad although I appreciate that this will make me reflect more and for me to be more aware, but at the same time mentioning it Infront of new people affects my relation with them and also my image in their eyes. I'm just very confused at the moment, like are they my real friends or not


No boo I'm Sorry. They're not. Trust me. if you made a mistake and they find it funny but you're not laughing...They're laughing at you. Not with you. You're the one in the group that everyone tournaments. And boo, you deserve better. GO GET SOME BETTER FRIENDS. I'm Sure you're very likeable.
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Original post by Nicki vs Cardi
No boo I'm Sorry. They're not. Trust me. if you made a mistake and they find it funny but you're not laughing...They're laughing at you. Not with you. You're the one in the group that everyone tournaments. And boo, you deserve better. GO GET SOME BETTER FRIENDS. I'm Sure you're very likeable.


Thankuuu!! It lighten me up, and yeah I'm in the process of distancing myself💗
Original post by Anonymous
Thankuuu!! It lighten me up, and yeah I'm in the process of distancing myself💗


I'm so proud of you!!! Also when your doing any sports, think of them to make you stronger.
Reply 9
Original post by Fifipencil11
Happy to help at anytime
lmk if u have any OTHER questions abt other stuff


Definitely! Will discuss about some other topics and same goes for u too!
Oh okay, I'll be there.

Original post by Anonymous
Definitely! Will discuss about some other topics and same goes for u too!


Oh okay, I'll be there. Go check out mine.
Reply 11
Original post by Nicki vs Cardi
I'm so proud of you!!! Also when your doing any sports, think of them to make you stronger.

Haha, I do like doing that when working out😭
Original post by Anonymous
Me and my friends have been together for 5 years yet I still feel uncomfortable around them like it doesn't feel genuine to me. I did make a mistake once but they never fail to bring this topic and tell everyone about my mistake. I frequently reflect on my mistake and not to fo it again, but them constantly talking about it makes me sad although I appreciate that this will make me reflect more and for me to be more aware, but at the same time mentioning it Infront of new people affects my relation with them and also my image in their eyes. I'm just very confused at the moment, like are they my real friends or not

My response will sting you, but best you understand what I want to say.

Buddy, in this World, there are no friends. There is only one thing. Family. You will notice, the English Language is highly philosophical in this regard. FriEND.
Where is the END in Family? :smile:

Now onto a serious note.
I am 16, and to be honest, I have a sh**** life. I was a porn addict, and people gave/giving me hell for it in school. I have never had any friends in life. Why? Because whenever I did, I trusted too much, and in the end, I became the scapegoat. I kept my porn addiction a secret, and someone came to know about it, and decided to make it a word-of-mouth thing. Even who I thought were my friends turned out to be fakes.

Let me tell you this - if you tread alone, you might go slow, but at least you will have that much strength to never ever turn back. Believe me. Make your profession, your talent, your voice of success. Make it your prowess. And watch the whole wide World bow down to your feet. That is when you will say,
I never wanted you bowing in the first place. I just wanted you to treat me as an equal :smile:
Original post by Anonymous
My response will sting you, but best you understand what I want to say.

Buddy, in this World, there are no friends. There is only one thing. Family. You will notice, the English Language is highly philosophical in this regard. FriEND.
Where is the END in Family? :smile:

Now onto a serious note.
I am 16, and to be honest, I have a sh**** life. I was a porn addict, and people gave/giving me hell for it in school. I have never had any friends in life. Why? Because whenever I did, I trusted too much, and in the end, I became the scapegoat. I kept my porn addiction a secret, and someone came to know about it, and decided to make it a word-of-mouth thing. Even who I thought were my friends turned out to be fakes.

Let me tell you this - if you tread alone, you might go slow, but at least you will have that much strength to never ever turn back. Believe me. Make your profession, your talent, your voice of success. Make it your prowess. And watch the whole wide World bow down to your feet. That is when you will say,
I never wanted you bowing in the first place. I just wanted you to treat me as an equal :smile:

Wow END I TOTALLY didn't notice that part in friend
I agree with you that friends aren't the be all and end all and you need OTHER things in your life
but having no friends is JUST as detrimental as having fake friends
Either way, ur STILL lonely
Original post by Fifipencil11
Wow END I TOTALLY didn't notice that part in friend
I agree with you that friends aren't the be all and end all and you need OTHER things in your life
but having no friends is JUST as detrimental as having fake friends
Either way, ur STILL lonely


Exactly bro.

Friends come and go. But you remain.

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