Now, I wonder... to those of you that have stated you have a problem - how many of you ACTUALLY talk about it? I mean, of you, how many of you use this thread as their ONLY outlet for the issue?
They say "A problem shared is a problem halved" - I disagree with this. A problem shared is a problem SMASHED - Speaking about the issues you're having with the people closest to you absolutely decimates the worries. And I'm not talking "just touch base", I mean actually be honest, be up-front, truthful, and explicit.
If you feel you're putting on weight at an inordinate rate, if you feel you cannot attend a particular interview, appointment, if there's an upcoming event that is making you nervous or regressing into old habits - speak at length about it. You will suddenly find that, with another person (or people) in awareness of your anxiety, you no longer fixate so strongly on it, and when you do, the other person sees the signs in order to aid stifle it on your behalf.
It's tremendous how many people say they're struggling and have tried everything, but haven't done the most effective, simple thing in the world, and confide their issues in a trustee, a person, a peer.
"I'm overwhelmed and have no idea what to do, I've tried everything" is a common phrase I hear. "What did your mum say when you told her?" "Oh, I don't tell anyone anything about this, it's my problem."
A great little story is "The World is Broken", which is paraphrased from an old tale (I'm sure I've changed a lot of it over the years, I heard it when I was a pup).
A little old man got up, got ready, and went for a walk.
The little old man walked the same road for all of his years. It was a smooth road with many things along the way. He saw a beautiful big oak tree, said hello to his neighbour as he passed by, smiled at the pretty waitress who brought him his cup of tea and chocolate biscuit at the cute lakeside cafe, and finally, his own front door as he returned home for the evening. Every day he saw these things, in order, following the road he always walked.
One day he woke up, turned on his hearing aid, popped in his teeth, put on his glasses and slipped on his favourite shoes, and started walking the road he walked all of his days. Yet the road felt bumpy today. Every step he took, his feet hurt. It was strange. He saw the beautiful big oak tree. But it had a great big crack all the way to the roots! It pained him to see such a flaw in the mighty bark. He shouted hello to his neighbour, but he just seem to ignore him! He went to the cafe and smiled at the pretty waitress, who responded with a frown today - and gave him his tea and chocolate biscuit. But he found they tasted strange and he couldn't eat the biscuit very well either. What was going on?! Whatever was happening today?!
Finally, he walked to his front door, and saw that it too, was broken. His heart sank. The world around him was broken. The beauty in the world was disappearing, and the things he loved each day were no more.
The next day he didn't go out at all. It was so strange and out of character for the man that his neighbour stopped by to see what was wrong.
"The world is broken", the little old man said. "Everything is.... wrong!"
His neighbour chuckled.
"I think I know the problem."
His neighbour walked over to the table with all the old man's things upon them. The hearing aid was out of batteries. The soles on the shoes were worn away. The glasses were cracked, and the false teeth were missing a couple of chompers!
The old man couldn't believe it.
"So the world isn't broken at all!?"
It's a cute story because it shows that all it takes is a skew in your mental perception of things to destroy your whole outlook on life. You start to hear things that weren't said. The way people react to you, you assume they react to you for the wrong, paranoid reasons. Things that looked beautiful before, now look broken. All it takes is for one person to tell you that it's not the world, NOR you, that is broken. It's the equipment you use, the reasoning you use, that's blurred. But when you rely on these tools daily, you never notice that the tools of perception might be askew. It takes a fresh mind, tongue, eye, ear - a different set of tools - to notice a set that's broken in some way.
Right now you're the wee old man, and you're picking out all the flaws in your world, in the things you hold dear. But the world - nor you - are broken. You're just seeing it through broken glasses, with a busted hearing aid, with worn-out shoes, and nobbled old nashers.