Eating Disorders and life with one - Discussions, Opinions, Advice.

Fire, can you clarify who or which post caused you to post that disclaimer? I ask because I personally haven't noticed a post in this thread which has purposely or explicitly sought to incite hurt.

Probably best I wasn't here then. Thank you for that fire. Was anyone directly targeted? I want to ensure whoever it was receives the right attention in case the insults or ill-minded comments have caused detriment to their recovery.

Thankfully it wasn't targeted bulling towards any particular users.


I wish yourself and everyone else in the thread all the best in your personal recoveries, stay strong, and as I said any more problems just report the posts and I'll be back to deal with them

isn't bruising easily more commonly a sign of anaemia? tis more likely anyway.

not been here for a while but all is squiffy here. i've deferred uni til 2012 and am staying in the fat farm (which has so far successfully fattened me up to 45.4kg/100lbs/7st 2/BMI 16.7 (admission weight 35.1kg/74lbs/5st 7/BMI 12.7 and low weight 33.7kg/74lbs/5st 4 BMI 12.2). still on the full 3000+ meal plan and will be for a while longer; once i get to target (BMI 19-20ish most likely) i'll be maintaining here for a few months learning how to manage by myself and receiving more therapy etc.

i've not thrown up in 11 weeks now.

I have a friend who is SERVERELY suffering with bulemia. Ive known about it for around a year and its got continuously worse. She says shes not doing it because she wants to but because she 'has' to. She is absoultely desperate to beat it. Shes eating very little and whenever she does it shes throughs it back up.

Can anyone give me any advice to help her as im worried about her :\

The fact that she feels as if she 'has to' is worrying. Very worrying. That’s the compulsive, consuming nature of an ED; it wants to take control and fighting that is difficult. Thank goodness she has a friend like you to look out for her!

First off: have you talked to her about it and does anyone else know? Her being determined to 'beat' this is a good sign; she's obviously not in complete denial and wants to change (and can!) Little day to day things you can do are just things like complimenting her gently, reminding her of her good-points. The transgression from eating little => feeling down => feeling depressed happens scarily fast, and she'll probably need all the support she can get.

Stay by her and don't give up on trying to help; people with EDs can act irrationally when really they are scared and worried because this awful thing has come along and taken over.

If it's getting more serious than that it's time to consult her about having a problem and perhaps notifying a doctor. Recovery is scary as hell for most but there are people on this thread who can vouch for its improvement on their lives.

I hope everything sorts out - and do NOT hesitate to ask the rest of this thread for advice (or perhaps even direct her here, if she has TSR? Getting your thoughts out helps a tonne.) They're a trillion times more knowledgeable than me and are ALL really lovely people. ( To you all, by the way.)

Thanks for the reply

Its got progressively worse like I said. I was the first person she told and it took me a while to get it of her. Just recently (after much persuasion) ive got her to tell her mum about it. Her mum has reacted and said that she would help her, but I know im no expert but I would of thought her mum would of got professionals involved. Her mums just said that they'll work it through together.

I also managed to persuade her to go and see her doctor at uni and she did (this was like 6 months ago now). The doctor referred her to a specialist but she was put on a waiting list which they said could take up to a year!!

Hmmmm im just really worried about her :\. She used to be a really happy person and its literally taken over her life. I live just round the corner from her so ive told her that whenever she feels down or anything to text me and il come round belongs im in and I do go round butt i just dont know what to suggest to her. :\

Today I haven't been sick at all But I feel like if I eat any more I will...

I had: 2 bowls of muesli, a plain bagel and an apple, that's more than enough right?
Oh and a cup of tea with sugar and milk!

No. It is not enough. Even an optimistic estimate still puts intake at @700 kcals - far too little. Just to maintain weight women need 2000kcal and men 2500 - depending on activity levels of course.

But well done for not throwing up!

For recovery you know that you will have to get used to eating enough to keep your weight stable throwing up - but you will get there!

I don't count calories so I get confused easily over portion sizes... .........Luckily I have a normal bodyweight so nobody suspects anything, my mum tells me every time she calls me that I'm overweight (I'm not)

I'm so sorry that your Mum says that! Some parents just aren't supportive and have no idea about the effect that they have.

Have you told her that you don't like it and asked her to stop? Then whenever she does it you can say that you've asked her and end the conversation.

The trouble with not counting calories is that, as you've found, it is so easy to kid yourself that you've had enough to eat.

You need three meals a day each containing some protein, carbohydrate, fat, fruit or vegetables. A bowl of muesli is a light breakfast or a snack, just as one bagel is.
Look at an ordinary sized dinner plate, as a general guideline a meal would look like this: 1/4 should be carbohydrate, 1/2 should be vegetables and 1/4 should be protein.

You're in the right thread for support. The guys on this thread are great

Cloppy, a thousand times over, I applaud you. You're so incredibly brave to have posted with your own screen name, and this is the first step in acceptance and telling the world, "this is me, I am vulnerable, I am suffering, but I can DO this!"

Hiding away is when the ED eats away at your psyche and breaks down your mental and emotional defences. When THOSE are gone, it's easy for it to destroy your body. Trivial, even. By telling us your thoughts, anxieties and feelings more regularly, you can vent what would otherwise be welling up inside.

A problem shared is a problem halved.


On a separate tangent, I am just shy of my BMI being 16 now... that's the GOOD news. Bad news? I broke my wrist by merely LEANING on it. Anorexia-induced acute osteoperosis? Not recommended. I am like reverse Wolverine. An exoskeleton made out of breadsticks.