I hate being undermined.

Seriously what?

Happens to me on a daily basis when I'm with my family. Eventually you learn to suck it up and move on until you have those moments where you just have to cry and let it all out, but those moments become rare once you realise there's not much you can do about it.

How old are you?

What's stopping you from "asserting social and potential professional dominance" by working for a first?

yeee

When you speak to someone, the first thing you ask is: 'Sir or Madam, what is your degree? and which university did you attend?'. You seem to exaggerate elitist views.

19. Well, 20 in a few weeks. Why do you ask?

Then: I absolutely was but would rather have not fed my perfectionist tendencies, meaning learning to be proud of a 2.1 too, ironically

Now: I've graduated with a 2.1 and my time machine's a work in progress

The socio-sexual market AKA 'dating scene' IS elitist my brother, especially when dealing with a partner from a traditionalist, conservative background.

I'm in the same bracket my family is the same. They're so dismissive of me yet I've got better achievements than all of my siblings/cousins.







Yeah you can't complain. You're a dumb. Embrace it.

So you're saying it is natural for my SO to fish elsewhere for a superior male if I only get a 2.1 due to benefits of social hypergamy?

I'm sure it wasn't just your paranoia that made your gf look elsewhere for peace of mind and an easier time.

What I'm saying is you are blaming it all on your degree, something you can't help, because it's easier than facing the real issues you and your gf faced.

Sort of although I am using the degree because it is the most statistically quantifiable example of the argument.

Other issues such as...? Not sure where you get the idea I'm paranoid from

How do you know it's your 2:1 that made your gf look at the other guy'?

I don't, I list many other factors in various threads (aesthetics, social proof, etc.) which I believe would rationalise the decision to 'trade up' so to soeak. I also get told various reasons why she probably didn't actually do any of the stuff I think she did both on TSR and IRL.

Haha now I know you're trolling

It is one of the most easily accessible and civilised forms of asserting social and potential professional dominance for an undergraduate. It makes perfect sense to me else how can it have destroyed my relationship

I am really confused.

Screw your head on. Seriously.

I'm in the same bracket my family is the same. They're so dismissive of me yet I've got better achievements than all of my siblings/cousins.

I really do not get what you mean mate

I've given people the necessary talks to drag themselves out of depression, I've changed a man's worldview in 1 hour but you Riku, are a complete alien to me. The things that you come out with are absolutely baffling. I think you need to really put your life in perspective and get your thoughts organised, confront your outlook and start beating it little by little, thought by thought. In order to do this the first step is realising that you need not be so defeatist and negative about everything you think about. There is a hope or positive in everything, you just aren't looking hard enough. Find the end of your tunnel, stay out of the way of the train.