To me, I've felt a lot of pressure to have one rather than just go with the flow. Generally I just hate how contrived the whole concept is, and how self-conscious,
why can't we all jus be more liberated sexually and less rigidly monogomous and tied to this concept which, though seen as conventional, is actually quite formal, contrived and surprisingly unnatural socially. I know I've always been more confident with women when I could just relax and see them as a person, and there wasn't this silly, unrealistic pressure on 'a meningful relationship' making everything all self-conscious. It's bizzare how men and women never seem to really talk on a natural basis or be nvolved with one another, some women think any such man who is a freind is after something). It just goes to show how deluded we are, and how repressed we all still are, certainly in this country, I see a load of people who want it really but can't get it because of this aforementioned pressure, and have to act all cool like they don't want it, but peoples reactions to even casual interactions show that actually they are repressed, and want it more.
Isn't it ridiculous? I think we all have a long way to go to social and sexual enlightment, maybe the French are closer to it.