Before I start this post, I just want to say that I know the typical advice for this type of situation is either "just push yourself to socialise"/"just make friends" or to see some type of therapist/counsellor/welfare officer. PLEASE DO NOT COMMENT THAT ADVICE, there is nothing a professional could say to me and I have tried to "just make friends" so many times and faced countless humiliations because I have a vibe that other people instantly pick up on which makes them not want to be around me.
I'm a 20 year old female uni student and I have never had a friend or a relationship in my life. Don't get me wrong, I know I have a privileged life compared to most people and don't really have any right to complain but this post is just to vent/ask for advice.
I've never had a friend or relationship in my life and that is not an exaggeration. I have always been quite a quiet person but even when I really push myself to socialise and am the most talkative one in the room, people pick up on a strange vibe I have that tells them they don't want to be around me. My family don't believe me when I tell them that and say it's just because I'm being quiet but I genuinely am not, I could go up to every person in the room and start a conversation with them, ask questions, listen and carry on the conversation and without fail 100% of the time they would end up making mocking faces at their friends across the room and just letting the conversation die off until I get sick of constantly propping it up and just let it end. I just have something missing but I don't know what it is, like I'm not quite a full person and I'm something lesser, which other people instantly pick up on without me knowing why.
I've come to the conclusion that I'm just not made to be close to other people and that that's okay because there are other things for me. I am academically gifted and I can have a good career. I thought I had pretty much accepted this but since coming to uni and living away from family for the first time I'm sometimes a bit struck by just how alone I am and the fact that this will always be my life. It also hurts to see how happy other people my age are and to be reminded that I'm missing out on what should be the best years of my life. Other people are out living their lives while I'm in my room every night getting drunk enough to forget how lonely I am. I know there are other things for me but I can't stop feeling like if I don't have other people in my life then no matter how good my studies/career is and no matter how many hobbies I have, I will always just be a loser because I'm alone.
So my question really is, can I live a full life if I'm alone or will I always just be a loser? and how can I better accept my situation and feel more positive about the fact I will never really have human connection?
(again, please don't comment any variation of "just make friends" or "talk to a professional)