hi im failing sixth form and I want to do medicine
plz do give any tips you think would help. I think I should seek professional help as my mental health is deteriorating but its hard to talk about it to anyone.
Original post by Anonymous
plz do give any tips you think would help. I think I should seek professional help as my mental health is deteriorating but its hard to talk about it to anyone.
Are you looking for help as how you might improve your grades, or your mental health?
If the former, then (1) what subjects are you studying, (2) what grades are you aiming for, and (3) what grades are you currently achieving?
If the latter, then you've taken the first step already by recognising that you "should seek professional help". Does your school / college have a counsellor or pastoral care team you could contact?
both, I thought I would be alright with time but it’s affecting my school life too. I take A level Biology, chemistry and psychology and my predicted grades are BDD. I know I am much more capable than these grades but I’m struggling with myself especially after I moved to the uk 3 months ago. I don’t know what i should do
Original post by Anonymous
both, I thought I would be alright with time but it’s affecting my school life too. I take A level Biology, chemistry and psychology and my predicted grades are BDD. I know I am much more capable than these grades but I’m struggling with myself especially after I moved to the uk 3 months ago. I don’t know what i should do
You say you moved to the UK months ago. What year are you in? Is there any issue with language? Have you sought help from your school at all?
Original post by DataVenia
You say you moved to the UK months ago. What year are you in? Is there any issue with language? Have you sought help from your school at all?
You say you moved to the UK months ago. What year are you in? Is there any issue with language? Have you sought help from your school at all?
I moved to uk last September and joined in year 12 for college. The language is
Alright but school isn’t really great plus it takes time to make friends and socialize in a new environment . What’s really stressing me out is my grades as I was a fairly above average student in my previous school and was even a school topper for my last board exam but after I came here I feel like no matter how much effort I put in, I can’t get past these low grades
Original post by Anonymous
I moved to uk last September and joined in year 12 for college. The language is
Alright but school isn’t really great plus it takes time to make friends and socialize in a new environment . What’s really stressing me out is my grades as I was a fairly above average student in my previous school and was even a school topper for my last board exam but after I came here I feel like no matter how much effort I put in, I can’t get past these low grades
Alright but school isn’t really great plus it takes time to make friends and socialize in a new environment . What’s really stressing me out is my grades as I was a fairly above average student in my previous school and was even a school topper for my last board exam but after I came here I feel like no matter how much effort I put in, I can’t get past these low grades
OK. Here are some random theories. See if any seem plausible.
1. You've switched schools half-day through your A level studies, which is never wise and is bound to be unsettling.
2. The difficulty with friends / socialising is having an impact on your studies.
3. The average student in your new school is "smarter" than the average student in your old school, so you've gone from being above average to being below average simply by virtue of the students you're comparing yourself against having changed.
4. Your old school were quite generous with grades, as they felt that students believing they were doing well would encourage those students to perform even better.
5. The new school are quite harsh with grades, as they felt that students believing they were doing poorly would encourage those students to put in more effort.
6. You've switched exam boards (when switching schools), so the way you need to answer certain types of questions has changed, and even some of the specification itself has changed.
Do any of those ring true?
You don't mention whether you've sought help from your new school at all. Do they have a counsellor, or a pastoral care team you would talk with?
Original post by DataVenia
OK. Here are some random theories. See if any seem plausible.
1. You've switched schools half-day through your A level studies, which is never wise and is bound to be unsettling.
2. The difficulty with friends / socialising is having an impact on your studies.
3. The average student in your new school is "smarter" than the average student in your old school, so you've gone from being above average to being below average simply by virtue of the students you're comparing yourself against having changed.
4. Your old school were quite generous with grades, as they felt that students believing they were doing well would encourage those students to perform even better.
5. The new school are quite harsh with grades, as they felt that students believing they were doing poorly would encourage those students to put in more effort.
6. You've switched exam boards (when switching schools), so the way you need to answer certain types of questions has changed, and even some of the specification itself has changed.
Do any of those ring true?
You don't mention whether you've sought help from your new school at all. Do they have a counsellor, or a pastoral care team you would talk with?
1. You've switched schools half-day through your A level studies, which is never wise and is bound to be unsettling.
2. The difficulty with friends / socialising is having an impact on your studies.
3. The average student in your new school is "smarter" than the average student in your old school, so you've gone from being above average to being below average simply by virtue of the students you're comparing yourself against having changed.
4. Your old school were quite generous with grades, as they felt that students believing they were doing well would encourage those students to perform even better.
5. The new school are quite harsh with grades, as they felt that students believing they were doing poorly would encourage those students to put in more effort.
6. You've switched exam boards (when switching schools), so the way you need to answer certain types of questions has changed, and even some of the specification itself has changed.
Do any of those ring true?
You don't mention whether you've sought help from your new school at all. Do they have a counsellor, or a pastoral care team you would talk with?
omg almost all of these you've said are true in my case. I was in dubai before I moved here( so basically until last year). So not only have I changed my exam board but I dont even have the kind of base the students in my class have from doing their GCSEs. plus chemistry and biology are super hard even for them even though they have studied something related to the topics we cover in class rn. My teachers gave me a gcse aqa textbook for science to refer to if I get lost in some classes.
number 2, 3, 5, 6 from your points pretty much sums up what I'm going through currently. But I feel like I would have been doing better if I atleast had friends at this school.Everything's been stressing me out.
Also about your last question , I did talk about my situation (excluding the socializing and friends part) to my headteacher and how I needed time to adjust to this new board and environment. I think he kind of understood me for most part but that was in september. I did improve my grades to a B in almost all my classes after that talk with my headteacher. But after that I went into a depressive episode for a long time mainly because I was stuck at home most of the time other than when I went to school or church. I was a super socializing person in my old school and even before I came to the uk. I dont have any friends here I spend time with after school. Also the mental health part from before, I feel like I should sort that out by talking to someone professional but that requires so much hassle too. I think my school does have a counselor, but I dont really trust school ppl ( mainly because I have read so many stories of students getting in trouble and all after talking to their school counselors.) EVEN THE CLIMATE HERE IS DEPRESSING( i would do anything to spend a day in some sunlight).
Original post by Anonymous
omg almost all of these you've said are true in my case. I was in dubai before I moved here( so basically until last year). So not only have I changed my exam board but I dont even have the kind of base the students in my class have from doing their GCSEs. plus chemistry and biology are super hard even for them even though they have studied something related to the topics we cover in class rn. My teachers gave me a gcse aqa textbook for science to refer to if I get lost in some classes.
number 2, 3, 5, 6 from your points pretty much sums up what I'm going through currently. But I feel like I would have been doing better if I atleast had friends at this school.Everything's been stressing me out.
Also about your last question , I did talk about my situation (excluding the socializing and friends part) to my headteacher and how I needed time to adjust to this new board and environment. I think he kind of understood me for most part but that was in september. I did improve my grades to a B in almost all my classes after that talk with my headteacher. But after that I went into a depressive episode for a long time mainly because I was stuck at home most of the time other than when I went to school or church. I was a super socializing person in my old school and even before I came to the uk. I dont have any friends here I spend time with after school. Also the mental health part from before, I feel like I should sort that out by talking to someone professional but that requires so much hassle too. I think my school does have a counselor, but I dont really trust school ppl ( mainly because I have read so many stories of students getting in trouble and all after talking to their school counselors.) EVEN THE CLIMATE HERE IS DEPRESSING( i would do anything to spend a day in some sunlight).
number 2, 3, 5, 6 from your points pretty much sums up what I'm going through currently. But I feel like I would have been doing better if I atleast had friends at this school.Everything's been stressing me out.
Also about your last question , I did talk about my situation (excluding the socializing and friends part) to my headteacher and how I needed time to adjust to this new board and environment. I think he kind of understood me for most part but that was in september. I did improve my grades to a B in almost all my classes after that talk with my headteacher. But after that I went into a depressive episode for a long time mainly because I was stuck at home most of the time other than when I went to school or church. I was a super socializing person in my old school and even before I came to the uk. I dont have any friends here I spend time with after school. Also the mental health part from before, I feel like I should sort that out by talking to someone professional but that requires so much hassle too. I think my school does have a counselor, but I dont really trust school ppl ( mainly because I have read so many stories of students getting in trouble and all after talking to their school counselors.) EVEN THE CLIMATE HERE IS DEPRESSING( i would do anything to spend a day in some sunlight).
It seems like you are going through a really tough time rn and Ik how important having a support network of friends is for mental health and well-being. Maybe you should speak to a teacher again and let them know that things haven’t gotten better. They should have support services to help you. Don’t think you have to speak to the headteacher, just whoever you are most comfortable with, I would say you form tutor as they are usually your first point of contact.
Original post by bimbibap
It seems like you are going through a really tough time rn and Ik how important having a support network of friends is for mental health and well-being. Maybe you should speak to a teacher again and let them know that things haven’t gotten better. They should have support services to help you. Don’t think you have to speak to the headteacher, just whoever you are most comfortable with, I would say you form tutor as they are usually your first point of contact.
The thng is I REALLY cant thin of anyone from my school I could bring this upto who will be able to understand me and not give the most obvious answers. you said the tutor is usually my first point of contact, but my tutor is quite old man and he hasnt ever really come off as a person who would take these kind of student matters seriously, so hes out of the question. After that are my subject teachers or headteacher, Again I cant think of any of my subject teahers who would genuinely hear me out. I think my headteacher or counselor are the only ppl left from school. i dont know who our school counselor is but I can find that out, but do you know how these kind of matters are dealt with by the counselor, like do they talk about this with other teachers who teach me or is there a confidentiality thing?(except for situaions where a student migt be in harm ofc)
Why you do think none of your subject teachers would hear you out? I’m sure they’d be happy that you felt comfortable enough to tell them and would want to help you. Btw, they can’t tell anyone what you say confidentially without your permission unless there is possible harm to yourself or others. They might ask if they can notify someone else on your behalf to provide further support but that’s ultimately your decision. If you don’t feel comfortable going to your subject teachers or form tutor, you can bypass that by finding out who your school counsellor is.
Original post by bimbibap
Why you do think none of your subject teachers would hear you out? I’m sure they’d be happy that you felt comfortable enough to tell them and would want to help you. Btw, they can’t tell anyone what you say confidentially without your permission unless there is possible harm to yourself or others. They might ask if they can notify someone else on your behalf to provide further support but that’s ultimately your decision. If you don’t feel comfortable going to your subject teachers or form tutor, you can bypass that by finding out who your school counsellor is.
I will try speaking to the school counselor after school starts (basically tomorrow or maybe after our mocks finish on the 8th) an I'll update on this thread how it went. hope you'll be there to reply, thanks for your support @bimbibap and @DataVenia
Original post by bimbibap
Also, in terms of friendships groups, how if that for you, I understand changing schools can be very hard as people have already established friend groups and it can be hard to mix with students, how are you finding it?
its difficult, esp at school. the first two months I would try taking the upper hand of convos in the friend groups but I am tired now. I am also a person with a higher need for socialization and friends so i think i might be getting too affected than an avergae person by y circumstances. I think I will just have to accept they have already established friend groups and move on and try to make most of my time here by doing well in my academics.
Original post by Anonymous
its difficult, esp at school. the first two months I would try taking the upper hand of convos in the friend groups but I am tired now. I am also a person with a higher need for socialization and friends so i think i might be getting too affected than an avergae person by y circumstances. I think I will just have to accept they have already established friend groups and move on and try to make most of my time here by doing well in my academics.
I can imagine. I think people don’t really realise how important socialisation is, the ones who have it might take it for granted and it’s the ones who don’t who realise how important it is. Humans need humans so the way you are feeling is completely normal. I hope you are still in contact with your friends from your old school and that they can provide some support. And maybe build some new connections on the way, take it slow though, relationships are as burdensome as they are a blessing, they are fickle - hard to build up and easily broken. So don’t be hard on yourself for not having everything perfect, I understand with the age we are in friendships have kind of become like relationships - you look around it’s like everyone else has a perfect set of friends, a happy life etc, but you aren’t the only one struggling with this i promise.
Original post by Anonymous
I will try speaking to the school counselor after school starts (basically tomorrow or maybe after our mocks finish on the 8th) an I'll update on this thread how it went. hope you'll be there to reply, thanks for your support @bimbibap and @DataVenia
That’s great! It takes a lot to take that first step and yes ofc Ill be looking forward to finding out how it went. Good luck with your mocks! I have exams (I’m in uni) too next week so hopefully there’s enough luck to go around.
