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Anxiety getting better of me

Just wondering if I can get some feedback as my anxiety is beating me up over something today.
I seen my GP and he was helpful today (has been less so in previous appointments) for long standing health issues. He finally referred me to specialist and in the meeting I was really down, but he referred me and prescribed me tablets in meantime and this is where I’m beating myself up - as I was leaving he said not sure when I’ll see you again but good luck, I said appreciate it but then as going out door I didn’t hear what he said clearly so I just said see ya, but since I look back im sure he said good luck with the test I have in few weeks and all I said was see ya & I was slouched and down walking away.
I feel like I may have come across as rude or unappreciative. When in fact I just didn’t clearly hear him so said something like see ya, im not sure I may have said cheers see ya but my tone was down etc. I feel I should of said thank you for all your help. Anxiety is really fixating on it and that I can’t correct it. Am I overthinking this or would he think I was rude?
Reply 1
Original post by Anonymous
Just wondering if I can get some feedback as my anxiety is beating me up over something today.
I seen my GP and he was helpful today (has been less so in previous appointments) for long standing health issues. He finally referred me to specialist and in the meeting I was really down, but he referred me and prescribed me tablets in meantime and this is where I’m beating myself up - as I was leaving he said not sure when I’ll see you again but good luck, I said appreciate it but then as going out door I didn’t hear what he said clearly so I just said see ya, but since I look back im sure he said good luck with the test I have in few weeks and all I said was see ya & I was slouched and down walking away.
I feel like I may have come across as rude or unappreciative. When in fact I just didn’t clearly hear him so said something like see ya, im not sure I may have said cheers see ya but my tone was down etc. I feel I should of said thank you for all your help. Anxiety is really fixating on it and that I can’t correct it. Am I overthinking this or would he think I was rude?


You probably did thank him, but even if you didn’t he knows you weren’t feeling your best and has moved on hours ago. He won’t be giving it a second thought so just relax and be kind to yourself.
Original post by Anonymous
Just wondering if I can get some feedback as my anxiety is beating me up over something today.
I seen my GP and he was helpful today (has been less so in previous appointments) for long standing health issues. He finally referred me to specialist and in the meeting I was really down, but he referred me and prescribed me tablets in meantime and this is where I’m beating myself up - as I was leaving he said not sure when I’ll see you again but good luck, I said appreciate it but then as going out door I didn’t hear what he said clearly so I just said see ya, but since I look back im sure he said good luck with the test I have in few weeks and all I said was see ya & I was slouched and down walking away.
I feel like I may have come across as rude or unappreciative. When in fact I just didn’t clearly hear him so said something like see ya, im not sure I may have said cheers see ya but my tone was down etc. I feel I should have said thank you for all your help. Anxiety is really fixating on it and that I can’t correct it. Am I overthinking this or would he think I was rude?

He probably forgot about it almost instantly so try not to worry
Reply 3
Original post by Euapp
You probably did thank him, but even if you didn’t he knows you weren’t feeling your best and has moved on hours ago. He won’t be giving it a second thought so just relax and be kind to yourself.

That’s also annoying to me is I can’t remember clearly if I did say thanks, I just remember saying see ya but I might of, he was actually really helpful today, just hope I didn’t come across as I wasn’t happy with his help. I hate anxiety so much and yeah I also struggle with being kind to myself I’m really hard on myself.
Reply 4
Original post by Teribblestudent
He probably forgot about it almost instantly so try not to worry


Thing I’m worrying about is he then has to write notes afterwards and it might influence what the way he types it up if I seemed rude or ungrateful, or it might change his view on me. Where he was helpful n good with me today And I didn’t mean to come across bad in any way, I’m socially awkward. I hate anxiety.
Reply 5
Original post by Anonymous
Thing I’m worrying about is he then has to write notes afterwards and it might influence what the way he types it up if I seemed rude or ungrateful, or it might change his view on me. Where he was helpful n good with me today And I didn’t mean to come across bad in any way, I’m socially awkward. I hate anxiety.

You are over thinking this a lot. He will just have made a note of his clinical findings and any treatment he prescribed.
Reply 6
Original post by Euapp
You are over thinking this a lot. He will just have made a note of his clinical findings and any treatment he prescribed.


Yeah my anxiety being very bad, I just wish I said thank you for all the help. I dunno I just think I came across dissatisfied & like I wanted to get away from him at the door when he was wishing me luck. Anxiety really getting better of me on this as I don’t know when I’ll see him again as I’ve been referred now. He probably does know I’m awkward but still I could have said thank you I didn’t hear him well at the time I was in my own head and not feeling well.
Reply 7
Original post by Anonymous
That’s also annoying to me is I can’t remember clearly if I did say thanks, I just remember saying see ya but I might of, he was actually really helpful today, just hope I didn’t come across as I wasn’t happy with his help. I hate anxiety so much and yeah I also struggle with being kind to myself I’m really hard on myself.

I have social anxiety, so I understand what your mind is putting you through. And it sucks, but I hope what I say will help.

Your doctor probably has to see a lot of patients every day, so he probably didn't think too much of it because he had to get ready for the next patient. You're also one of hundreds of patients he has to see, so again, his opinion is unlikely to become negative because of your response. If he's a compassionate person, he probably understands that you're going through something tough and would let it slide by.

One thing that's helped me with my anxiety is that people will forget what you did in two weeks' time. I've had a lot of embarrassing moments but I keep reminding myself that people will often forget. Your GP probably will too.

Whenever I have to go through something that makes me anxious (e.g. go to an event where I have to socialise with strangers), I make sure I reward myself when I get home. I eat a snack I like, watch YouTube, read a book.

I also have apps to help ground me whenever my anxiety or emotions are high. Let me know if that's something you're interested in.

Hope you're relaxing now by the way. You deserve to :smile:
Reply 8
Original post by Anonymous
Yeah my anxiety being very bad, I just wish I said thank you for all the help. I dunno I just think I came across dissatisfied & like I wanted to get away from him at the door when he was wishing me luck. Anxiety really getting better of me on this as I don’t know when I’ll see him again as I’ve been referred now. He probably does know I’m awkward but still I could have said thank you I didn’t hear him well at the time I was in my own head and not feeling well.

I’m sure he realised that you were very anxious and not in the best of form. If he did think something about the way you left him, he will have linked it to the state of your emotional health at the time and most definitely won’t be thinking badly of you.
Reply 9
Original post by ohdearieme
I have social anxiety, so I understand what your mind is putting you through. And it sucks, but I hope what I say will help.

Your doctor probably has to see a lot of patients every day, so he probably didn't think too much of it because he had to get ready for the next patient. You're also one of hundreds of patients he has to see, so again, his opinion is unlikely to become negative because of your response. If he's a compassionate person, he probably understands that you're going through something tough and would let it slide by.

One thing that's helped me with my anxiety is that people will forget what you did in two weeks' time. I've had a lot of embarrassing moments but I keep reminding myself that people will often forget. Your GP probably will too.

Whenever I have to go through something that makes me anxious (e.g. go to an event where I have to socialise with strangers), I make sure I reward myself when I get home. I eat a snack I like, watch YouTube, read a book.

I also have apps to help ground me whenever my anxiety or emotions are high. Let me know if that's something you're interested in.

Hope you're relaxing now by the way. You deserve to :smile:

Hi thanks for this, my anxiety being ridiculous about this and I know how silly it might seem to people, it really gets to me when I can’t clarify or fix something and I can’t with this like the appointments done with now. Yeah any apps that are free would interest me thank you.
Reply 10
Original post by Euapp
I’m sure he realised that you were very anxious and not in the best of form. If he did think something about the way you left him, he will have linked it to the state of your emotional health at the time and most definitely won’t be thinking badly of you.

Thanks for this it helps. My anxiety is a nightmare when it’s hyper fixating on something.
Reply 11
Original post by Anonymous
Hi thanks for this, my anxiety being ridiculous about this and I know how silly it might seem to people, it really gets to me when I can’t clarify or fix something and I can’t with this like the appointments done with now. Yeah any apps that are free would interest me thank you.


No worries, I understand how hard it can get. I don't think it's silly.

When I need to focus on something else, I use the app 'Selfcare' where there are a selection of activities you can do to calm down. There's a cat you can pet and customise, simple puzzles, and you can collect some items to decorate a shelf.

I use an app called 'Finch', where you raise a bird by writing about your day or completing tasks you've set for yourself, such as drink a glass of water, wake up at a certain time, or take a shower. It's a no-pressure app, so you don't have to interact with the pet everyday. It also has breathing exercises to help you calm down, and a space to write your thoughts. It's also pretty good for tracking how your mood changes depending on what happened during the day. When your bird is energised, you can send them off on an adventure and they return with a cute, interactive scenario where you can influence your bird's personality. And when you energise your bird, you can get a daily reward. I adore this app so, so much and I have personally found it more useful than most self-help apps. And it's completely free too!

Hope you're feeling better, bud
Reply 12
Original post by ohdearieme
No worries, I understand how hard it can get. I don't think it's silly.

When I need to focus on something else, I use the app 'Selfcare' where there are a selection of activities you can do to calm down. There's a cat you can pet and customise, simple puzzles, and you can collect some items to decorate a shelf.

I use an app called 'Finch', where you raise a bird by writing about your day or completing tasks you've set for yourself, such as drink a glass of water, wake up at a certain time, or take a shower. It's a no-pressure app, so you don't have to interact with the pet everyday. It also has breathing exercises to help you calm down, and a space to write your thoughts. It's also pretty good for tracking how your mood changes depending on what happened during the day. When your bird is energised, you can send them off on an adventure and they return with a cute, interactive scenario where you can influence your bird's personality. And when you energise your bird, you can get a daily reward. I adore this app so, so much and I have personally found it more useful than most self-help apps. And it's completely free too!

Hope you're feeling better, bud

Thank you really appreciate this, I will download the app. I feel a bit better than I was earlier thank you
Reply 13
Original post by Anonymous
Just wondering if I can get some feedback as my anxiety is beating me up over something today.
I seen my GP and he was helpful today (has been less so in previous appointments) for long standing health issues. He finally referred me to specialist and in the meeting I was really down, but he referred me and prescribed me tablets in meantime and this is where I’m beating myself up - as I was leaving he said not sure when I’ll see you again but good luck, I said appreciate it but then as going out door I didn’t hear what he said clearly so I just said see ya, but since I look back im sure he said good luck with the test I have in few weeks and all I said was see ya & I was slouched and down walking away.
I feel like I may have come across as rude or unappreciative. When in fact I just didn’t clearly hear him so said something like see ya, im not sure I may have said cheers see ya but my tone was down etc. I feel I should have said thank you for all your help. Anxiety is really fixating on it and that I can’t correct it. Am I overthinking this or would he think I was rude?

Hey thanks for reaching out this morning. You have gumption that is so positive for your mental stability you have ventured out to your gp.
Of you feel that mad about it take action and ring the receptionist and explain leave a message for your gp. Apologies for my apathy towards you I am unintentionally display.

You should be so proud of yourself getting you and marking the decision to sprout your stinking thinking out! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

God is for you, never against you!
Love Lee
Reply 14
Original post by Leegirl01
Hey thanks for reaching out this morning. You have gumption that is so positive for your mental stability you have ventured out to your gp.
Of you feel that mad about it take action and ring the receptionist and explain leave a message for your gp. Apologies for my apathy towards you I am unintentionally display.

You should be so proud of yourself getting you and marking the decision to sprout your stinking thinking out! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

God is for you, never against you!
Love Lee

Hi thank you for the kind words, I think I’d feel a bit weird asking reception to pass on my thanks so might leave it be but if it bugs me too much I will do. Thank you so much
Reply 15
I find the 10 hour,ten day ,ten years system is helpful in these types of this situation.Will this matter to anyone in 10 hours,or ten days or 10 years.It helps me keep things in perspective if I find I am getting stuck fixating on something.
And do be kind to yourself ,you are the only one you have got to work with so be nice to you.
Reply 16
Original post by Scotney
I find the 10 hour,ten day ,ten years system is helpful in these types of this situation.Will this matter to anyone in 10 hours,or ten days or 10 years.It helps me keep things in perspective if I find I am getting stuck fixating on something.
And do be kind to yourself ,you are the only one you have got to work with so be nice to you.

PRSOM. Very wise advice.
Reply 17
Original post by Scotney
I find the 10 hour,ten day ,ten years system is helpful in these types of this situation.Will this matter to anyone in 10 hours,or ten days or 10 years.It helps me keep things in perspective if I find I am getting stuck fixating on something.
And do be kind to yourself ,you are the only one you have got to work with so be nice to you.


Thank you this is very good

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