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feel absolutely overwhelmed speaking to girls

So I'm a 17yo male heading into yr13 this september and how nervous i get speaking to girls is really really annoying me now.

I've been asked out before but have literally refused to go on the date(2 years ago now) but since then it has only got like 50% better. I'm thinking its p*rn so I'm stopping it but I've gone a month or two without it but still start to drip with sweat speaking to them.

It's like I dont feel worthy? in a sense. I'm a confident guy with the lads but when it comes to women shesh... Is there anything I can do to help this?
Reply 1
I'm thinking its p*rn so I'm stopping it but I've gone a month or two without it but still start to drip with sweat speaking to girls*.
Reply 2
Original post by Anonymous
I'm thinking its p*rn so I'm stopping it but I've gone a month or two without it but still start to drip with sweat speaking to girls*.


why do you think it's p*rn?
Reply 3
Original post by heart2you
why do you think it's p*rn?


Im thinking its affecting my confidence/low esteem and so its making me feel unworthy. possibly oversexualising too?
Reply 4
Original post by Anonymous
So I'm a 17yo male heading into yr13 this september and how nervous i get speaking to girls is really really annoying me now.

I've been asked out before but have literally refused to go on the date(2 years ago now) but since then it has only got like 50% better. I'm thinking its p*rn so I'm stopping it but I've gone a month or two without it but still start to drip with sweat speaking to them.

It's like I dont feel worthy? in a sense. I'm a confident guy with the lads but when it comes to women shesh... Is there anything I can do to help this?
it’s most likely the porn watching and getting it to you whether if you’ve stopped. porn is actually addictive, you get a dopamine rush from watching it and triggers all these nice chemicals in ur body and u can get addicted to the rush. it’s similar to how u can get addicted to sex (just a lil explanation as to why loool)

fast forward short, focus on yourself and just be a gentlemen. girls usually like it when you take control and let the conversation flow the second you approach them/if they do. don’t worry too much of it, as a girl myself i’ve been in the same situation with guys but overcame it later on
Reply 5
Are you like this speaking to ugly girls or old women? Or is it just girls that you like....?
Original post by Anonymous
So I'm a 17yo male heading into yr13 this september and how nervous i get speaking to girls is really really annoying me now.

I've been asked out before but have literally refused to go on the date(2 years ago now) but since then it has only got like 50% better. I'm thinking its p*rn so I'm stopping it but I've gone a month or two without it but still start to drip with sweat speaking to them.

It's like I dont feel worthy? in a sense. I'm a confident guy with the lads but when it comes to women shesh... Is there anything I can do to help this?


well first of all you shouldn't be watching that stuff! sorry i am a girl myself i just had to say something! obviously, i can't generalise for all girls but i guess sometimes we like a confident guy?! i dunno. what thoughts do yu have when you are round girls?
Reply 7
Be calm, polite, be natural, by yourself

Talk with no intentions

You have to feel good in yourself, maybe work out, wear nice clothes

Project your voice

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