Me too. I feel the same. I get so anxious in my whole first year I didn’t go in my shared flat kitchen and stayed in my room with no friends and KFC. I basically forced myself to talk to someone on the first day (chose a girl sat by herself cause I wouldn’t feel as intimidated) and since she had no one I wouldn’t feel too awkward saying hi and sitting next to her at class. Wasn’t friends tho.
Now second year I’ve not got a proper friendship group. Have heard uni is where you make life long friends so it’s pretty depressing when you’ve not got anyone to talk to at all.
However, my advice, just ask someone (maybe someone sat alone without their mates) about class etc. To build confidence. And if you’ve got a class with them every week, perhaps start talking more and more about other stuff.
And so many people say join societies or groups with the same interest but it’s so hard when you’re to shy to talk to people. How am I supposed to go to a group setting such as a pub etc without knowing anyone? Do I walk to a group and say hi? Do I stand around until someone gives me an activity to do? In the end I didn’t join a society. BUT, if it’s something you think you can do, then obviously give it a try. If no friends at least you’ll have something fun to do.
I wouldn’t focus so much on a girlfriend.
I thought that second year ppl have already made friendship groups too. That’s the case in my dorm but in classes, some ppl got separated due to not making the grades or changing courses etc. So there’ll be ppl alone wanting to talk to at least not look like a loner.
You’ll get there. Try not to panic. I thought I was alone in this but apparently not (however my first year living experience was quite pathetic...)
So good luck. I’m getting a friendship group of other lonely ppl so you can to if you want x
Girl, 19, second year