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Depression is who I am now the person who was alive years ago, who had everything has gone forever

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Its good to learn from the past, but try not to dwell on it too much :hugs:

I wouldn't say everything is gone, we just change a lot. We can draw great strength from our suffering :console:

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Didn't get any sleep last night, tossed and turned and constantly had cold sweats, urgh. Always happens when i need to be awake for something in the morning, i think i worry too much about sleeping through alarms. Wonder when its gonna catch up with me...need to be up early tomorrow too.

The cabbie i got was cool, had a nice chat on the way to the station. Hope my phone lasts the journey, no charger ;_;

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iloveteddy14

i think my depression isn't get a job do a course and i am cured. I just believe that its a long term fluctuating condition and there's management but no cure that works

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senz72

Original post by iloveteddy14

i think my depression isn't get a job do a course and i am cured. I just believe that its a long term fluctuating condition and there's management but no cure that works

Well said. I think I'm the same. Those words have helped me.

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superwolf

Aargh I have the best kind of problem - mystery parcel that's probably a birthday present - should I wait and be good, or open it now? :tongue:

Also I can't decide which mouse treats/toys to buy. :puppyeyes:

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penguindrum

I vaguely remember a penguin being about for a bit :tongue:

Though I can't be 100% sure :colondollar:

Good to have you here again regardless :smile:

(even if I'm also sorry that you're feeling bleh enough to come alone here :redface:

)

Spoiler

I feel a lot better today! Results went well, no quibbles with my parents :smile:

My mum cried :colondollar:

so thankfully nothing ended in disaster!

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PandaWho

Original post by superwolf

Aargh I have the best kind of problem - mystery parcel that's probably a birthday present - should I wait and be good, or open it now? :tongue:

Also I can't decide which mouse treats/toys to buy. :puppyeyes:

Wait

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rmhumphries

Original post by superwolf

Aargh I have the best kind of problem - mystery parcel that's probably a birthday present - should I wait and be good, or open it now? :tongue:

Also I can't decide which mouse treats/toys to buy. :puppyeyes:

Wait

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superwolf

Original post by PandaWho

Wait

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Original post by rmhumphries

Wait

Reply 848

samba

Original post by PandaWho

Wait

Original post by rmhumphries

Wait

I wouldn't :p:

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furryface12

Original post by superwolf

Aargh I have the best kind of problem - mystery parcel that's probably a birthday present - should I wait and be good, or open it now? :tongue:

Also I can't decide which mouse treats/toys to buy. :puppyeyes:

Be a good wolf and wait! If you do decide to be a bad one though make sure to tell us what's in there and we can share in your exciting mysteriousness (is that a word?) :tongue:

A cat?

But no, cats are horrible and mice are nice, so maybe a toy one would be better :yep:

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superwolf

Original post by samba

I wouldn't :p:

Original post by furryface12

Be a good wolf and wait! If you do decide to be a bad one though make sure to tell us what's in there and we can share in your exciting mysteriousness (is that a word?) :tongue:

A cat?

But no, cats are horrible and mice are nice, so maybe a toy one would be better :yep:

I'll probably be a good wolf. :angel:

And it's very likely knitting books, I recognise the name of the shop it's from (plus I gave my mum a whole list of knitting books to choose from :tongue:

).

I'm thinking of buying them an adventure playground. :tongue:

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furryface12

Original post by superwolf

I'll probably be a good wolf. :angel:

And it's very likely knitting books, I recognise the name of the shop it's from (plus I gave my mum a whole list of knitting books to choose from :tongue:

).

I'm thinking of buying them an adventure playground. :tongue:

That angel looks anything but angelic :lol:

Oooh, can I have a go? :puppyeyes:

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superwolf

Original post by furryface12

That angel looks anything but angelic :lol:

Oooh, can I have a go? :puppyeyes:

You may, although I was not aware that you were mouse-sized. :tongue:

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purple-duck

Original post by thatsthebadger93

Sorry to quote most of your reply doimg it from a mobile! Thanks for the hugs it's going better than I thought it would starting to get escorted leave from monday and home leave for my birthday so that's good. How are things with you?

That's okay! :redface:

No need to apologise :nah:

Glad it's better than you thought - that sounds good, getting a bit of freedom at least? :smile:

oh, happy birthday! (For whenever that is/was :colondollar:

)
Up and down, apparently :s-smilie:

thanks

Original post by DebkoX

I spose I could but I don't even know whats wrong with me.
One friend say 'Psychologically damaged' its possible. I'm well aware of the fact I'm probably not well up there, but its never been terrible.

Don't need to know what's bad with you necessarily - that's their job :biggrin:

- but if you think you're not 100% well, then they're there to try and help you get better :smile:

Just something to think about maybe? Sorry I don't want to, or mean to be like "GO TO THE DOCTORS" :colondollar:

Original post by Cantthinkofname

I'll just start talking because the title of this thread is 'mental health'.

My story isn't as bad as many of you people on this page but for me it is very hard. When I was two years old my parents divorced, we lived in New York we are American. When they divorced my mum decided to come to England. I wasn't used to this at all considering everything about New York leaving all my family, I only had my brother and sister and my mum. My dad had made a plan that every summer me and my brother and sister move back for the duration of the holiday. I know this May seem like a very good thing, it is for me I love it but at the end of summer I have to leave my dad and my country. I live in a small town a aswell which I hate because the neighbors are always doing bad things (I won't go into detail) I've been to CAMS or however you spell it and it was alright but I decided not to because they placed me on tier three which is self harm which I don't deliberately do. I just need to talk to someone with the problems. I'm sixteen and in nine days again the torture of separating from my father begins. If you read this thankyou.

Sounds tough with all the moving about :s-smilie:

Are there any counsellors at your school you could see? Though that might be what the CAMHS thing was :s-smilie:

Original post by tasha96

Its horrible. :sad:

Although in a way I'm kind of relieved it's not sadness, wich is what I thought it was at first. :redface:

Sorry you experience it too. :frown:

Take EVERYTHING. :colone:

This is why you should carry a handbag- All Of The Space for All Of The Sweeties.... :tongue:

It is awful. :s-smilie:

Its a physical pain. :redface:

I'm so glad its reduced in frequency and duration for you though. :smile:

I know what you mean about it being like a void you have to fill. :sad:

I think that's why I feel the need to CONSTANTLY be busy (I've worked it so I have college during the day, something (mostly free things) on every evening and either a first aid duty or a camp or a leaders planning session or something at the weekend :s-smilie:

) And why I struggle so much during the summer when most of the clubs and volunteering stops. :redface:

Well I think I do, not sure :redface:

Don't quite get the pain maybe :s-smilie:

I'm sorry you're feeling like that at the moment though :console:

Haha

I popped into tesco and got some sweets beforehand :tongue:

I'm not taking a handbag though :colonhash:

I have a satchel though :tongue:

They didn't check it at all, it's a smaller cinema than I was expecting too, I don't think they'd ever check bags really :redface:

Think I'm going to have to make myself more busy/have more of a schedule when I'm back at Uni, I find a schedule/being busy helps too I think :redface:

Though then at the same time being busy = stress = bad :colondollar:

That sounds like a good plan though for having things to do in evenings and occasional weekend :smile:

Original post by tasha96

Back to lying curled up on the floor just listening to harry potter audio books again. :cry2:

That's what I used to do before I went into hospital. Dont know how to snap out of it- I feel so awful. :cry2:

And its so fecking pathetic- Im eighteen ffs I should be able to deal with things and I dont and just dijggo;iwej;okmdq.dmkkkv. :bawling:

Not pathetic at all! :hugs:

Harry Potter's good though :s:

Original post by Star-girl

Thanks.

It is. I love to re-read my diaries after some time has passed - it's so much fun. :lol:

True! I am having a good time. :smile:

I take it you've been keeping them for a while? :smile:

It's fun, though sometimes shocking at how rushed my writing is sometimes :tongue:

and often sad :frown:

Glad you've having fun :smile:

Original post by lauraaaaa

haha, ive had three months before and was perfectly fine when i got back in the car so its all fine! I just never have anywhere to drive too, and all the drivers are dickheads round here! Absolutely hate when people drive up your arse :angry:

anyway aha! yeah, I’m in james college! although I’ve managed to **** up paying for my accommodation, so now i have to faff about trying to correct that without my parents knowing :/ i don’t have any student loan! I’m having to pay £400 extra just for accommodation! yeah i watched the perks of being a wall flower online…illegally :colondollar:

sorrynotsorry, i watch everything online hahah! she’s been in a fair few things I’ve seen, but apparently the bling ring is good!

I GOT SPAG BOL! :biggrin:

ooh, i haven’t seen that, let me know if its good! haha i love food so much its a problem :redface:

hahahah sounds like a good idea to me! not at someones house though!

and yes because my bank account has been frozen in an ISA for four years so I’ve never been able to draw any money out so haven’t needed one :smile:

can’t wait to use a cash machine for the first time :lol:

I’m so sad! and oh please :frown:

hahaha! I got a free rail card, which i need to apply for actually! i also just bought my first freshers ticket! and yeah I’m okay thanks, still really dehydrated though :/ how are you? :smile:

Trying to decide where to drive right now myself actually :colondollar:

Feel as though I should use it/get used to the car - as currently I'm terrible in this one :tongue:

Yeah that's horrible :mad:

ah cool

that's a shame :s-smilie:

Hope you can get it sorted okay soon, secretly :ninja:

oh no! a lot of people seem to have that problem :s-smilie:

I think the way they work out the student loans is stupid, parents shouldn't be expected to look after their children post-18. :/ (IMO) Plus there are fee waivers here where I am which I swear make no sense basing off parent income, but anyway...
Haha :colondollar:

#sorrynotsorry :biggrin:

I used to occasionally, but our ISP blocked the site I used :/ Ah okay, might give it a look then :redface:

I have a bol pasta bake in the fridge I think - might have it tonight :smile:

It was really good thanks :biggrin:

Exactly!

Oh right okay! Haha, it's quite useful having one :smile:

particularly if you forget to get money out/don't have the change. Hahaha No. :unimpressed:

(

) Oh awesome :biggrin:

Hope you're feeling better this morning :smile:

(or afternoon now... :lol:

)
I am up and down :tongue:

not sure :/

Original post by WelshBluebird

Been feeling really weird the last day or so. Like not lonely per say but just a bit "meh" about the fact that:
1 - Most of my friends live elsewhere so I can't really do much unless I travel around the plac (which don't get me wrong I love doing, but isn't really feasible every single weekend and doesn't help during the week).
2 - That most of my friends are in relationships :frown:

Can definitely relate to 1 and in part 2 :sadnod:

We moved house from where I went to school/sixth form this february, been a bit odd because I've had Uni inbetween then/before we moved, but been sad the last 2 holidays just because I can't really see them. Like a 3 hour drive away :/ Been up there once which was nice, and possibly seeing some of them again sometimes next month. I'm sorry you're apart from them though :frown:

Also closest friends are in relationships too :s-smilie:

and relationships within our friendship "group" (even if I hate calling it that :colondollar:

) - and they're all really cute and I'm happy for them, but also end up feeling a bit left out? They've all had a great year with University/their partners and I'm just sort of stuck here... :redface:

Sorry, me rambling a bit here.

:hugs:

Original post by PandaWho

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Made a feel good cake :smile:

Sorry, meant to reply to this sooner :tongue:

but

Was/is it tasty? Share some? :puppyeyes:

I'm glad you've had a nice time with brother staying :smile:

Shame that he has to go, but did you say he's only away for a year this time? ("only" a year, long time I know, but less than last time?)

Original post by Valvopus

Hostel I'm staying at has wifi. Croatia is really warm and overall have had a good day. Just worrying because the room we've ended up on is more expensive than I budgeted for, my own fault for messing up the booking but does make me worry I'm going to run out of money. Like I've checked my bank account and there's no way it'll stretch til I get home. Even when I finally March my friend to the bank to get my money I'm still going to end up short. I can borrow money from my parents but it just feels like such a screw up. Also they're then going to realise I have basically no plan on how I'm going to afford heading to Cyprus when I get home. My plan there is just to not really spend any money at all which I suspect isn't actually possible.
So I'm exhausted after getting up at 2am to catch my flight then spending the day sightseeing but I can't even contemplate sleep right now even though we're getting up at 6:30 to do more sightseeing. I want to see all the stuff but this place just seems to eat money.
Dreading to think what I'm going to be like if my student loan doesn't come through by the time term starts.

Do you need to get to cyprus? :dontknow:

If at start of term student loan's stupid then you can always borrow from parents then? :redface:

Not your fault at all if SFE screw up!

Hope you have a nice time in croatia! :biggrin:

Original post by Sabertooth

Not really. She still thinks tickling is an appropriate response. :sigh:

I've seen Guardians of the Galaxy it was pretty good. What did you think of it? I really want to see Let's be cops but my wife says the reviews are crap so she's not seeing it.

Hmm

Not appropriate at all :no:

Hate that sort of thing :s-smilie:

Have you talked to her about it? Let her know that you don't like being tickled? (or at least not when you're feeling rubbish :redface:

)

Yeah really enjoyed it :biggrin:

Was quite light hearted and just fun I thought :smile:

I'm still not quite sure how bradley cooper was the raccoon/rocket :tongue:

I just looked at a couple of clips for that :tongue:

I think with reviews that quite often they rate things bad, but that often doesn't stop them being really enjoyable to watch

Original post by The_Lonely_Goatherd

TLG Update: Huge influx of relatives for the summer (started yesterday) so will hardly be on here. Don't panic if I don't post for many days in a row! :colondollar:

Hope they're not too overwhelming :smile:

Original post by furryface12

Sorry, nope :tongue:

I can't see it, I'm on my ipod :frown:

Will look tomorrow if I remember :yep:

And you can NEVER have too many smileys :no:

I've never actually noticed security guards at supermarkets in my town, they must have them I suppose but never really looked if I'm honest... I have no idea! He seemed quite confused by it too :lol:

Today's been a bit better, still didn't go to woods but generally felt okish other than a really really dizzy bit earlier. Hoping it doesn't come back again as I've run out of tablets and don't want to keep passing out etc on holiday :redface:

Ok, fair enough :biggrin:

That's quite nice actually, means you have the choice without it being too overwhelming hopefully :smile:

People coming and going could be more difficult, but if they're nice that's good!

They're a few years older than me, they've all finished uni and got jobs and things :s-smilie:

It's kind of difficult as I know them too well to do the 'what sort of thing are you into' stuff (not that I'm exactly great at that anyway :colondollar:

) but not like sibling or good friend well so that we can laugh at each other and things :dontknow:

It should be fine, they're all nice, just not sure what to expect really and I don't normally see more than one of them at once.

LOOK

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I suppose that is true :tongue:

Fair enough :eek:

Tesco always has one, anyway - at least I've found that :redface:

Glad your day's been better, sorry that dizzyness is getting you :console:

Can you get a repeat prescription quickly before you go at all? or a similar over-the-counter thing or something? :redface:

Yeah

Mostly avoiding them I think :tongue:

Feel a bit bad, but at the same time just easier this way I think :redface:

Yeah I hope they're all nice :s-smilie:

Apparently the next person has teenagers though :s-smilie:

scary

Ah okay, yeah I can see that being difficult - I'm sure you'll all have fun though! :smile:

I hope you do :hugs:

Original post by Meaty_man

I'm very confident that you wouldn't, you're a good guy, probably more so than you give yourself credit for :tongue:

Original post by penguindrum

I feel a lot better today! Results went well, no quibbles with my parents :smile:

My mum cried :colondollar:

so thankfully nothing ended in disaster!

Glad they went well, and that they're being nice/good :smile:

Many well done's, too! :hugs:

Original post by superwolf

Aargh I have the best kind of problem - mystery parcel that's probably a birthday present - should I wait and be good, or open it now? :tongue:

Also I can't decide which mouse treats/toys to buy. :puppyeyes:

I'm sorry to say it wolfie... but wait. :tongue:

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SassQueen13

Been feeling really low, panicky, anxious and nervous recently, just hoping this feeling goes away soon :cry2:

Can't stop worrying and overthinking things either ugh.

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username504651

Original post by SassQueen13

Been feeling really low, panicky, anxious and nervous recently, just hoping this feeling goes away soon :cry2:

Can't stop worrying and overthinking things either ugh.

message me if you need too :hugs:

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ByronicHero

Original post by Jean-Luc Picard

I got 7 C's and 1 F...

they don't mean nothing though, like everyone judges you on them & they determine what you can do in a lot of ways for your future...

Original post by samba

I got BCCCDD :p:

They literally don't. I'm a bit older than you now, and not even one person mentions/asks me about them in any walk of life. Going to a semi decent uni too in a month, Honestly, don't worry about them :smile:

Can confirm.

My GCSEs: CCCEE.

I had offers from Warwick, York, Exeter and UEA (interviewed at Cambridge [though they told me where to go :tongue:

]) and they have never been referenced at any job interview I've ever attended. Whether they matter for your sense of self worth or not is another issue but really you shouldn't place too much stock in the opinion of anyone who thinks that your academic history is necessarily an accurate representation of your ability, let alone your worth. Life is - for many of us - a winding path, punctuated by obstacles and potholes. Try to worry about tomorrow.

:smile:

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samba

Original post by ByronicHero

Can confirm.

My GCSEs: CCCEE.

I had offers from Warwick, York, Exeter and UEA (interviewed at Cambridge [though they told me where to go :tongue:

Good advice there!

Good job on those offers too :smile:

Do you feel you're in a place where you can kill it now? I'd honestly be disappointed with a first at this point. Anything less than top of my class will probably annoy me.

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purple-duck

Original post by Porridge510

Thank you, it makes me feel better knowing others do it. :smile:

He is, I have two nice doctors. But one of them seems to always be on leave. :/ I feel like one, because I'm lieing to my dad. :frown:

My boyfriend knows I haven't been taking it because he comes up to me with them and I say no. :frown:

My sleep has altered so much in these past few days, I was sleeping well. but all of a sudden haven't been feeling calm or relaxed at night. And not tired, but in the day I'm exhausted and feel weak. I can't win. :redface:

Yeah, I haven't done anything with my life these past couple of years. But since I found out that my college did online courses I was pleased and gave it a go. I really don't know if to go to college and do a course to get me onto uni and then go to uni or just do A level english and Gcse maths at home. I hate where I live so much. But I feel like i might be worse at uni on my own. In a new enviroment and no support from my dad and stuff. I don't know I'm so confused. :frown:

After 4 years I'l be moving in with my boyfriend because thats when he finishes uni, so i dont know if to stay here until then. Hopefully 4 years will go fast. :frown:

Well its not full 4 years if you think about it. And I'm busy with A levels and maths for a year. I just don't know what to do. Sorry for this long post. :frown:

More for me :tongue:

No, im joking. :smile:

We share some with grounded pepper. :smile:

np!

Not an idiot to do that though - I can understand why you'd lie :redface:

I think I probably would too (I mean I lie about how I'm feeling to parents whenever they ask) :console:

I think it'd be good for you to maybe start on them soon - don't want you getting worse! :hugs:

and presumably you're no longer on the Q-something you were on before? :s-smilie:

(I think that was you on a med beginning with Q, possibly not :colondollar:

) I'm sorry you end up exhausted in the day though, that can't be fun :frown:

I don't know what would be best - but starting back with something like the english at maths at home seems like a nice middle-ground/way to get back into things? :smile:

I've found Uni a bit odd really - in that I think I prefer it to where I live/home life - having the freedom to do what I want and things - but at the same time as you say there are other anxieties, and I think being away from home/not having family there to make sure I'm eating/talking to people each day, it's also sort of worse for me. I hope that that made sense :s-smilie:

He'll have long summers with Uni, too! :smile:

(well, long holidays in general) - he's only away there for like 2/3 of the year? :redface:

No need to apologise - sounds confusing :s-smilie:

I hate decisions - they're really difficult :redface:

I'd maybe see how this year goes with the english and maths and maybe decide after that? Take up what you want to do, and you can always drop things etc, too :smile:

Ah - good! :unimpressed:

Original post by Porridge510

Don't know if its quoted. :frown:

I read through the thread anyway :redface:

Thanks though :hugs:

Original post by furryface12

Spoiler

Good!

Can't actually remember the last time I went to the cinema, it's too much of a pain to get there and I end up too tired to pay attention. That and I can't really sit still for long enough to watch a film in one go usually :colondollar:

The card sounds good, and you definitely got a good deal on it!

I don't mind at all (as I said before you don't have to reply to me at all :tongue:

), probably won't have internet though after 5ish for a week or so so sorry if I don't reply!

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Sister's gone to get GCSE results- I'm scared for her! :s-smilie:

Spoiler

Haha

I have a friend who ends up tired through them tbf :colondollar:

(though I guess you might mean because of ill-stuff, sorry :s-smilie:

) I find that I can't properly watch films at home - takes so much effort to make yourself sit down and watch something for 2 hours :eek:

(

I like replying to you/having a convo! :biggrin:

)
oh yes - I hope you have fun! :smile:

Good luck to sister :smile:

Original post by lauraaaaa

That's fine, reply when you're ready :tongue:

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my sister is in year ten so has only done two gcses but she came out with 2 A's :woo

Well done to your sister! :biggrin:

Original post by Jean-Luc Picard

decided not to go to my interview today, just really don't think I can do a college course right now, sleep is still a mess, mood is fragile, really don't think I can manage a year of intensive learning yet, I don't know if I ever will be able to but I know for sure that right now I can't do it.

maybe next year or something I guess, if I am still around next year, see how life goes I suppose, if it doesn't crush me then maybe I will find a place in this world, though I won't hold my breath.

Could you maybe do some sort of course from home? An OU module or something? :dontknow:

Or at least something to consider maybe - just cos then you don't have to have the stresses of dealing with sleep/mood/anxiety stuff out of home, but can still be sort of on a course/doing something? :smile:

(if you want to)

:hugs:

Original post by fatherdougal

Hi, I'm 17 and I think I suffer from some form of autism or social disorder. I've been meaning to go to the doctor but I'm scared of what diagnosis I may have. When I was 14/15 I use to suffer severe social anxiety and would actually fear going to school just because I didn't want to go to school and be around so many people it made me have sleepless nights and i stayed recluse and became more self centred after a while. Now I'm in suxth form going into my second year and I don't suffer from as much anxiety but my friends believe i may be mildly autistic or have a mild form of Asperger's. My family is a mental health nurse but I'm afraid to tell her. I find social situations very difficult and have difficulty communicating my feelings and expressing them. It's spilled over into my relationship with my gf who just thinks I'm antisocial but I really have tried to talk and make friends but things never kick off. I feel so alone because I have no one to talk to these days since going to sixth form most of my friends have faded away or just only talk to me I. School. I try to start conversations with them but they never go far at all and I feel like people can't be bothered to deal with talking to me because it's awkward. I want to make my new friends but as I said it's awkward and my social anxiety flares up in those situations. Sorry for the long paragraph

EDIT: when these problems started coming I moves house away from a my friends in the country side to a new city and I had extreme difficulty fitting in. I was open and friendly where I lived but all that disappeared when I moved

Sounds as though you've improved a fair amount at least :redface:

Though I'm sorry you find you're struggling a bit with it sometimes :console:

I guess I'd recommend seeing your GP if you can? Just because then you can get the help you deserve/can get :smile:

Can be scary though, I know, not sure what mine's going to say when I go back to Uni this sept.

Can empathise with moving house - we used to live in the country too/close to a town, and now we're in the middle of a town - mostly just find it hard with friends not so near, (really far away actually :colondollar:

) and also sort of scary being in a new place/not having any history there to make new friends and such, if that makes sense? :smile:

I hope things improve for you soon though. (Welcome to the society! :redface:

)

Original post by Jean-Luc Picard

thanks, yeah today was okay, was tired though so slept for most of the afternoon :tongue:

ah that's a pain, hopefully it still gets sorted out though so you have something to look forward to! 2nd year is often a big challenge for people so you aren't alone in being nervous about it! hopefully people you live with are nice and stuff though, am sure you will be okay, hopefully support helps as well!