What makes a lot of women ashamed to admit they masturbate ?
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Original post by Hydroxy
Thanks for the heads up. I checked the profile after I posted that and apparently 22 ? No way...
I've had a partner before who had never masturbated but I always thought it was a rarity.
Yeah that makes sense. Perhaps also, since a lot of men become increasingly intimidated with increasingly attractive women, they're less likely to speak out if they disapprove. Hence the attractive woman hasn't experienced the same level of shaming over their lifetime ? Confidence tends to be something that goes with increasing attractiveness and the men could be subconsciously scared they'll get torn new ones if they speak out.
I've had a partner before who had never masturbated but I always thought it was a rarity.
Yeah that makes sense. Perhaps also, since a lot of men become increasingly intimidated with increasingly attractive women, they're less likely to speak out if they disapprove. Hence the attractive woman hasn't experienced the same level of shaming over their lifetime ? Confidence tends to be something that goes with increasing attractiveness and the men could be subconsciously scared they'll get torn new ones if they speak out.
So agree with someone who is clearly of infantile proportions JUST to denounce what I am saying because you can't on your own? Then you call me immature.
You're just an idiot, seriously. Have you never seen an unattractive woman try to gain attention? "Increasingly attractive" women (if that's a thing) normally don't have to be so open to gain attention or attraction because they get it by default simply because they're good looking. There's nothing wrong with that statement
You just want women to talk about strumming so you can get off.
Original post by RiOt GrrrL
Hmmm...probably. But the somewhat taboo idea of women masturbating is different from OP asking why don't women "openly admit it," which is weird that he wants women to announce that they just rubbed one out
Well I'd assume that the taboo surrounding masturbation, especially for women, is exactly the reason why they feel like they can't talk about such matters. It is odd to want women to admit something like that though, you're right.
I'd say what I want is a society where people (men and women) can openly talk about sex without being judged. Beyond that I hate double standards in general, so they all need to go. Of course we're a long way from achieving that, but I digress. 
Original post by ChaoticButterfly
I dunno but I find it kind of hot when a women can talk openly about it
Of course talking about sex is sexy. Men are so simple.
But is it hot when a female you're not attracted to does it...? 
Original post by RiOt GrrrL
Of course talking about sex is sexy. Men are so simple. But is it hot when a female you're not attracted to does it...?
But is it hot when a female you're not attracted to does it...? Not as hot but it doesn't bother me. The only time I find talking about sex awkward is if my parents are involved. They only ever had sex once to conceive me obviously, *sticks fingers in ears* "lalalalalalalalalalalalalal" Or if people are prying into my inability to get a girlfriend.
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Original post by ChaoticButterfly
Not as hot but it doesn't bother me. The only time I find talking about sex awkward is if my parents are involved. They only ever had sex once to conceive me obviously, *sticks fingers in ears* "lalalalalalalalalalalalalal" Or if people are prying into my inability to get a girlfriend.
Awww
And yes discussing it with the folks, I think it's weird to openly be sexual around your parents instead.
Your folks normally want the best for you and don't want to hear about your late night romping with a stranger. And you don't want to hear about theirs 
Original post by Hydroxy
Don't worry, I don't take offence off the online ignorant.
Nowhere was I saying that you should go and sit next to someone on a bus and start telling them you masturbate. However, if you're in a mixed friendship group and you start talking about sex or masturbation as an occasional topic I see no harm with women getting involved. They shouldn't just stay quiet because that's what is expected of them as a woman.
Nowhere was I saying that you should go and sit next to someone on a bus and start telling them you masturbate. However, if you're in a mixed friendship group and you start talking about sex or masturbation as an occasional topic I see no harm with women getting involved. They shouldn't just stay quiet because that's what is expected of them as a woman.
Who said anything about women keeping quiet all the time when their social group talks about it? Your original post indicated that women should be more open about masturbation. Don't move the goal posts.
Yup, first sign of losing an argument is calling someone a dimwitted twit or in your case 'online ignorant'. Just because my logic doesn't match yours doesn't mean its idiotic or ignornant.
Original post by NaTaLiiA513
No offence but you sound ridiculous. How is trying to act decent old-fashioned? Never mind females but even males should keep their masturbating sessions a secret. I don't think everyone wants to know what you did last night whilst watching pornhub.
Pretty much this. I mean if you're with friends and everyone's cool with discussing such a topic then go ahead, it's your right. BUT, I don't see the appeal. It is a very weird and cringe worthy topic to go on about in detail.
I also agree that men and women should be held to the same standard, but one with no shame. I personally wouldn't talk about masturbation, but each to their own.
Original post by Danz123
Pretty much this. I mean if you're with friends and everyone's cool with discussing such a topic then go ahead, it's your right. BUT, I don't see the appeal. It is a very weird and cringe worthy topic to go on about in detail.
I also agree that men and women should be held to the same standard, but one with no shame. I personally wouldn't talk about masturbation, but each to their own.
I also agree that men and women should be held to the same standard, but one with no shame. I personally wouldn't talk about masturbation, but each to their own.
I agree with you on that. I'm Asian and some of my white friends talk a lot about what they did last night at so and so's party and who did what with who. It disgusts me, I really don't care what happens. It's the norm to talk about how many times you got caked or your regular ******* sessions during free periods. The majority of us try to stay out of those conversations because they are so graphic and include every aspect of the whole experience.
I don't know! I have friends who are like 'Ew no I'd never do that... It would be like fingering another girl'.. I mean honestly 22/23 year old women who think masturbating will turn them into raging lesbians. These are also the girls who are 'not sure' if they've ever had an orgasm. Makes sense.
Original post by blackened_sky
That and girls doing it isn't nearly as common as guys seem to think it is
Actually it is very common - many do it far more than guys due to depression.
Original post by Youni-chan
Because there's still some sort of taboo on girls being sexual, we're getting there with the slut shaming thing but in terms of self pleasure, I think there's just no progress. Girls masturbating hasn't be normalised like it is for boys. For boys, they're an encouraged while society makes it seem like it's kinda dirty or weird thing for girls to do. Girl's arent even taught that much about their own vagina, yet alone masturbation.
Oh it is because girls believe they are meant to have a partner rather than be single and get off themselves. If you **** as a girl, you should apparently be ashamed. Here is why;
If you **** as a guy, it is accepted as men are portrayed as some testosterone sex fuelled beast.
But girls are portrayed as these vestal virgins that are as innocent as a lamb etc, when the truth is that many are more horny then guys. However due to insecurities, they won't admit to it. Also many find it easier to just get a guy they don't really like rather than play with themselves
You also have the issue of many girls not being able to orgasm due to issues. Guys don't really have this issue, but many girls do and again, they don't want to admit it or deal with it (who would?) so they pretend they don't masterbate, thus avoiding the "how do you find it" follow up questions or any awkward dealings.
In short, there needs to be more honesty about girls sexuality, and the entire "slut shaming" rubbish is crippling this as it is going from one extreme to the other. People need to admit that girls are just like guys - most want sex, most masterbate, but most don't want to sleep around like some skank.
Original post by NaTaLiiA513
I agree with you on that. I'm Asian and some of my white friends talk a lot about what they did last night at so and so's party and who did what with who. It disgusts me, I really don't care what happens. It's the norm to talk about how many times you got caked or your regular ******* sessions during free periods. The majority of us try to stay out of those conversations because they are so graphic and include every aspect of the whole experience.
90% is bs though. Most of the time people who say that do so in order to hide the facts that it was a) crap, or b) didn't happen.
Original post by LavenderBlueSky88
I don't know! I have friends who are like 'Ew no I'd never do that... It would be like fingering another girl'.. I mean honestly 22/23 year old women who think masturbating will turn them into raging lesbians. These are also the girls who are 'not sure' if they've ever had an orgasm. Makes sense.
This is a lot of the issue. Many girls now are very uptight about sex and have a lot of issues over it, thus preventing them from actually orgasming. How to solve such a problem is a mystery as you don't want to advocate slags, but young women who have never ograsmned is symptomatic of much larger problems.
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Original post by NaTaLiiA513
I agree with you on that. I'm Asian and some of my white friends talk a lot about what they did last night at so and so's party and who did what with who. It disgusts me, I really don't care what happens. It's the norm to talk about how many times you got caked or your regular ******* sessions during free periods. The majority of us try to stay out of those conversations because they are so graphic and include every aspect of the whole experience.
I'll be honest and say that if someone asks what happened when I was out, I'd tell them that I got with someone, but the conversation would end there. Going into graphic detail seems alien to me. I mean maybe I'd talk about a girl I really like more to a really close friend, but to randomly blurt out all the details to anyone and everyone is something I'd never do.
Original post by Hydroxy
Right, I started a conversation on masturbation.
My OP was that I was going to make a thread asking everyone, regardless of gender how frequently they masturbated. But if I did, the turnout would likely be predominantally male. So I asked why would that be...
If I had started a thread on plane engines and someone started talking about masturbating then it would be off and not a decent thing to do.
If you're in a conversation where the topic of masturbation is brought up however (like this thread) and you deliberately don't talk about it because you're a woman and that's what "womenly apparently don't do" - then you're old-fashioned.
Why? Because in the modern world it's just as plausible for both genders to talk about the masturbation openly. You know, given the whole gender equality thing which we occasionally hear about.
If you still believe women should be more quiet about it because they're women even when the conversation is about masturbation then you're in an older time.
My OP was that I was going to make a thread asking everyone, regardless of gender how frequently they masturbated. But if I did, the turnout would likely be predominantally male. So I asked why would that be...
If I had started a thread on plane engines and someone started talking about masturbating then it would be off and not a decent thing to do.
If you're in a conversation where the topic of masturbation is brought up however (like this thread) and you deliberately don't talk about it because you're a woman and that's what "womenly apparently don't do" - then you're old-fashioned.
Why? Because in the modern world it's just as plausible for both genders to talk about the masturbation openly. You know, given the whole gender equality thing which we occasionally hear about.
If you still believe women should be more quiet about it because they're women even when the conversation is about masturbation then you're in an older time.
Oh dear lord.
Did you just not read my posts or are you trying to act dumb on purpose.
Thinking that men and women in general shouldn't talk about anything sexual in PUBLIC does NOT make me old fashioned. You're just naive, thinking that if some people do it then all should do it.
You asked if females masturbated and if so tell you on this thread. < READ YOUR ORIGINAL POST AGAIN.
It's inappropriate. Most people don't want to talk about it or listen to other people graphically explain their most recent sexual act.
Just let that sink in.
Original post by Danz123
I'll be honest and say that if someone asks what happened when I was out, I'd tell them that I got with someone, but the conversation would end there. Going into graphic detail seems alien to me. I mean maybe I'd talk about a girl I really like more to a really close friend, but to randomly blurt out all the details to anyone and everyone is something I'd never do.
Ah, well if you came to my school (there's a 6th form and that's where most of this comes from) you'd probably find out about everybody's sex life in your first week. It's indecent. When people do blurt out graphic detail they usually get called 'slut' or 'man-whore' and they are also the talk of the school for a few days and then people move on to other victims.
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No mentioning of sex toys, or any thing a bit more "adult" please!!!! Thanks
No mentioning of sex toys, or any thing a bit more "adult" please!!!! Thanks
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Original post by Danz123
Pretty much this. I mean if you're with friends and everyone's cool with discussing such a topic then go ahead, it's your right. BUT, I don't see the appeal. It is a very weird and cringe worthy topic to go on about in detail.
I also agree that men and women should be held to the same standard, but one with no shame. I personally wouldn't talk about masturbation, but each to their own.
I also agree that men and women should be held to the same standard, but one with no shame. I personally wouldn't talk about masturbation, but each to their own.
Tbf most times I mention masturbation around friends it's in silly response to awesomeness; 'Linkin Park on tour!' 'I came' etc.
Original post by NaTaLiiA513
Ah, well if you came to my school (there's a 6th form and that's where most of this comes from) you'd probably find out about everybody's sex life in your first week. It's indecent. When people do blurt out graphic detail they usually get called 'slut' or 'man-whore' and they are also the talk of the school for a few days and then people move on to other victims.
Really? Wow, well I suppose a lot of people have a big fascination when it comes to these things. Over and above simple gossip, it seems they even want graphic detail. I'm a uni student by the way, so it's probably the case that people are a little more mature, but they do still talk about who 'got with who', just not in detail. You'll literally hear 'so and so hooked up with X' and that'll be the end of it. While it's stupid to air out all your baggage in such detail to everyone, I'm not a big fan of gossip so I don't think people should judge what you've been doing with someone else, since it's your business. But I do agree that one should be wary of such gossip.
Original post by Jimbo1234
Actually it is very common - many do it far more than guys due to depression.
Didn't say it wasn't common, just not as common as a lot of guys think. Most (that I've encountered) seem to assume that when a girl says they don't, that they're lying.
Original post by Hydroxy
Awr diddums, you're still in school ?
That explains a lot.
Come back and comment on this thread again 5 years after you've left and had the time to form more adult friendships.
That explains a lot.
Come back and comment on this thread again 5 years after you've left and had the time to form more adult friendships.
6th form*
Plus, it's not an insult to call me younger than you.
Just remember you're going to die first
And you're still wrong no matter what you say.
7 Reasons that i hope answer your question:
1) Not worth mentioning when it's a rank down actual sex.
2) It's a limited discussion and too personal, as the process only involves you alone.
3) Leaving people to imagine you in action to your dirty mind and you have chosen to sexualize yourself for no apparent reason.
4) And that subjects your habits to an uproar when it comes to gossip.
5) Basically you're stripped of any authority and respect for being a ****er.
6) It also makes people suspicious of you hearing there is a chance of seducing men for your own ugly pleasure.
7) It is not a nice addiction to have over time and inconvenient if your level of arousal significantly increases in public.
I don't know why this differs in disparity between the two sexes but it somehow makes you look within range of unclassy, forever alone to dangerously ill.
1) Not worth mentioning when it's a rank down actual sex.
2) It's a limited discussion and too personal, as the process only involves you alone.
3) Leaving people to imagine you in action to your dirty mind and you have chosen to sexualize yourself for no apparent reason.
4) And that subjects your habits to an uproar when it comes to gossip.
5) Basically you're stripped of any authority and respect for being a ****er.
6) It also makes people suspicious of you hearing there is a chance of seducing men for your own ugly pleasure.
7) It is not a nice addiction to have over time and inconvenient if your level of arousal significantly increases in public.
I don't know why this differs in disparity between the two sexes but it somehow makes you look within range of unclassy, forever alone to dangerously ill.
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