Being told to smile or "cheer up luv" on the street by men

I personally think it's a nice thing for somebody to say :s

Completely agree with this, I was having an awful day once and believe me I had every right to look like a miserable **** on that occasion. And yet again another scumbag guy decided to tell me to cheer up baby while winking at me in the most sleazy way I wanted to smack the bastard across the face. "Men" like that disgust me.

Anyone else really fed up with being constantly told to cheer up or to smile by complete strangers? It always seems to be scummy old men or chavs who feel like they can say this

I used to find it funny and awkward but it's happening most times I go out now. It's especially annoying because I'm actually really happy. Are we just meant to be walking along the street grinning all the time?

Have any guys had this happen to them? Is it only men that say this or has a woman said something similar to you?

Exactly!!!
Like the thread started said(I apologise, I can't remember your name), do these expect us to be grinning from ear to ear as were walking down the street?!

As a guy, this has never happened to me. I'd probably appreciate it though, but I can understand how it'd get a little grating if you heard it all the time.

I personally think it's a nice thing for somebody to say :s

I've never seen anyone just walk down the street and say this to anyone. But I don't get out much.

Cheer up or it'll never happen

i think you mean "cheer up. it might never happen."

i'm a geezer but sorta the same thing, i get told i look pissed off 99% of the time.

I personally think it's a nice thing for somebody to say :s

I've had old ladies tell me similar things a couple of times before.

Ever attempted to make a pterodactyl screech at guys who do that? Lemme know how that goes

I think he's on about what two drunk men said that to me the other day. Haha they were either so drunk that they got the line wrong (they had cans of beer in their hands) or they meant something else...

Cheer up luv

A checklist to keep in mind before you compliment a stranger on the street:

1. Is it really necessary?
2. Would the lack of your comment affect their day negatively?
3. Are you sure they may not just have received news that's nothing to be happy about, and thus telling them to cheer up could actually make them feel worse?
4. Could you be mistaking a 'natural resting face' for one of unhappiness? And they could be perfectly content but their face doesn't need to show it?
5. Is it really necessary, like really?

[[PS: Best keep it to friends, "why aren't you smiling" isn't the best conversation starter when meeting people"]]

Something I have noticed over the years, though am not sure if the people who do it to us notice themselves. But often times the men who do this will almost exclusively only do this to women who are alone, or at a push with another woman (though never an older woman who could be a mother or aunt). I have never been told to cheer up or had sleazy comments from men when I have been with guys or in a large group, and not often in busy places. So it's not surprising you haven't noticed it, and it's not surprising my male friends sometimes can't believe the amount we women get told to cheer up in this sleazy manner or on the other hand get given derogatory or sexually motivated comments, because they simple don't do it within your earshot the majority of the time.

I wonder why they say it at all. Maybe they get a kick out of making people feel uncomfortable and that is easiest when no-one is around.